5 Dating Myths We Tell Ourselves

We all have little voices in our heads from time to time, telling us what we're doing wrong or if we should be doing one thing instead of another. Many times, this little voice prevents us from taking chances. And the voice only gets louder when we date.

The problem is, life is about taking risks, and that's especially true when it comes to relationships. You're trusting your emotions with someone else, which requires vulnerability - that's no small thing.

But the little voice in your head may want to talk you out of feeling hopeful, or thinking that you'll meet the right person. Maybe it tells you that you'll never find a lasting relationship, or that online dating is pointless because you haven't yet met someone special. Does this mean that the voice is right?

Hardly. But we have to learn when to pay attention and when to shut it off. Most of the time, these negative thoughts aren't true - and they can steer you in the wrong direction. Too much negative thinking can impact your relationships and life in general.

Following are some dating myths you might tell yourself, and why you shouldn't:

Myth #1 - There are no good men/women out there. More than 50% of U.S. adults are single, so there are plenty of good men and women out there. Of course the majority aren't going to click with you on an intimate level, but does that mean you should discount everyone? Of course not! Keep an open mind and sense of adventure.

Myth #2 - It's too late - I'll never find anyone. Again, not true. People of all ages find real love. It requires patience, vulnerability, and being willing to take risks - no matter where you are in life.

Myth #3 - I'm a failure at relationships. Just because you've had a few unsuccessful dates or boyfriends doesn't mean you're a failure. It's a challenging process to not only find someone special, but prepare yourself to partner with someone else. So give yourself a break - every relationship gives you better perspective for the future.

Myth #4 - I'm not successful/pretty/thin enough to find someone. Everyone has different tastes, so don't assume you know what someone else's are before you've even met. Also, don't judge yourself by only one aspect you might see as a shortfall. You are a whole package, so make a list of all of your good qualities if you have to!

Myth #5 - If I keep dating, it's more of the same. Again, this is negative thinking. Instead of getting stuck with this voice in your head, expand your dating opportunities. Accept invitation to parties where you don't know many people, strike up a conversation with a stranger at a coffee shop, take more risks. Then it won't be the same old, same old.