Subject: WHO PAYS FOR DATES?

Posted on: 2006/11/20 04:39pm
By: Anonymous

In this day and age ... when you're dealing with people over 50 ... and assuming both parties have jobs and/or sufficient financial resources ... who should pay for dates? Some of my dates sit back and let me pay for everything (which I do) and some of my dates immediately offer to split the bill (which I appreciate). How does everyone handle this?

WHO PAYS FOR DATES?

Posted on: 2006/11/20 08:01pm
By: Anonymous

Being a guy in his thirties I find I tend to pay for everything on most dates. Some woman do offer but I usually say don't worry about unless they press the issue. I find if they press the issue it is a sign of the date not going well LOL I usually don't have another date with those people.

Re: WHO PAYS FOR DATES?

Posted on: 2007/03/02 09:53am
By: Anonymous

I'm 50 and find that the men I go out with assume they are going to pay for the check. I'm always prepared to pay my half or the whole check though and most of the time, offer to do so. When the check is brought, I usually bring out my wallet and if not told to put it away, will lay a bill that is at least half on the check. Smile

However, as I said, I rarely have paid on a date. In fact, one time, after having watched an episode of Dr. Phil and deciding I needed to assert myself in making a statement, that I was not looking for a free ride but would be a partner in the arrangement, I insisted on paying the bill, which was less than $20. The man I was with was very upset, it was a first date, and there was not a second. Neutral

Re: WHO PAYS FOR DATES?

Posted on: 2007/03/03 02:04pm
By: Anonymous

Last summer I went out with a woman (39) that lived about 50 miles from me. I always drove up to get her and she never offered to pay for anything. I addressed this on the third date and stated that if I'm the one driving to see you then you should at least offer to pay half,(or even cook a dinner) if you come down to see me then I have absolutely no problem paying for everything. She worked in a hospital and made pretty good money. She said she was old-fashioned and believed that the man should pay for everything. The last time I saw her I drove up to her house, we got a couple of videos (which I bought) and asked her to go half on a pizza $6. That was the last time we went out. She emailed me and said "She didn't feel special if she had to pay for anything" How about the 100 mile round trip I took just to see her? That doesn't make her feel special? We did go to a few expensive restaurants before that in which I paid for everything. I guess gold-diggers come in all shapes and sizes....

Re: WHO PAYS FOR DATES?

Posted on: 2007/08/24 10:30am
By: Anonymous

Guys,if you that cheap(sorry),why you date a women? Don't do it and save your moneySmile Or if you like to have a women by you -be ready for expences...Men is always should be a GENTELMEN .

to 'lady'

Posted on: 2007/11/23 03:43pm
By: Anonymous

Sounds like you want a man to pay for all your fun in life. How about him paying for your food even when he is not there or pay your rent?

You are the type that makes a man not want to date but save theri money and take a sex holiday to Thailand. And that DOES happen.

So come off your high horse. What makes YOU so special. Do you *censored* like a snake as the saying goes?b

Re: WHO PAYS FOR DATES?

Posted on: 2007/12/06 09:00pm
By: Anonymous

In my opinion, the person who does the inviting should pay.

Re: WHO PAYS FOR DATES?

Posted on: 2007/12/07 12:50pm
By: Anonymous

I am a 25 yr old female and usually when i go on a date I pay my own share of things. To be honest this is something I am quite sick of. I think for the first few dates (2-4 dates) the man should pay. I am not that brave when it comes to initiating a first date, so when I am on a date I am the "invited" not the "invitee" and in this situation I think proper date protocol is the gentleman is responsible for things. Rolling Eyes Cool

Re: WHO PAYS FOR DATES?

Posted on: 2007/12/25 10:23pm
By: Anonymous

I'm not sure what has happened to males of this generation. Here is something to think of : Chivalry is not dead. Dutch is for losers and the unemployed. If you fall into one of these two categories you are not disqualified but you should be honest and admit it. If you are not employed due to no fault of your own you will eventually land a position. If you highest ambition in life is to be a house husband admit it and be prouf of it. The date iniator pays for the date. That means if you are a woman and you invite a man out you pay. If you are a man and you invite a woman out you pay. That said in 34 years on this earth I have never asked a guy on a date. I truly believe in the mantra of the book of He's just not that into you. Trust me from experience if he truly is interested in you as a life partner he will not let you pay for a date. If he lets you pay for a date he likes you but not like he likes you as his forever partner/forever spouse/wife. If he lets you pay he likes you like a friend or like better than nothing. Just My Honest Opinion Mr. Green

No wonder I have given up dating

Posted on: 2008/04/17 05:20pm
By: Anonymous

There sure are a LOT, repeat LOT of women that are golddiggers. WHY should a man pay for everything so you can spend you money on yourself?

Get real. With high gas prices, people losing himes, etc, dating is now a treat.

Re: WHO PAYS FOR DATES?

Posted on: 2008/07/09 02:39pm
By: Anonymous

Ususally if the male pays for the date I would see that as being more of a date. If the cost of the date is shared that is more of 2 friends just spending some time together.

Re: WHO PAYS FOR DATES?

Posted on: 2008/08/02 12:12am
By: Anonymous

I think that a man should pay for most dates, but not all, If a woman wants to be treated as a true equal and not an object than I think she needs to contribute on some level maybe 1 out of five dates or maybe cook a nice dinner once in a while. In my younger years I did the I will wine and dine you thing and to many women were looking for a free night on the town. Today women want to be respected as equals however they pick and choose where that line is drawn.
I have no problem picking up the check in most cases but if a women is not willing to step up and pick up a check once in a while then she will be gone as this is just an advanced warning of what a long term relationship will be like,

Re: WHO PAYS FOR DATES?

Posted on: 2008/08/04 05:10am
By: Anonymous

assuming both guy and girl have work? hmm they have to talk about that. What if they both already knows about their work then they can talk about the venues and expense of their dates both them are willing to pay for their dates. But mostly the guy seeking a date for women, the guy is the one to pay for their dates (If rich).

Re: WHO PAYS FOR DATES?

Posted on: 2008/08/28 01:47pm
By: Anonymous

I just love women who say those who ask should pay then admit they have NEVER asked.pathetic gold diggers.Oh well,one more person to avoid.Considering the high cost of living these days men should go on strike for awhile and make women find out how much entertainment costs today.

Re: WHO PAYS FOR DATES?

Posted on: 2008/09/09 09:05pm
By: Anonymous

i have the opposite opinion. the bill should be split in the first few dates because neither party knows what the "return on investment
" wil be. why should i pay just because this person accepted my offer of going on a date? that's pretty high risk if you ask me! what happens if things get off on the wrong foot...am i supposed to pay for crappy conversation and to watch the person shovel food in their face and partake in some activity on my dime? hell no! A sign of maturity and proof that someone will put effort into a relationship is if they split it 50-50.

there is a 1/20 of a chance that women ask men out. th reason is that many men are asking them out so they don't need to, or they are too shy to do it themselves. That leaves us guys with the burden of paying and dealing with empty pockets!

once the couple is dating awhile, one or the other will pay for the bill. hopefully that works out fairly as well......

Re: WHO PAYS FOR DATES?

Posted on: 2008/09/13 06:21pm
By: Anonymous

Quote by: We did go to a few expensive restaurants before that in which I paid for everything. I guess gold-diggers come in all shapes and sizes....


I can't believe that you asked a lady to pay>> O my God, where all men go?

Re: WHO PAYS FOR DATES?

Posted on: 2008/09/20 04:20pm
By: Anonymous

Quote by: TinaRochesterNY

I'm not sure what has happened to males of this generation. Here is something to think of : Chivalry is not dead. Dutch is for losers and the unemployed. If you fall into one of these two categories you are not disqualified but you should be honest and admit it. If you are not employed due to no fault of your own you will eventually land a position. If you highest ambition in life is to be a house husband admit it and be prouf of it.
The date iniator pays for the date. That means if you are a woman and you invite a man out you pay. If you are a man and you invite a woman out you pay.
That said in 34 years on this earth I have never asked a guy on a date. I truly believe in the mantra of the book of He's just not that into you. Trust me from experience if he truly is interested in you as a life partner he will not let you pay for a date. If he lets you pay for a date he likes you but not like he likes you as his forever partner/forever spouse/wife. If he lets you pay he likes you like a friend or like better than nothing.
Just My Honest Opinion Mr. Green

Cool

Re: WHO PAYS FOR DATES?

Posted on: 2008/09/20 04:27pm
By: Anonymous

Quote by: Mike in Cincy

Last summer I went out with a woman (39) that lived about 50 miles from me. I always drove up to get her and she never offered to pay for anything. I addressed this on the third date and stated that if I'm the one driving to see you then you should at least offer to pay half,(or even cook a dinner) if you come down to see me then I have absolutely no problem paying for everything. She worked in a hospital and made pretty good money. She said she was old-fashioned and believed that the man should pay for everything. The last time I saw her I drove up to her house, we got a couple of videos (which I bought) and asked her to go half on a pizza $6. That was the last time we went out. She emailed me and said "She didn't feel special if she had to pay for anything" How about the 100 mile round trip I took just to see her? That doesn't make her feel special? We did go to a few expensive restaurants before that in which I paid for everything. I guess gold-diggers come in all shapes and sizes....


Re: WHO PAYS FOR DATES?

Posted on: 2010/03/02 10:38pm
By: Anonymous

IMO in the 21st Century there should not be the automatic expectation that the guy always pays. "Chivalry" is something based on archaic gender roles that most modern men and women want to move beyond (its roots are in the middle ages), and yes, it deserves to be "dead" as far as early stage dating goes. Dead dead dead. - There - I said it.

On the other hand, I think there is something to be said for the idea that if you split dinner instead of someone treating, it feels more like hanging out with a friend than being on a date. If I am on a first date with someone I like and I am confident she likes me too (and wants to see me again), I'll sometimes offer to pick up dinner, and let her know she is free to pick up dinner next time. That's my way of saying; "I like you and want to see you again but I'm looking for a relationship of equals". I'm establishing a pattern where we take turns treating each other.

If I like her but am less sure that she's interested, I'll generally not suggest I pay - especially if she goes straight for her own wallet. Women have jobs, they want sexual equality, there's just no reason for them to look to men for their financial security. If she has a problem paying for her share she isn't right for me anyway, if we end up on a few more dates I'll suggest we start taking turns treating each other.

Having said that, if I'm dating someone who is a student, is unemployed or whom I suspect makes much less money than me (and I'm not exactly rolling in it myself) I'll pay most of the time - not because I'm the guy, but just because I have more disposable income.

Now, I probably don't get as many second dates as I might if I did the whole gentleman spiel, but the women who want to see me again are the kinds of people who aren't going to expect me to pay for everything for them.

I'm happy to turn off my cell phone, be good company, and generally do what I can to make sure my date has fun. I'll call back when I say I will, I'll be respectful, and if we get to the point where we are physically intimate, I'll do my best to make sure she has at least as much fun as I do. I'll certainly be happy to cook for her.

But I feel strongly that this business of guys being expect to pay for everything for the first few months is really something we have to move past now.

Re: WHO PAYS FOR DATES?

Posted on: 2010/04/14 01:03pm
By: darkangel8

Anyone here who pays? Ah I don't think its healthy for a future relationships if you pay for your day or else you wanted it for fun,,

Re: WHO PAYS FOR DATES?

Posted on: 2010/05/13 06:21pm
By: Anonymous

Quote by: bill

I just love women who say those who ask should pay then admit they have NEVER asked.pathetic gold diggers.Oh well,one more person to avoid.Considering the high cost of living these days men should go on strike for awhile and make women find out how much entertainment costs today.



I cpu;d NOPT agree more-bill. You are a true man and not one of those fem-men who say anything to get laid

Re: WHO PAYS FOR DATES?

Posted on: 2010/05/13 06:25pm
By: Anonymous

Quote by: lady

Guys,if you that cheap(sorry),why you date a women? Don't do it and save your moneySmile Or if you like to have a women by you -be ready for expences...Men is always should be a GENTELMEN .



By your user name you are NOT a LADY

you are the typical female golddigger.

When you find yourself alone as you get older , remember you might have met a nice guy if you had not been so _____ (fill in the blank)

If I pay for more than coffee, i expect sex.

Re: WHO PAYS FOR DATES?

Posted on: 2010/05/22 05:21am
By: Anonymous

Isn't it funny how women always have this "old fashioned" mentality when it comes to a man spending money on them but everything else is equal rights or the man is branded as being sexist, which shows women on dating sites are ridiculous gold diggers that play the "old fashioned" card to get away with paying their way.

Two words - princess syndrome.

Re: WHO PAYS FOR DATES?

Posted on: 2011/01/06 11:50am
By: Anonymous

Obvously boys ... lol

Re: WHO PAYS FOR DATES?

Posted on: 2011/01/08 02:46am
By: Anonymous

The idea of the man paying comes from the days when women didn't work and it was the man that was the earner. Obviously the man paid because the woman didn't have money. These days with women working, they have the money to pay for their half of the dinner.

Re: WHO PAYS FOR DATES?

Posted on: 2011/01/15 07:41am
By: Anonymous

Unlike a previous poster, I do not believe that chivalry is dead. I still hold the car door for the lady, I walk on the left side and I pay for dinner. If something as small as the check is going to be an issue what will happen later when there are mortgage payments, doctor bills and that sort of thing?

Re: WHO PAYS FOR DATES?

Posted on: 2019/08/26 06:32pm
By: Anonymous

Quote by: Anonymous

Being a guy in his thirties I find I tend to pay for everything on most dates. Some woman do offer but I usually say don't worry about unless they press the issue.

I find if they press the issue it is a sign of the date not going well LOL

I usually don't have another date with those people.



Well you're a sucker.

Re: WHO PAYS FOR DATES?

Posted on: 2019/08/26 06:34pm
By: Anonymous

Quote by: Anonymous

Guys,if you that cheap(sorry),why you date a women? Don't do it and save your moneySmile Or if you like to have a women by you -be ready for expences...Men is always should be a GENTELMEN .



Gold diggers like you are best avoided.

Re: WHO PAYS FOR DATES?

Posted on: 2019/08/26 06:36pm
By: Anonymous

Quote by: Anonymous

I'm not sure what has happened to males of this generation. Here is something to think of : Chivalry is not dead. Dutch is for losers and the unemployed. If you fall into one of these two categories you are not disqualified but you should be honest and admit it. If you are not employed due to no fault of your own you will eventually land a position. If you highest ambition in life is to be a house husband admit it and be prouf of it.
The date iniator pays for the date. That means if you are a woman and you invite a man out you pay. If you are a man and you invite a woman out you pay.
That said in 34 years on this earth I have never asked a guy on a date. I truly believe in the mantra of the book of He's just not that into you. Trust me from experience if he truly is interested in you as a life partner he will not let you pay for a date. If he lets you pay for a date he likes you but not like he likes you as his forever partner/forever spouse/wife. If he lets you pay he likes you like a friend or like better than nothing.
Just My Honest Opinion Mr. Green



You are just dripping with entitlement. If Dutch is for losers than why can't you pay? Chivalry is not compatible with equality. I'd avoid gold diggers like you like the plague.

Re: WHO PAYS FOR DATES?

Posted on: 2019/08/26 06:41pm
By: Anonymous

Quote by: Anonymous

Unlike a previous poster, I do not believe that chivalry is dead. I still hold the car door for the lady, I walk on the left side and I pay for dinner. If something as small as the check is going to be an issue what will happen later when there are mortgage payments, doctor bills and that sort of thing?



Are you really comparing a date with a woman you hardly know with necessary expenses?

Re: WHO PAYS FOR DATES?

Posted on: 2019/08/26 06:54pm
By: Anonymous

Quote by: Anonymous

Quote by: Anonymous

Guys,if you that cheap(sorry),why you date a women? Don't do it and save your moneySmile Or if you like to have a women by you -be ready for expences...Men is always should be a GENTELMEN .



Gold diggers like you are best avoided.



Ah so when a guy will only pay half the bill he's cheap, but you're not cheap despite not wanting to contribute ANYTHING? Hilarious.

Re: WHO PAYS FOR DATES?

Posted on: 2019/09/22 09:37pm
By: BlondeAngeL

Quote by: Anonymous

I'm not sure what has happened to males of this generation. Here is something to think of : Chivalry is not dead. Dutch is for losers and the unemployed. If you fall into one of these two categories you are not disqualified but you should be honest and admit it. If you are not employed due to no fault of your own you will eventually land a position. If you highest ambition in life is to be a house husband admit it and be prouf of it.
The date iniator pays for the date. That means if you are a woman and you invite a man out you pay. If you are a man and you invite a woman out you pay.
That said in 34 years on this earth I have never asked a guy on a date. I truly believe in the mantra of the book of He's just not that into you. Trust me from experience if he truly is interested in you as a life partner he will not let you pay for a date. If he lets you pay for a date he likes you but not like he likes you as his forever partner/forever spouse/wife. If he lets you pay he likes you like a friend or like better than nothing.
Just My Honest Opinion Mr. Green



She is correct.

Otherwise, a man can go to the dollar store & buy himself a banquet dinner & a tube of lube for self pleasuring.

Total cost= $2 & guaranteed happy ending!

If your more well off, consider the price of a round trip ticket to Parumph, Nevada, the only place in the USA where prostitution is legal...now tack on the cost of entrance to The Bunny Ranch or The Chicken Ranch. I imagine a short party w/ simple, basic no frills sex would be about 1K at least- now tack on the travel & lodging expenses...so maybe dropping a c-note weekly on dates until one gets a LTR w/ sex going doesn't seem so costly.

https://youtu.be/vEyB0SRxVrg

Re: WHO PAYS FOR DATES?

Posted on: 2019/11/08 07:57pm
By: BlondeAngeL

Where are all the replies?

Have y'all run off to Parumph, NV?

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