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Reddit Users Reveal Their Biggest Online Dating Turn Offs

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 Popular Online Dating Turn Offs

When you have a question and access to the internet, Reddit is the place to get it answered. A user of the popular site recently posed this question to members of the community who use dating sites: ‘What information about a person makes you leave/ignore their profile immediately?’

As of this writing, the post has garnered nearly 3000 comments from singles eager to share their two cents. The advice covers spelling errors, emoji use, selfies, profile cliches, and more. Read on for a selection of Reddit’s top tips for online daters.

7 Signs Online Dating Is Definitely Not For You

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Scared of Online Dating

Your friend is engaged to marry someone they met online. You catch coworkers secretly sending messages at the office. You see strangers swiping through profiles on public transportation. Your aunt is getting back into the dating game after a divorce by joining Match.com.

Online dating is officially everywhere, while it still has occasional detractors, most people seem to have accepted it as the best way to date in the 21st century. But is it the only way?

Some people have struggled to adapt to the new system, and the constant talk of “Tinder this” and “Bumble that” can make them feel totally disconnected from modern romance. The truth is, online dating isn’t right for everyone. If any of the following descriptions fit, you may be better off finding love the old fashioned way.

The Best Body Language For Online Dating, Backed By Science

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Body language and online dating

Picture two online dating profiles. In one, your prospective date is hunched over with contracted shoulders and crossed arms. In the other, their spine is straight and they’re holding their arms up in a “V” shape.

Assuming you’re basing your choice only on the picture (because, well, like it or not, that’s often how it works), which date are you more likely to pick? Science can predict not only your answer, but why you're inclined to choose it.

Amy Cuddy, a social psychologist, author, and professor at Harvard Business School, explored the subject of body language in online dating in a 2016 talk in New York City. She says she was drawn to her husband, who she saw for the first time on Facebook, because he was in what she has deemed a “power pose” - an expansive posture that can make you feel more powerful and confident.

How To Date Online If You’re Ready For A Serious Relationship

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Find a serious relationship with Online Dating

Dating looks vastly different in 2016, even compared to a few decades ago. But while our methods have changed, the mindset remains the same: at the end of it all, most of us are hoping to find “the one.”

Online dating can raise questions. Is it just about hookups? Will I actually meet anyone in person? Are there real people behind those profiles? How do I make a good impression on someone I’ve never seen face to face? Are there any signs that they could be something serious?

PlentyOfFish knows the struggle of finding a soulmate better than most, so they set out in search of answers. The popular dating site surveyed more than 1,100 former users who married someone who met on their site. After all, if those people don’t know the secrets to long-term love, who does?

Guys – Stop Doing This on Dating Apps

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Tips for Guys on using Dating Apps

Dating apps have made a lot of bad dating behavior even easier. Because of the anonymous, behind-the-screen nature of dating apps, there is little to no accountability for the way you treat people. Which means a lot of online daters are left wondering if using a dating app is worth it.

Dating apps are great tools, but both men and women make mistakes when it comes to meeting people and trying to connect. Many online daters put forward images of themselves that aren’t necessarily true to gain more matches, and many also tend to be flaky about follow-through and meeting in person. Instead of hiding so much behind your dating app, it’s better to take responsibility and treat your dates how you would like to be treated.

Following are some behaviors that guys do on dating apps that we wish you would stop doing:

What A 12-Year Veteran Of OkCupid Learned About Love

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Longest OkCupid User

Jason Hill was in for a surprise when he attended a meetup of OkCupid users in 2009. Sam Yagan, co-founder of OkCupid and current CEO of Match.com, dropped by the gathering and spoke to Hill. When Hill told him he joined the site in March 2004, Yagan was shocked.

“That was less than a month after we started,” Yagan exclaimed. “You must be our longest user!”

Fusion recently spoke with Hill about his status as OkCupid’s longest continual user, and the lessons he learned along the way. His story offers key insights into the world of online dating:

  • Try it if you need to expand your dating pool. Hill initially experimented with online dating because he’d moved across the country. He knew very few people, and those in his immediate social circle were often significantly older. Online dating helped Hill find more compatible dates in nearby cities.
  • It’s helpful if you’re socially awkward. “The great thing about online dating for me was that a person clearly indicated interest,” said Hill. “And once the person indicated interest, I knew the rules, right? At that point, dating became something I could do easily.” Online dating takes the guesswork out of determining interest.
  • It’s never been cool to be a jerk. Today, female daters are used to receiving explicit messages and pictures from men. While Hill can’t say what online dating was like for women 12 years ago, he’s confident that his approach was successful because it wasn’t crude. He aimed for a mix of approachable, forthright, charming, and snarky - never creepy - in his messages.
  • You can’t be in a relationship until you’re really ready. Hill found himself on a steady stream of dates with women who were trying online dating for the first time. They were separated, or in the middle of a divorce, or had just broken up, and weren’t mentally prepared for the relationship Hill was looking for. The moral of the story? Don’t try to force something serious if you’re not ready for it.
  • Profiles are only part of the picture. Some dating services go to great lengths to make comprehensive profiles. Others practically skip the profile in favor of photos. Either way, there’s only so much you can learn about a person through a screen. Meeting in person is essential if you want to get an accurate impression of a date.

Twelve years after he joined OkCupid, Hill is happily married. Although he didn’t meet his wife online, he believes his experiences with the site prepared him to find his perfect match. He credits online dating with teaching him at least one indispensable dating lesson.

“Thanks to all those hundreds of dates I had gone on,” he said, “what I realized is: At some point you just need to say what you want, especially at the beginning of a relationship, maybe even on a first date. There’s no point in beating around the bush.”