Dating Sites Profile Search Results, taking a closer look.

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Lately most dating sites are using a new way to display search results to their single members. The old way was to display the matching profiles to your search request in rows, one after another. They included such information as:

  • A Photo if available
  • Location (Usually City, State/Province and Country)
  • Gender and what gender you are seeking
  • Your Age
  • Relationship Status
  • Your Username
  • Headline
  • When you were last online

From there you could do a number of things such as view the profile, add to favorites, send a wink and Instant Message (if the single is online). Most dating sites used a variation of this formula.

10 Tips on having a fun and safe first date.

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Here are 10 tips on having a fun and safe first date. These guidelines may make online dating sound scary but it is always best to be cautious since you are meeting basically a stranger that know one you know has vouched for. Of course meeting someone for the first time through online dating is no diferent than meeting someone at a night club or bar.

These tips are not in any order of significant.

1. Know your date. Don't go out with someone unless you have exchanged emails a few times and talked on the phone. Make sure you have a good feeling about the person. Trust your inner voice. If the other person is for real, he or she should understand and be able to wait a bit longer.

2. Meet in a public place for the first few times. Have coffee at a restaurant or go to a movie. Most likely nothing will happen but it is better to be safe than sorry.

3. For a fist date, maybe invite the person to a party you are going too where you will have some friends and they will be able to bring some their friends. If it doesn't work out at least you can still have some fun.

4. Always tell someone where you are going and who you are going with, and tell them you will call when you get home. Make sure to bring your cell phone and some extra money, just in case you find out you are not a match and you need to get home.

5. Make sure you have a time limit on your first date. It will allow for an out if you need it. A good example for this is going to lunch.

6. Get a few photo's of the person, especially some with his friends or family. It will give you some hints on what type of person he is plus you will know who to look for when you go to meet him or her.

7. Don't let the person pick you up at home, meet the person at the location you are going to. You shouldn't give out your address until you have met the person a few times. Always be aware of the personal information you're revealing to a date. Most likely nothing will happen but it is better to be safe than sorry.

8. Never do anything you feel unsure about. As an example if he or she suggests to sitting at the back of the theater and you don't want to, then don't. If they continue to try, walk out. If the person has already raised a few red flags on the first date, it probably is not going to work out.

9. Refrain from drinking excessively, as it could impair your ability to make good decisions.

10. Finally SafeDate or other services like it, for a small fee will do a criminal background check for you of your date. I have never used them and I feel if you follow the above tips everything should be fine, but if you have any doubt or worries maybe these services would be worthwhile.

Creating a profile that will be noticed.

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It's really hard to get your profile noticed with the millions that are on the major single sites. Below are some tips for you to consider when you create your profile:

Include a photo. Research shows that your profile being view increases by eight times if it includes a photo. Your main photo should be of yourself posing for the camera. Make sure it is good quality and that there is no one else in the photo. It is even better if you get a professional to take the shot. It should cost under $15 per photo to do this. Wal-Mart has a good portrait studio and they can give you the picture on a cd for easy uploading to the single sites or you could give a try. I would also include additional photo's of you having a good time doing things you love. This allows the person viewing your photo's get a better idea of what you are like.

Headlines are hard to write. It's best to write something that is catchy and relates to you. A good example of a headline is the title from the movie "Sleepless in Seattle". It's memorable plus it gives the viewer a little bit of information about yourself. I would avoid using lots of punctuation or cryptic words. This looks unprofessional.

Add those keywords. Most dating sites these days have keyword searching to find profiles. This basically means as an example, if you typed the keyword "cowboy" and click the search button, the dating site will then display all profiles that contain the word cowboy in them. So if you are interested in say, mountain biking and the dating site only lets you select the word biking in the interests section of the profile I would then restate your interests (and give more details) in the essay questions usually included at the end of most dating profiles. This will allow singles looking for someone who is interested in mountain biking to find you easier since your profile will contain those two keywords and not just biking.

Login often and check out other singles on the site. Most dating sites keep track of the last time you have logged in. Usually dating sites, when displaying search results will show members who are online first. This will be followed by members who are not online but have logged in fairly recent. The obvious reason for this, is to make sure that the members will view profiles that have a stronger chance of someone responding back to them (if they initiate contact) since they are online more often.

Instant Messenger Dictionary for Online Daters

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Dating has become easier for everyone due to the emergence and success of online dating websites. You can choose the site that suits you best, look for people who have the features you desire along with common interests and contact them immediately. Some dating sites are featuring their own instant messaging for members to instantly communicate with each other. This is a great way to make contact and get excited about a new date. But when you start chatting back and forth, the other person is typing recognizable words along with small clusters of letters here and there. What are they saying? These are considered to be "Net Lingo" and are commonly used Internet acronyms.

411 - Information
AFK - Away from keyboard
AISI - As I see it
AMBW - All my best wishes
ATST - At the same time
B4 - Before
B4N - Bye for now
BBIAF - Be back in a few
BBL - Be back later
BBN - Bye-bye now
BS - Big Smile
BTW - By the way
CID - Consider it done
CSL - Can't stop laughing
CWYL - Chat with you later
DGT - Don't go there
DHYB - Don't hold your breath
DKDC - Don't know, don't care
EG - Evil Grin
EOM - End of message
FOAF - Friend of a friend
FTTB - For the time being
FWIW - For what it's worth
FYI - For your information
GAL - Get a life
GL - Good Luck
GR8 - Great
GTG - Got to go
GTSY - Glad to see ya
HAGO - Have a good one
HAK - Hugs and Kisses
HB - Hurry Back
HHOK - Ha, ha only kidding
HTH - Hope this helps
IAE - In any event
IDKY - I don't know you
ILY - I love you
IMO - In my opinion
IRL - In real life
IYSS - If you say so
J/W - Just wondering
KIT - Keep in touch
KWIM - Know what I mean
LD - Long distance
LMK - Let me know
LOL - Laughing out loud
LTIC - Laughing 'til I cry
LTNS - Long time no see
LYL - Love ya lots
M8 - Mate
MRS - Meet real soon
MWBRL - More will be revealed later
MYOB - Mind your own business
NBD - No big deal
NOYB - None of your business
NP - No problem
OIC - Oh I see
ONNA - Oh no, not again
OOC - Out of Character
OT - Off topic
OTOH - On the other hand
POV - Point of view
RBTL - Read between the lines
RN - Right now
SF - Super friendly
SNAG - Sensitive new age guy
STYS - Speak to you soon
SWDYT - So what do you think
TAH - Take a hike
TIAIL - Think I am in love
TIC - Tongue in cheek
TM - Trust me
TMI - Too much information
TTYL - Talk to you later
TYVM - Thank you very much
VM - Voice mail
WE - Whatever
WG - Wicked grin
WYRN - What's your real name
WYSIWYG - What you see is what you get
YAFI - You asked for it
YDKM - You don't know me
YNK - You never know