New Dating App Blume Claims to Solve the Catfishing Problem

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  • Monday, December 21 2015 @ 12:23 pm
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Blume

There’s a new dating app on the market, and this one puts safety first in a big way. Blume has just launched an app that claims to solve the catfishing problem in online dating.

If you’ve been online dating, you’re probably familiar with the term catfishing. It happens when one online dater tries to deceive another online dater by lying about who he is, his intentions, even his photos and Facebook profile. Usually, people trying to “catfish” other online daters are trying to gain access to financial or personal information, taking advantage of someone else’s vulnerability.

Many dating apps have tried to address the problem by providing “verification” of some sort for everyone who joins a website, usually by having you sign up with your Facebook profile. But some have managed to get around the restrictions, taking advantage of other online daters by sending fake pictures and messages.

Blume has gone one step further by making verification part of the communication process. When you are ready to message someone you mutually “like” (similar to Tinder’s swipe), you cannot proceed without first taking a selfie in that moment. Only when both matches take and send the selfie so each can compare and make sure it’s the same person – are they allowed to communicate. (This might also prompt some late-night hair and make-up attention – instead of hanging out and swiping in your pajamas, one of the benefits to online dating.) You have seven seconds to compare the photos (like Snapchat) before they disappear. Once you take the selfies and they are accepted, then you can begin chatting.

While this is a compelling hook and many people do enjoy taking selfies, this might also be a detraction for using the app. Most of us want to appear camera-ready, and might not like the way we look in selfies, or want to spend time taking the right picture, in the right light, in the right outfit (of course). One benefit is that the photo disappears – but a potential hazard is that you might think your curated profile won’t look the same as your selfie – and that your date might not think you’re the same person.

Not to mention, if you like to sit at the bar or restaurant swiping Tinder while waiting for your friends, this would not bode well for Blume. A poorly lit bar with lots of people around might not be the ideal time to take a selfie for some people. Or even sitting in a café having a coffee.

But if you’re willing to give it a shot and take your chances with your selfies, go for it. It might be the latest online dating craze.

The Right Time To Have The Big Talks In Your Relationship

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  • Friday, December 18 2015 @ 10:11 am
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If honesty is the best policy, is there an optimal time to divulge your most personal information?

Even at the best of times, “The Talk” can be a touchy subject. Maybe you want to date exclusively. Maybe you have wedding bells on the brain. Maybe you're just ready to disclose a weird hobby or an annoying habit.

Whatever talk you're ready to have, it's a sensitive situation and tricky to get the timing right. To shed some light on the murky topic, online dating site Zoosk polled more than 5,000 users to get their thoughts on having uncomfortable relationship conversations.

The big question on most daters' minds is this: when is it ok to define the relationship as exclusive or nonexclusive? According to Zoosk's survey, almost half of men believe it's important to define the relationship within the first few dates. Only a third of women agreed. Forty-nine percent of female users wanted to wait until after the first few months of dating to discuss exclusivity.

As far bigger commitments go, 56% of men and 54% of women consider six months an appropriate time to talk about marriage. Note: the marriage talk in question isn't about marrying each other or picking out color schemes. This conversation is just about whether you aspire to get married at all.

Zoosk also asked users about disclosures earlier in the dating process. Their research found that response rates to the first online dating message increase if the following words are used: vegan, pets, allergies. On the other hand, response rates decrease with the appearance of these words: vegetarian, virgin, rich.

In that initial communication, more men (32%) than women (28%) say they would disclose if there was something unusual about them sexually. However, the majority of men (52%) and a significant number of women (41%) say they would prefer to remain in the dark about their date's number of past sexual partners.

On or immediately following the first date, 70% of men say they would be upfront if they are seeing other people. Sixty-two percent of women say they would do the same. Past partners, on the other hand, are a subject better saved for later dates. Nearly half of men and women say they do want to discuss former relationships and recent breakups, but only after a few weeks of dating.

For more about this dating service please read our review of Zoosk.

These Are The Best Cities For Dating 'Star Wars' Superfans

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  • Thursday, December 17 2015 @ 06:44 am
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Star Wars Love

Unless you've been living in a galaxy far, far away, you know this month is all about Star Wars. The seventh installment of the sci-fi franchise will soon premiere and fans are going crazy waiting for the big day.

To pass the time until The Force Awakens hits big screens, Match.com has done a little research on single Star Wars fans around America.

It turns out the Force is especially strong with the western US. The region with the most mentions of Star Wars-related terms in their profiles was Seattle-Tacoma-Bellevue in Washington. Cities in Texas, Colorado and Utah followed close behind. In the top nine, only one eastern city makes an appearance: Orlando-Kissimmee in Florida. Maybe east coast fans prefer Star Trek?

If you're a Han looking for your Leia, your best bet is to look in Colorado Springs, Colorado – the top city for single female Star Wars fans. Your next closest bets are Santa Rosa-Petaluma, California, and Salt Lake City, Utah. Ladies looking for a Luke-alike are most likely to find him in Orlando-Kissimmee, followed by Austin-Round Rock, Texas, and Seattle-Tacoma-Bellevue.

Match.com's research didn't stop there. The company also found that Star Wars fans are more educated than the non-fan population. Sixty percent earned a degree beyond a bachelor's. They also showed an increased interest in martial arts, clocking in at twice as likely to be into karate than the average Match user.

Match continued its research into religion, politics and career choices. Star Wars fans were 2.2 times as likely to be atheist, agnostic, or spiritual but not religious, and 2.7 times as likely to be liberal or very liberal. As for their professional paths, they were 3 times as likely to work in technology, 2.5 times as likely to work in a creative field and 2 times as likely to work in government.

Speakiing of Star Trek, Match compared fans of the legendary TV series to Star Wars buffs. The results? Star Trek users were better educated and made more money. Star Trek users were also more likely to hold extreme political views (both right and left), and less likely to be moderate in their political leanings. On the other hand, Star Wars users were more likely to be into sports and less into gardening, politics and religion.

Time to start practicing your Star Wars pickup lines. Put your love life into hyper drive, and you could have a date for the opening night of The Force Awakens.

For more info on the online dating service which brought us this study you can read our Match.com.

How to Attract Women as an Introvert

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  • Wednesday, December 16 2015 @ 02:01 pm
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Believing that you can’t meet and attract beautiful women as an introvert is one of the biggest mistakes you can possibly make.

Okay, I get it. You are told that you have to be the outgoing alpha in order to succeed with the ladies. You are told that women are attracted to extroverted guys.

Well, what if everything you have been told is nothing but a big fat lie?

The belief that only the extroverted, loud and social guys can succeed in the dating game is the result of a big misconception when it comes to the definition of introversion. Unfortunately, a lot of people believe that introverts are naturally insecure, socially awkward and really weird communication partners.

Well, this couldn’t be farther from the truth. I am an introvert and one of the qualities that my friends appreciate so much about me is my ability to listen and to allow deep conversations. What most men don’t realize is that the only difference between an introvert and an extrovert is the fact that the introvert charges his batteries when he is on his own and the extroverts derives energy from being around other people.

Match.com Releases List of “Hot Topics” in Dating During 2015

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  • Wednesday, December 16 2015 @ 12:20 pm
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Singles In America 2015

Were you wondering who the most popular members were on Match.com this past year? Or maybe you were wondering the percentage of blonde to brunette daters, or what music most matches were listening to? Whatever your question, Match.com seems to have answers in their 2015 wrap-up.

If you dwell in New York City, you might be surprised to learn that despite the hectic pace and its legendary status for casual relationships and ambitious and independent singles (thanks to tv shows like Girls and Sex and the City), New York City is the number one place where Match.com members want kids! Commitment and family in New York City is possible and a goal for a lot of daters, so lesson learned here: don’t let the stereotypes rule your life.

If on the other hand, you are looking for the jet set life and want to be with a doctor or lawyer, head to Durham, North Carolina or Washington, D.C. respectively.

It also appears that despite the tech-savvy iPhone users among us, Android users are becoming more likely to try online dating. In 2015, 29% more Android users joined Match.com vs. iPhone users.

This past year marked a big year for the LGBT community, with the Supreme Court ruling that marriage between same-sex couples was legal across the country. Plus, notable celebrity and former Olympic Champion Caitlyn Jenner came out to the world, making transgender rights a topic of discussion. In the online dating world, half a million members of the LGBT community joined Match in 2015.

Following are some additional highlights:

  • Since we are in for a long year of political maneuvering in 2016, Match.com decided to see the Hilarys vs. the Donalds who signed up for online dating this past year. As it turns out, there are more Donalds who are members of Match. (We’ll see how this plays out in the elections.)
  • Game of Thrones was the most-mentioned TV show on Match this year. (No big surprise – though fans of The Walking Dead will be pleased their show came in second.)
  • The most-mentioned celebrities included Drake at #1, Taylor Swift, Beyonce and then the Kardashians.
  • The most mentioned trendy words of 2015 were “swag” (coming in at #1), “bae” (because who doesn’t want to find their bae?), and “Netflix and chill” (to which I can relate).
  • Most trending newsworthy topics discussed on Match include transgender, Donald Trump, and marijuana. 
  • The most popular foods mentioned were sushi (coming in at #1), tacos and ramen. Delicious.
  • Two times more brunettes joined than blondes.
  • Last but not least, Match revealed its two most popular daters – Leonora from New York, NY and Gabriel from Los Angeles.

To find out more about this dating service you can read our review of Match.com. Happy dating!

Find Your Fairytale Romance With A Disney-Themed Dating Site Called Mouse Mingle

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  • Tuesday, December 15 2015 @ 06:46 am
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Mouse Mingle Dating Site

Cinderella had to find Prince Charming the hard way. You can find your fairytale romance on a new dating website designed for Disney lovers.

Specialized dating sites are hardly a new phenomenon – there are sites for farmers, vegetarians, even zombies and morticians – but MouseMingle.com has been the talk of the digital town since its recent debut.

"Traditional internet dating sites don't understand the passion people have for all things Disney,” reads the MouseMingle homepage. “But we do."

The site was created by Dave Tavres, a Disney devotee who once worked as a Disneyland Railroad engineer. He says he never flirted while on duty at the resort, but found it difficult to find women who shared his passion for Disney while he wasn't on the clock.

Tavres told Mashable the idea came to him after friends asked why he hadn't experimented with online dating. "I told them I had tried them, but there was no way to narrow down the searches to find women in the right distance and age range who loved Disney,” he said. “That was the inception moment."

MouseMingle celebrates all things Walt. Users identify their “Disney nerd level” and discuss subjects like favorite Disney songs. The profile questionnaire includes queries like “What type of Disney shopper are you?” and “What type of annual pass do you have?” Newly registered members are also prompted to indicate whether they're in the market for a "Park Pal," friendship, dating or marriage.

Scroll through pictures on the site and you'll see countless snaps of people at the park or dressed as their favorite characters. Some Disney employees are also getting in on the action, sharing photos of themselves in their Disney work uniforms.

Users can browse profiles for free, but you'll need a monthly membership to contact another user. The monthly fee is $12.55 – a reference to 1955, the year the original theme park opened. Far away from the magical kingdom? Don't worry, you don't need to live near a Disney park to use the site. MouseMingle members can live anywhere in the world.

"There are countless single Disney fans that live in the spaces between Disney parks,” Tavres explained to Mashable. “Those people often have a greater passion for Disney, as they don't get to visit as often."

What started out as a high-tech solution to Tavres' singlehood problem has reportedly gained thousands of users is its first week. "My hope is that people literally around the world will find the site useful," he said to Mashable.

Looking for your happily ever after? Join MouseMingle and some day your prince (or princess) might come.

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