Five Dating App Tips for the New Year

New Years
  • Monday, December 28 2015 @ 09:28 am
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Happy New Year!

Tired of swiping endlessly? If you’re looking for forward movement in your dating life, then the New Year is a good time to check your habits when it comes to online dating, and see where you can change things up a bit. There’s nothing like ringing in the New Year with a new attitude towards love!

Let’s start with perceptions. Most people think that dating apps are easy tools for hooking up, but not much else. While they are convenient, many people using dating apps are also looking for long-term love, just like you. Don’t make assumptions about why others on using dating apps – it’s important to keep an open mind, otherwise dating is nothing more than an exercise in handling frustration.

Following are some tips for the New Year on how to get a better handle on those dating apps:

Join something new – but do your research first! Most people join Tinder because that’s the app they know, without realizing there are a slew of dating apps out there catering to every type of dater. If you know you want something serious, try eHarmony or even Coffee Meets Bagel (for a little less pressure) instead. If you are looking to find dates with similar religious leanings, try JSwipe for Jewish singles or Collide, which labels itself the “Christian Tinder.” If you are looking for Star Wars fans? Try AYI (Are You Interested?) – which matches up people with similar interests.

Update your photos. Let’s face it – dating is visually-driven, so you have to put your best face forward. Instead of posing in a slew of selfies, have a friend take some more interesting photos – you playing guitar, doing a yoga pose or out hiking, for instance. Then visually you can show potential dates who you are – it is more effective than listing your hobbies in a description.

Get to the date. Instead of the endless messaging back and forth, it’s much more efficient to ask your matches out right away. You can’t tell if there will be chemistry until you meet in person, so why drag things out and get invested in an online fantasy? If you’re a woman, do your share of the asking. It’s 2015 – and he will be fine with it.

Be mindful and courteous. Just because someone is on a dating site doesn’t mean they are DTF. Don’t send messages suggesting otherwise. Ask someone out to a public place, not your apartment to “Netflix and chill.” Treat others respectfully, and they will return the favor.

Say “yes” more often, ladies. Some guys accept all matches in the hopes of bettering their chances to meet someone. Women are the opposite: the accept very few, sometimes to their detriment. Remember, keep an open mind. Just because he isn’t exactly what you want on paper – you might have chemistry together IRL. Give everyone a fair shot.

Happy dating in the New Year!

Coffee Meets Bagel Launches Its Own Version Of Tinder's 'Super Like'

Coffee Meets Bagel
  • Thursday, December 24 2015 @ 09:27 am
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Coffee Meets Bagel

When you're as trendsetting as Tinder, you're bound to inspire copy cats. Coffee Meets Bagel is the latest dating service to pull a Tinder-esque move, launching the ‘Send A Woo’ feature that allows users to express extra interest in a potential match.

Tinder debuted its 'Super Like' feature a few months ago to a flurry of media attention. Users swipe up to Super Like someone, indicating higher than average interest in their profile. Ingeniously, Super Like can only be used on one profile per day, making it actually feel like a special gesture.

Coffee Meets Bagel's 'Send A Woo' operates on a similar principle. The goal is to stand out from the sea of other suitors. “Woo your Bagel to get noticed faster,” explains the app. “Send more Woos to show more interest.”

Because of Coffee Meets Bagel's unique matching system, 'Send A Woo' stands to make even more of an impact that Tinder's Super Like. CMB users are shown only one match per day. If both users like each other, the app connects them in a text conversation. Each match expires after 24 hours.

Here's where 'Send A Woo' could come in handy. You only have 24 hours to get an intriguing match to like you back. If you don't, they disappear forever and you have no other potential dating options on Coffee Meets Bagel for the rest of the day. Using the 'Send A Woo' feature could be the extra special something that gets you noticed and makes magic happen before your time is up.

CMB users earn 'beans' (as in 'coffee beans') that unlock more features. Beans can also be purchased in the 'Bean Shop.' Beans are required in order to send woos so, like Tinder's one-Super-Like-per-day scheme, it feels special in order to receive one. You know the sender has gone out of their way to catch your attention.

Founder and CEO Dawoon Kang told TechCrunch that January is one of the busiest times for online dating, and that the introduction of ‘Send a Woo’ is meant not only to help users find more meaningful connections, but also to help them have more meaningful conversations after those connections are made.

'Send A Woo' is only in its infancy, but in beta testing users who tried the feature saw 3x more matches than those who didn't. Tinder saw similar numbers with Super Like, so expect to see more features like this in the future.

If you'd like to try out Coffee Meets Bagel for iOS or Android, check our our review.

Match.com's 2015 'Singles In America' Study Smashes Stereotypes

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  • Wednesday, December 23 2015 @ 09:14 am
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Match.com Singles in America 2015

For half a decade, Match.com has celebrated dating with America’s most comprehensive study on singles. This year's annual analysis surveyed 5,600 singles from all ages, ethnicities, incomes and walks of life. What it found is a new dating landscape that's laying tired stereotypes to rest.

The days of macho men and dependent women are history. Men are increasingly seeking out independent female partners and women are setting the tone in relationships. The 'Singles in America' study calls it “The Clooney Effect.” According to the study, the majority of single women in 2015:

  • Want a partner with a sense of independence (89%)
  • Want a partner with the same level of intelligence (86%)
  • Think it's ok to casually date more than one person at a time (74%)
  • Are not willing to support a partner financially (55%)
  • Seek a partner who's comfortable with their sexuality (94%)
  • Would not likely date someone who's less intellectual (61%)

PlentyOfFish Updates Mobile App With New Features

POF (Plenty of Fish)
  • Tuesday, December 22 2015 @ 08:27 am
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PlentyOfFish has been in the game for years, but to keep up with upstarts like Tinder, continuous reinvention is a must. This year has seen plenty of change for POF, from being acquired by IAC/InterActive's Match Group to going public as part of the Match Group's IPO. Now the mobile app is getting a makeover.

A new update, launched December 15, 2015, has added several new features to the apps for iOS and Android. Bugs have also been fixed for a more stable user experience.

The first new feature will appeal to safety-minded singles. With free Voice Calling, you can place a secure, private call to someone without giving out your contact details. To call, open a message in your inbox. If the recipient is accepting Voice Calls, tap the phone icon to dial. Take note: calls are made through the app, so connect to wi-fi first if you're concerned about exceeding your monthly data limit.

New Dating App Blume Claims to Solve the Catfishing Problem

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  • Monday, December 21 2015 @ 12:23 pm
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Blume

There’s a new dating app on the market, and this one puts safety first in a big way. Blume has just launched an app that claims to solve the catfishing problem in online dating.

If you’ve been online dating, you’re probably familiar with the term catfishing. It happens when one online dater tries to deceive another online dater by lying about who he is, his intentions, even his photos and Facebook profile. Usually, people trying to “catfish” other online daters are trying to gain access to financial or personal information, taking advantage of someone else’s vulnerability.

Many dating apps have tried to address the problem by providing “verification” of some sort for everyone who joins a website, usually by having you sign up with your Facebook profile. But some have managed to get around the restrictions, taking advantage of other online daters by sending fake pictures and messages.

Blume has gone one step further by making verification part of the communication process. When you are ready to message someone you mutually “like” (similar to Tinder’s swipe), you cannot proceed without first taking a selfie in that moment. Only when both matches take and send the selfie so each can compare and make sure it’s the same person – are they allowed to communicate. (This might also prompt some late-night hair and make-up attention – instead of hanging out and swiping in your pajamas, one of the benefits to online dating.) You have seven seconds to compare the photos (like Snapchat) before they disappear. Once you take the selfies and they are accepted, then you can begin chatting.

While this is a compelling hook and many people do enjoy taking selfies, this might also be a detraction for using the app. Most of us want to appear camera-ready, and might not like the way we look in selfies, or want to spend time taking the right picture, in the right light, in the right outfit (of course). One benefit is that the photo disappears – but a potential hazard is that you might think your curated profile won’t look the same as your selfie – and that your date might not think you’re the same person.

Not to mention, if you like to sit at the bar or restaurant swiping Tinder while waiting for your friends, this would not bode well for Blume. A poorly lit bar with lots of people around might not be the ideal time to take a selfie for some people. Or even sitting in a café having a coffee.

But if you’re willing to give it a shot and take your chances with your selfies, go for it. It might be the latest online dating craze.

The Right Time To Have The Big Talks In Your Relationship

Communication
  • Friday, December 18 2015 @ 10:11 am
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If honesty is the best policy, is there an optimal time to divulge your most personal information?

Even at the best of times, “The Talk” can be a touchy subject. Maybe you want to date exclusively. Maybe you have wedding bells on the brain. Maybe you're just ready to disclose a weird hobby or an annoying habit.

Whatever talk you're ready to have, it's a sensitive situation and tricky to get the timing right. To shed some light on the murky topic, online dating site Zoosk polled more than 5,000 users to get their thoughts on having uncomfortable relationship conversations.

The big question on most daters' minds is this: when is it ok to define the relationship as exclusive or nonexclusive? According to Zoosk's survey, almost half of men believe it's important to define the relationship within the first few dates. Only a third of women agreed. Forty-nine percent of female users wanted to wait until after the first few months of dating to discuss exclusivity.

As far bigger commitments go, 56% of men and 54% of women consider six months an appropriate time to talk about marriage. Note: the marriage talk in question isn't about marrying each other or picking out color schemes. This conversation is just about whether you aspire to get married at all.

Zoosk also asked users about disclosures earlier in the dating process. Their research found that response rates to the first online dating message increase if the following words are used: vegan, pets, allergies. On the other hand, response rates decrease with the appearance of these words: vegetarian, virgin, rich.

In that initial communication, more men (32%) than women (28%) say they would disclose if there was something unusual about them sexually. However, the majority of men (52%) and a significant number of women (41%) say they would prefer to remain in the dark about their date's number of past sexual partners.

On or immediately following the first date, 70% of men say they would be upfront if they are seeing other people. Sixty-two percent of women say they would do the same. Past partners, on the other hand, are a subject better saved for later dates. Nearly half of men and women say they do want to discuss former relationships and recent breakups, but only after a few weeks of dating.

For more about this dating service please read our review of Zoosk.

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