Dating

Let's face it; dating is never easy (unless you're George Clooney and well, you're not). God created Eve for Adam; one woman for one man. Unfortunately, now there are a million more Adams fighting for that one Eve. The only way to win this 'Singles War' is to be ready for battle. Lock and load, gentlemen. Here are 10 basic rules that can take you from being that guy' to her guy'.

No False Advertising

Your profile picture is the first thing we look at. If you haven't posted your picture, do it. And no, we don't want to see your prom picture from 1987 (even though that was a good year). Make sure the picture is of you only and not of you and some hot girl. We already know you are a heterosexual man no need to prove it. We're here to meet you, not your favorite Hooters girl.

Be Creative

Women like men who think outside the box. So spice up that profile of yours. Put in a funny quirk about yourself or a quote from your favorite relative. No novels, please. We want to get some idea who you are, not read 'War and Peace.' Once you've set your date, be sure to make a plan. Take it up a notch up from coffee. As my comedienne friend, Chelsea Handler, says, "What's a coffee date gonna lead to? A piggy-back ride?" Some good date ideas are a picnic in the park, a day at a local art fair, or a sporting event.

Humor is Hot

Though the number-one thing a girl desires in a guy is a sense of humor, we're not looking for Josh, the JDate Jokester. Women want someone light-hearted whom they can enjoy being around. A man who can laugh at himself is very sexy, so don't take yourself so seriously. And please please please…. do not quote Seinfeld. We know that it's your favorite show, but if we want to re-visit the "Contest" episode, we'll buy the DVD.

Dress to Impress

Girls put an effort into getting ready for you. You should do the same. You don't have to look like you stepped off the runways of Milan, but be aware of what's in style. Acid-washed jeans are never a good idea unless you're a drummer in a hair metal band. The sockless thing may have worked for Don Johnson, but times have changed. Finally, leave the Drakkar and man jewelry at home. Women don't like to be out-scented or accessorized.

Have Game

Be confident, but don't act too cocky. Make eye contact. A man who looks at the ground is either insecure or a serial killer. Keep the conversation about yourself to a minimum. Ask questions about your date. Be complimentary, but don't overdo it. Conversation topics like "How many JDates I've had this week" or "How I spent five grand on my new plasma TV" are not attractive. Don't flirt with the waitress. If you have a wandering eye and we catch you in the act, it's best to fake a seizure.

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We want you to be open and honest. However, on the first date, you might want to keep the "why I hate my ex-wife" discussions to a minimum. I once went out with a guy who told me his last girlfriend was an adult film star. All I kept imagining was him at the AVN awards clapping for his girlfriend, Cherry Blossoms, who had just won for her work in "Sodomania II." Oh, and FYI, keep the details of your sexual proclivities to yourself. If we want to learn more, we'll let you know. Subtly.

Mind Your Manners

Please be on time and if you're going to be late, just call. Open the car door for her. Pull her seat out. Turn your cell phone off. If you are meeting her somewhere, offer to pay for her valet. If you are driving her home, walk her to the door. Most importantly, if it's your first date, GRAB THE CHECK. Most women today will offer to pay, but we are just testing you. Make sure you get an A+.

Keep It Clean

You don't have to be a neat freak, but make sure your place looks presentable when inviting a girl in. We know you weren't on "Extreme Home Makeover," but we don't want to see the aftermath of Hurricane Francis either. Just get rid of all the empty beer bottles and Chinese food from the night before and put all your "Playboys" in a drawer for safekeeping.

No Eager Beavers

We're looking for a man, not a stalker. Court the girl, be attentive, but try not to overstay your welcome. There is nothing worse than the guy who won't go away. It's like getting up at the curtain of a bad musical, only to find out there are three more acts left. My friend Kimmie once had a guy tell her on their second date, "I think I'm falling in love with you." Needless to say, she ran like Forrest Gump.

Follow Through

The rules for the movie "Swingers" don't apply anymore. If you are truly interested, you will call the next day. No 3-10 day waiting period. Really into her? Make a plan for a second date at the end of your first date. That lets her know you mean business. Once you start seeing the girl, don't pull a bad magic act where you appear and disappear at your own convenience. We notice the minute you show disinterest, and most of us won't wait around for you to come back.

Okay, soldiers use this knowledge as your secret weapon. Now, go get that girl!

The dating game can be frustrating, tricky, and is near impossible to master. The hours and days leading up to a first date are often a roller coaster of mixed emotions culminating in a few hours, that more often than not-and please forgive the pessimism that follows-will end in disappointment. Women tend to take a bad date to heart and ask themselves what she did wrong and why it was so miserable. So guys, this article is especially for you-now pay close attention, as the following is from a woman who knows all too well the devastating consequences of a bad date! Truly, it can crush a girl. As you read the following dating essentials, feel free take notes, write it on the palm of your hand, or put this article in your pocket as you're walking out the front door to meet her, as these first date musts may just be all you need to make her yours.

1 - Be on time-no excuses!

Aside from the occasional metro-sexual male that may take more time to prep for a date than the typical girl, it is common knowledge that women take much more time getting ready for a social event than the male species, especially when it comes to going out with a man. We ladies will painfully and strategically pluck our eyebrows, meticulously put on mascara, eyeliner, foundation and eye shadow, obsess over which outfit is the perfect for the occasion, and so on and so forth. I could go on for hours. When it takes us so long to get ready, and we try so hard to achieve that "perfect" look and never do (you will rarely hear a girl tell herself that she looks fabulous tonight. We tend to lean towards "my jeans are too tight" or "my hair is so frizzy tonight") there is nothing more frustrating than when your date leaves you waiting at the dinner table just to arrive in jeans and a polo. The simple act of making your date on time or even early will score you major brownie points with the girl.

2 - It truly is the little things that count most

It sounds silly, but to a girl there is nothing more flattering than having the car door opened or when a man goes out of his way to make sure she doesn't have to carry the popcorn or drinks. Small gestures are what we remember in the long run, and it will be the topic of conversation amongst the girls the next day during happy hour. There is a small portion of our brain that remembers these thoughtful acts and it doesn't matter how amazing the date went, when she lies in bed that night, she will be thinking about the sweet little gestures you did for her. Knowing that you went out of your way to buy her flowers or a teddy bear for the first meeting and still made your date on time will be on her mind for the rest of the night!

3 - Make her laugh

This can be tricky at first if sense of humor is not your forte, but if you can master the art of making a girl laugh, it could be the key straight to her heart. There is nothing sexier than a man that is funny. Sharing a good laugh will undoubtedly ease the tension of the date, and the more she laughs, the more points you get! I guarantee if the laughter continues, she will not soon forget the night. There is literally no such thing as too funny, and she will be thinking about you as she giggles her giddy self to sleep that night!

If you keep these three important tips in mind on your first date, you can't fail. Historically, when women are drinking their martinis, dwelling over a horrible first date with the girlfriends, it goes back to these three essential mistakes. He was either late which makes her feel unimportant, he didn't make her feel special, or the date was dull. If you can pull these three tips off, you are sure to have a fun and memorable first date together! Happy dating!

We've all been there before. The nervousness and awkwardness of a blind date, the painful realization that your date has about as much personality as a sloth on valium, or that one date in everyone's past that was so unbearable that you would have rather stuck a butter knife in your left eyeball than have to endure another hour with this person. At least that way you can scope some eligible singles at the Emergency Room with your good eye. So why do we keep putting ourselves in situations that are more times than not uncomfortable and can have outcomes that scar us for life? It seems to me that in the never-ending search for "the one" we will do almost anything in hopes of meeting the right person. Personally, I am tired of blind dates, the let down of a potentially great date and the embarrassing fowl-ups, so I decided to do something about it and try something new, enter online dating.

It seems to me that the reason dating can be so difficult is because of the awkwardness and nervousness that accompanies meeting a potential mate. In a society of cell phones, computers and a loss of human contact, why not take advantage of what we have? Online dating can be a fun and exciting way to meet thousands of potential mates in the privacy of your own home-or office. For the guys, ask yourself if you have ever choked down sushi-despite your disgust for uncooked sea creatures-just because you thought you might potentially have something with this girl. Were the fish eggs sliding down the back of your throat worth it? My guess is probably not, but at least she was happy, right? For the ladies, how many hours of your life have been wasted putting on your eyeliner, mascara, doing your hair (then re-doing your hair), softening your skin, plucking your eyebrows, redoing your hair because its flat now, stumbling out the front door in heels, running four red lights-causing three accidents getting to the theater just on time, to find out he isn't there. Nor did he ever plan on being there since he got back with his ex last week and neglected to tell you. It's all too common, and it's getting old!

More and more people are turning to a pizza and beer in their underwear at midnight, having a great conversation all through the morning, instead of the unpredictability of a face to face in a time slot of a couple hours. With online dating, we can pick and choose who is interesting to us, and as we get to know this person better, we can decide if and when we are ready to meet. If there is no attraction, just click the little X at the top right corner of your screen, and move on! Now is the time to drink another beer, eat another slice of onion and anchovy pizza, and move on to the next eligible person. It's amazing how easy it is to avoid an uncomfortable situation online. If the chatting goes well, move on to talking on the phone, and if that works out, you're on your way to a great first meeting! At this point you know he doesn't like sushi-so make sure to meet for a burger! Happy dating!

A friend of mine is taking a dating sabbatical. She just lost her job due to corporate restructuring. She gained a few pounds over the winter. And for once, her dating calendar is not wall-to-wall excitement. She's in a bit of a slump.

All of us have been there at one time or another. We've just gotten dumped, lost the big promotion, suffered some sort of personal setback and things just aren't going our way. Our self-esteem takes a hit. We end up hanging out in our pajamas with the cat on Friday nights, watching Breakfast Club and Die Hard 2 on TNT and gnawing on a log of frozen cookie dough or eating Captain Crunch right out of the box.

When we venture out of the house for more junk food/another horrible day at the office/our best friend's wedding, it feels like the world, our world, might just be spinning in the wrong direction.

For some people, the answer to the personal slump is to stop dating altogether. When we're at our lowest, we tend to attract different people than we do when we're up and feeling like we're walking the world on a leash. Why? Confidence attracts. When you feel good, you believe you deserve every good thing (and person) that comes your way. You take more time with your appearance, eat better, spend more time with friends and have a better outlook on life in general.

On the other hand, when we feel bad, the same thing applies. We take less time with our appearance (why bother?), we eat comfort foods as though fat and sugar were going to be outlawed next month, and we tend to stick close to home. Which means, if we do happen to meet someone fabulous, it's highly likely that we'll kill the relationship before it even starts. Why? Our actions reinforce what we already believe -- we're not worth the effort, and this date, like everything else this week, is going south.

Like attracts like. Which means, if you're good-looking and successful, you'll attract others who are good-looking and successful. But those characteristics are entirely subjective. Which means, you only have to feel good-looking and successful to attract others who are good-looking and successful. If you feel like crap, you're automatically demoted a few links on the food chain, and your prospects diminish accordingly.

So when you're faced with a temporary slump, aside from riding out the storm by hiding out like Quasimodo, chained to the television with a crate of pork rinds, what can you do?
You can fake it. Fake it until you make it.

Am I suggesting you go around pretending to be Lithuanian royalty, or an NFL kicker? No. (Even though nobody ever remembers their names, and they are quite petite, as professional athletes go…) And, I'm not suggesting you fake being richer or better educated or better connected than you really are. Frankly, it's a bad idea to pretend to be something you're not. But there's nothing wrong with pretending to be yourself. At least until your normal self gets back. As any publicist or PR pro will tell you: it's all about the spin.

The key to faking it is to live the life you want until it's the life you have. All you need is a little adjustment in perspective. The key to feeling like your old self (or, your new self, if you're trying to move up) is to live the life you want, be the person you want to be, and let the details follow.

Think of your overall attractiveness like a credit score. Losing a job, getting dumped, or even losing one eyebrow in a freak depilatory accident is like making your car payment a few weeks late. It's not the ideal situation, but frankly, when you average out the numbers it hardly makes a dent.

Your life isn't just the sum of your accomplishments, it is also the impact you make on your friends, family and the world. A slump is not a life sentence, it's a slump. And it wouldn't be a slump if there wasn't a way back up.

When it comes to flirting, you can get your point across very easily just using your eyes. Take a moment and watch people who are in love. See how they look at each other - they stare directly into each other's eyes for extended periods of time. Look at mere friends. See their eyes? They seem to flit back and forth, making eye contact, but never extended eye contact.

What do I mean by extended eye contact? Holding someone's gaze for 1-2 seconds. Looking deep into their eyes for that time. I realize that couples may look at each other in this way for longer periods of time, but remember they are ALLOWED to do this - they are a couple. For our purposes, you are just flirting.

If you were to try and stare into some girl's eyes for long periods of time (especially if you don't know her), she will think that you're staring at her and she'll think that you're strange (because you're making her feel uncomfortable).

The goal here is to make eye contact with her, and to hold her attention by looking straight into her eyes for a couple of seconds so that she gets the idea that you're interested in her.

Be sure to smile, or to at least have a partial smile on your face as you do this. If you stare at her like this with a stone face, you'll freak her out. She'll either think that you're mad at her, or that you're just some type of psycho (both are bad).

If she seems to quickly look away, she is either playing hard to get, or she doesn't have an interest in you. Either way, if you feel that she's worth the effort, you will probably have to persue some decent conversation with her.