I think the experience for women is different. Ive actually met and had sex with various men from Aff mostly. Also pof and a couple of them from search. I do ask guys to cam to me so I can get a look at them and their asset. It's all about size for me.
You gotta take time and actually invest in an ongoing communication before. I don't respond to "wanna f*ck" messages. If I'm gonna suck your *censored* I need to know about you.