I have used this site from about November 1, 2004. I was hoping that I might meet someone to spend at least one of the holidays with like New Years Eve. No such luck.

Like a lot of sites, I established an honest profile with photo. Before I joined, I did get a couple of e mails from women. After I joined, the e mails stopped. I sent out over 600 HUNDRED e mails (they have an e mail counter). My fingers actually hurt from typing.

I met one woman that was attractive but she did not tell me before meeting that she was still in loive with her ex boyfriend. I made another couple of dates but they would meet me but not give me out a phone number???? This is a topic by itself. What gives?

I had a brief fling with another woman who was not that attractive but since I had been out of the dating world for a couple of years, I needed to get back into it. Neither one of us espected much and that is what we both got.

ABOUT PHONE NUMBERS: A phone number that is not published or a cell number can not be traced back to an address unless you are with law enforcement (I know since I was with the government for 20 years and even we could not do this-perhaps local police, FBI. I was just a tax auditor).

But I have a decent photo. You can check it out at match.com under user name kimbell.

I have changed my profile after reading some of these revies, but I think that if I lived in another area, I would not need to advertise for a date. But Dallas is the Los Angeles of the South and full of plastic people. Also, I am fully retired and own a house and do not need a woman to support me like a lot of middle aged guys do (I retired from the governement in 2000).

So I figure match.com is just a scam. I read in the Dallas Morning News that it recently (November?) laid off 30% of its staff. Also they used to have 7 day a week help. Now its been cut to 6 days a week. Not a good economic sign.

Lastly, most of the ads have "love to laugh or love to have fun" in them. There is very little orginality. And in comparison to other sites, the women (and men since I do wonder what the competition writes) look much too good. One most sites, really attractive women are few and far between. And an unusual number do have a photo posted. This is notthe norm thogh it is getting easy to post a photo compared to say 4 years ago.

Anyone care to share their experiences with this site?

This seems to be a problem with most dating sites, they are a scam, or most of the women on them think it was a good idea at the time to post there profile while they were between boyfriends, or just bored one night at home or work. In the end, they don't have the "balls" to follow through with the meeting part. They all want to meet prince charming on a white horse, and btw he must have a body like fabio, and have donald trumps money.
Just as a gag, I posted a fake profile with a bodybuilders photo on it, and made up fake bio stuff on it. Most of all the women that responded had put in there bios that they weren't really that interested in looks. However all the women could talk about was what a great body I had, they really weren't interested in who I was. And they say men are dogs, not...

I spoke to some women on sites that just want to see how many hits they get. They never intend on meeting anyone.

I had some luck on match.com... well... with at least getting some contacts. In no way did I send out 600 replies.

The problem with ANY dating site, is the guys out there that are married or just want to get a lay. You have to understand that where you might get 1 email a week, women are getting 100's a week. So, they have to sift through all of those... and they probably get tired of the morons that I mentioned above (married, just want sex, etc)....

I am finding that there are a lot of married people on all of these sites, I am writing a research paper on the topic and find that this is a web of deceit. Does anyone tell the truth anymore? So what if you are balding or have a little weight on you, there is at least one person out there for you. What happened to getting to know someone before brushing them off? Those days are far behind us, everyone is looking for a "perfect" match and that just doesn't exist everyday. Take the time to get to know the person before giving up on them for their looks or lack thereof!

I've utilized Match since my divorce three years ago, and it is decidedly not a scam. It has been my primary method of meeting women, although it's a bit of an art that needs to learned. It's a conversational approach, so some opposite sex social skills need to be developed, you will make plenty of mistakes. Key, chalk it up to a learning experience and don't dwell on it. Obviously women need to feel safe to meet you, so would recommend plain daylight in public and rather nice places. There are women on Match who have a hard time getting off the dime, and with them would recommend moving on, and avoiding endless e mailing, or phone chats. I just ask plain and simple, would you like to meet at such and such a place?

I typically meet new women on Saturday or Sunday afternoons (rarely evenings), right in my own neighborhood. I will even joke to them, because often the same waitress takes the order, so they know I'm a fixture, and am not going to be able to get away with anything of ill intent, too much evidence.

The quality of Match women has generally been pretty high too. You probably won't meet glamour models, but the people are by and large mainstream, and plenty of attractive, and at least acceptable gals. There's some deception (smokers who say not smokers, ten year old photos)at times, but it's not epidemic, if you are smart and alert. It can be work, but most experiences are enjoyable even if they end with a handshake. I had several fine girl friends of the six month variety. I've had some short flings that haven't worked out, and yes there's wild one night stands to found as well, if that's what you want. No set pattern, pretty much runs the gamut of men and women out there in the real world. If one is inclined and has attractive qualities, think one can stay pretty active socially there.

Be aware that Match.com screens your e-mails. If you pay for membership then try to contact someone who is not a paying member and send them your personal e-mail address, Match.com will remove it and substitute it with there talkmatch e-mail. Its not enough that you've already paid for the service... they want to force the non paying member to join up to respond to your e-mail. On my profile page after my membership expired I put in one sentence which said " I am no longer a paying member" to alert women that may try to contact me... Match.com deleted that one sentence three separate times from my profile page. They obviously don't want members to see this information. So if you pay up and don't get any responses to your private e-mail address that's why. All that crap about security and privacy pertaining to e-mail addresses is nonsense... most people use disposable e-mail address thru yahoo and msn that can be easily changed.

I signed up for match.com because a website said it was the best match service on the internet. They must have paid them to say that.

Every man I met on match.com wanted to have unsafe sex on the first "date", no later than the third. I thought that the days of "free love" were over. This was a meat market. Most of the men were rude, selfish, etc. I ended up getting harrassed and had to get a court order against the guy. Most of the men sent me scathing emails because I wouldn't "put out". Relationships, what's that? Oh, yeah, some of th epictures of the guys were from twenty years ago, one guy had black hair in the picture, and white when I met him!

This sight, in my opinion, is a scam. They don't close your file when you drop out, then they tell you some guy/gal is interested but you have to pay to contact them. After you pay, you get no more replies. Was it one of their staff drumming up business?

This sight literally was enough to make me continuing having a sexual relationship with my ex, which these days is as exciting as kissing my brother/sister.

Some guys love this site, they must be sleazy, or maybe it is different for the men.

I would definitely stay away from match.com.

I honestly had a pretty good match.com experience.

I joined for 3 months and within about 2 weeks I had things figured out and I was talking with a number of women. I would log in every night after dinner go through my mails write any replies and they do a quick search for any new matches. By the end of the month I was communicating with quite a few members that I was spending over 2 hours a night on match.com. I ended up going on about 6 dates with 4 different people before I found the women I am still dating now (it is 6 months later).

It was the best thing I ever did joining a dating site. I wasn't getting anywhere on my own and having a pool of potential matches at my finger tips... of people I know are there for the same reason as I am made it so much easier.