I recently found out that my husband was sexting other women. I was devasted after more than 20 years of marriage. I confronted him and admitted it. But seeing my distress, he said he would stop, as for him it is just a game.

I believed him but the trust wasn’t there anymore. And I’m ashamed to say, I started “spying”.
And he didn’t stop - he is still regularly sexting. And each time I manage to check his phone and see another message, it hurts so much. Why do I actually need to inflict this pain to myself?

I’m just back from a 5-day business trip, he picked me up at the airport, we went for lunch with our 2 sons, then I went for a nap. I had hoped he would join me. But instead he sexted again…

I’m scared that if I confront him again ( and will need to say that I spied). our marriage is over…

I'm really sorry to read your story and I know you aren't alone. I think it's an addiction just like porn and everything else. Since he is continuing to do it he prob isn't going to stop any time soon. Its too much fun and too much of a secret thrill to give up. If he is sexting what else could he possibly be doing too? it's time for some serious talks because if you don't it will always bother you.

If he does he once he’ll keep doing it. I know from my own experience.

I’m sorry But it might be time to move on