What load of crap! I have have used ALT over the years (goodness knows why?). I rejoined a week ago. Within three days I was bombarded by women half my age. Even though I specifically asked them not to contact me. Within the first two mails exchanged, I was told to delete my profile and contact her her directly! One female had three profiles leading to the same gmail account - really? Reported her to ALT admin. Zero action taken. Don't waste your cash.

I dunno....I've joined FetLife twice and to me it's quite intimidating. It's not exactly a "folks who are totally new to the community scene and know absolutely no one" place. It' seemed that most everyone already knew everyone else, and almost all talked about their Masters or Mistresses, meaning everyone already seemed locked into their situations, and as a new person I didn't really feel like I fit in. I'm no stranger to the BDSM thing, but just never as part of community, and I was expecting a bunch of totally lost folks like me who knew no one, trying to meet and talk shop and learn together. Everyone seemed a bit clique-y and not really welcoming to new folks, at least in the areas I visited. And it's not exactly a "user friendly" place....it's actually rather confusing and convoluted and I just don't feel comfortable there, at least the times I've visited. And I have no interest in hooking up with anyone, just meeting other green folks who were as lost as I was.

As I said, I thought I was joining a "new people's meeting place where everyone was in the same boat", not a bunch of already-established, already connected folks who had their own little circles.

I guess I kinda wanted someone to "take my hand and show me around", but I was like 100% on my own and actually quite lost.

I recently subscribed to Aussie BDSM and I Amin the process of trying to cancel my subscription. They have sent me a code which does not work and is not valid. I emailed them several times trying to resolve the issue and they will not respond to my request to complete the cancellation of my subscription. I am upset, angry and concerned. DO NOT EVER JOIN THIS SITE. And if you can provide me with any advice on cancelling, I really need help here.

I have tried most fetish dating sites my requirements are very tight because of an age difference and because I am creating a Polly group anyway the sites I have found that are free to communicate but also useable are:

3fun you can only communicate with matches unless you pay

Feter you can only communicate with matches unless you pay

Fet you can communicate with anyone with personal restrictions and use the chat system

Kinkoo similar to fet

whiplr similar to fet

OK cupid works but has gone down hill

All these sites you can find and communicate you will get scammers although they are removed

Do not, repeat, do not go to Fetish.Com. The Help desk is a sorry joke - they don't reply to any questions, then send you a survey email asking how did they do. There are allegedly 'rules' to stop intimidating and bullying - these are applied when the moderators feel like it. They've had tech problems for over a year. Private messages are not private - we've got the proof that members are given information about who complained about them and what the complaint was, even to the length of quoting from the message sent to staff or moderators. There's free or paid membership - all you really get for paid membership is you can look at other peoples' dick pics or see everyone who visited your profile. There's some rules for some members and a completely different set for others. We met some nice people there, but it's definitely a shonky-run outfit. We never paid and we are so glad we didn't. It's as if they're running a play-pen for moderators and a few 'special' members. There are people deleting their profiles within hours of joining. Avoid at all costs. If someone harasses you, and if they're a little moderator 'pet' they're allowed to get away with it. When the moderators refused to deal with the obvious intimidation attempt we were subjected to, we said we'd have to get legal advice where upon we were threatened with instant removal. Us - the victims of the harassment. Not the bully. He's allowed to stay. Got it? They don't know it, but we are getting legal advice, that's how bad it is.

I have used Fetlife for looking up ANR/ABF Lactation fetishes, but their not setup like a dating site more of a social community site, so their search functionality is very lacking, really it terrible compare to a standard dating site. also since they don't really cover my fetish of choice ANR/ABF very well I found it lacking ( they have ANR/ABF groups but it's mostly filled guys with dick pics), so for fetish sites I use ANRelationships.com instead for ANR/ABF, since it's a dating site and has a really good search, easy to use and it's free to join and send messages.

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Totally fake and full of scammers. Decided to spend the money and purchased a one month subscription as a trial. Posted a very detailed and thought out ad for a Mistress. In that month I received 48 replies; all wanting to be my Mistress. All of the 48 were scammers looking for money. They would send me pictures of gorgeous women taken off the internet, would not do any type of video or special picture to confirm their identity. (I always ask them if they won't do a video chat to send me a picture of them touching their nose with their pinky finger). And most of all, by the 3rd email they were asking for money or gift cards...........waste of time and money....all scammers

Has anybody looked into reveriedating.com - it seems new? but a Dominatrix made it and seems legitimate... just not a lot of people yet.

The key thing about most fetish cams is to accept them and not to be ashamed of them. As long as it is not too extreme, you can find women who will probably share it or like it enough to let you do it. Just make sure that you get it out in the open as soon as possible, if it is really important for you. If you get too involved and she can't accept your desires, it will cause problems down the line. For more extreme fetishes, you may have to be a lot more selective about the women that you date or seek some kind of therapy. This may seem harsh, but fetishes have a way of getting out of hand and presenting problems to even the most secure of relationships.

Has anyone tried Kink-Link.com ? I'd love to know what you think.