I spent several hours on a profile thinking some conversation would be nice. I had my account disabled within 12 hours! I realized I was very direct about the fact I am politically active. I believe every level of political office must be held to the highest moral and ethical standards. I work for child and homeless issues. That's it. I was censored by the male-dominated pity party that sits on the site because REAL, educated and financially sound women won't date them. E-harmony is very matter of fact - it could be I am lying about my age, job, etc. Well, I own my own biz, a retired teacher and mother of 6, Christ follower all the way. Do I sound like the type tripping security cues all over the place? Apparently, having a political view outside the "old boys club" means you cannot be a harmonious resident of the e-harmony empire. To their censorship and shameless misogynist agenda - I say PISS OFF then. I have screenshots of all my interactions and - word to the wise - if your profile offends the delicate constitution of its more senior members, they can kick you off AND you forfeit ANY money you ave paid. That is the hidden political agenda at work. That is e-harmony in the USA, censorship, sexism, and political agenda.

If your money is that important to you, just stay single. Then you won't have to spend a dime on anyone but yourself and your tax-deductible business expenses.

Finally a dating site that actually worked for me. I never write reviews but after the crap amount of dating sites I tried, ehamony was the only one in the end that came through. I thought I should

I am a guy in my early 60s and I felt like I was just being scammed and led along on all the other dating apps I tried like Tinder.

So if your in that senior age bracket like me give a eharmony subscription a go.

Just wanted to balance out some of the negativity here and share a positive experience I’ve had on eHarmony, because I know a lot of people come to these forums when they’re frustrated (which I totally get).

For context, I’m early 30s, looking for something serious, not casual. eHarmony worked for me mainly because of how slow and intentional it is, which I know drives some people crazy but honestly ended up being a plus for me.

First big reason: the matches felt way more aligned. I wasn’t getting flooded with random profiles. The people I was matched with generally wanted the same things (long-term, stable, similar lifestyle). Even when there wasn’t chemistry, it felt like we were at least on the same page.

Second, the guided communication helped more than I expected. I thought the questions/prompts would feel forced, but they actually broke the ice and stopped conversations from immediately dying out. It made it easier to get past small talk and into real conversations pretty quickly.

Third, people seemed more invested. Because eHarmony takes time to set up and isn’t swipe-based, most matches actually replied and followed up. Fewer “hey” messages, less ghosting, and more complete conversations compared to apps like Tinder or Bumble.

It’s definitely not for everyone, especially if you want fast matches or casual dating, but if you’re patient and genuinely looking for a relationship, I think eHarmony does what it’s designed to do. It worked for me, and I’m glad I gave it a real shot.

Just wanted to share in case anyone here is on the fence or feeling discouraged.

I actually had a surprisingly good run with eHarmony, mainly because of how different it feels from swipe apps. The first thing I liked was the compatibility quiz... yeah it takes like 15–20 mins, but after that my matches felt way more aligned with what I was actually looking for instead of random profiles

For example, one of my first matches had almost identical lifestyle preferences (same views on kids, similar work-life balance, even little stuff like how we spend weekends), which I’ve never gotten from Tinder/Bumble. The compatibility score breakdown also helped me understand why we matched, which made starting conversations way easier.

Another thing I liked was the quality of people. It didn’t feel like a hookup app at all. Most of the people I talked to were clearly there for something serious, and conversations were way more effort-based instead of just “hey” and ghosting. eHarmony seems to attract more relationship-focused users.