I was contacted once by a guy who was really so full of himself -- I answered back and managed to get some information--little did this guy know I had way to find out information with little info and found he had 11 different addresses in as many years -- he had a business, but wouldn't say what it was and when I called him on it--he got all defensive and called me names -- OMG -- I feel bad for anyone who took him at his word and met him -- I feel I dodged a bullet.

Another one -- he had been married 3 times and was looking for number 4--I declined that -- and yet another one -- had the ring ready -- whatever happened to getting to know people first?

I find that most people men or women are not even looking for anyone, just a chat buddy. Have gone on pof a few times over the years and its either full of women looking for exciting rich perfect men or women who just don't reply or even go on the site anymore. Most women don't look at profiles either, unless you look at theirs first.

Otherwise it would show up in my list of viewers, women can't really be bothered to be honest, which makes it extremely hard and miserable for decent people looking for a relationship. Which makes good men therefore bad men through non-contacts and let downs of site to site continual non-reply or just no messages, unless your great looking with money of course. Theyre all rubbish.

Hello: I am a man who tried my best ...to #1 - be honest, #2 - gave pictures taken 2 months ago, # 3- was serious about what I wrote......I found on this site,,,only ...MOTORCYCLE MAMAs trying to relive their childhood, sports fanatics that would rather go a football game on Sunday..BUT GOD FORBID CHURCH......
Women who show pictures of themselves that only attract sex perverts (if you post 1/2 naked pictures what type of men do you expect to attract?????

I did however find one girl....who was honest,,,the day of the date ...became ill.......
You women have forgot what a woman is!.....They do not make idiots of themselves by flashing their "externals"...so vividly....they do not get tatoos of a ball team on their body..and they have morals and ethics
Sorry ladies who dont like this sight,,,,,this is what you created.......
I still want an old fashioned woman , with family values, believes in GOD and doesn't show her partially clad body to 1/2 the world....
Thank You........

Women beware of OkCupid scams galore I mean it., they make fall in love literally online then before you know it boom there's another person he knows who can communicate for him as he's likely on some highly secretive mission, like come on, just be ware always, I mean always ask for a copy of their passport and you'll likely never hear from then, total scam & they use fake pics of corse of good looking men., they are from Ghana & Nigeria, need I say more!!!!

"Tallwhiteknight"
I am so tired of all the effort i have put in to meet a genuine woman
That wants a long term relationship
All of them fake out of dates
They either ignore my invitation to meet
Or they make up some *censored* excuse
I have found this no different to all the other 6 dating websites i have tried using
It had been nearly two years now
I am one of apparently a few
Very good looking fit healthy young male
I have a great job i am in the fire protection industry
I have a nice car , goals aspirations and i am honest!
I am mature yet also alot of fun
I am also the father of a 7 yr old girl that ive raised myself
Even though it would read as me being an extremelly eledgable bachlor
I cant find one good looking fun woman
Willing to make the effort as i am
To meet
What do i do next
I just want to find love is that
Such a crime

POF is a huge joke. Women on there think they are above royalty (like many who have poste here), and they say "can't find a nice guy, poor me"...but if a decent guy DOES come along, he gets ignored for the tattooed, musclebound, ex-prisoner asshole jerk.
The women seem to think POF is going to be bombarded with fantasy princes who log on to a free site just to throw themselves at women's feet.

I like how women complain that there are married men on there. Yes, there is...but there are married WOMEN on there too! Looking for attention or someone to buy them things and free meals. Women complain about the class of women on there, but sheez...some of the women on there: Welfare mothers with 6 kids and thousands of dollars in unpaid bills and 7 criminal convictions, all looking for a quick "provider" solution. Alot of these are married, too.

And at the end of the day, no matter what women OR men say, POF is all about looks. BOTH sexes (while women don't admit it) only judge you on your photo.

Hi, I am an older woman and I am going to say it is very hard meeting a man on pof, or evow...but then it is for someone my age anyway, but the thing that makes me the most angry is that you keep getting the same matches over and over and over if they didn't answer you the first time what makes you think they will at another time. I am not a bad looking woman but some people take terrible pictures, these men look solely with their manly parts, then their hearts.....if you are really looking for a relationship......then what the heck does it matter what a person looks like if you have alot in common and they are looking for the same thing you are.

Hi I am A'Nena. I am 47, I decided to give POF, Zoosk, Afroromance, evow a try and well...I still have not found the right guy. I always have recent pictures and the guys that I have meet always comment how I look just like my pictures. I always find that unbelievable that someone will post a picture that is not recent. I've dated from all sites together about 19 guys that all said they wanted a long term like I want but when we met they all wanted booty calls...so I keep looking and hoping to find the right guy.

These dating sites are horrible! Guys tell the girls what they want to hear and then think of you as an entree in a buffet. All they want to do is go to bed with a girl and move on to the next entree to have sex with.

I'm doing research on the internet, social media and its impact on cultural values. If you don’t know already, there is virtually no way to verify anything someone puts on the internet. Pictures could be of anyone. Names could be false; descriptions could be false; motives for making personal descriptions are impossible to know for certain. And being open with strangers, people you know absolutely nothing about, is dangerous. Why would anyone consider it?

If I were looking for a serious relationship today, I'd try to find someone that I personally have met and have passed the basic selection criteria that I establish for myself. They can lie about themselves also of course but after talking to them for awhile and if you are a fair judge of people, one can usually determine who is being truthful.

Even then, there is no guarantee that you will get along together for any length of time. Over half of all marriages fail. So what do you expect?

I’m afraid that life isn’t a dream, nothing is easy and finding someone to spend your life with is one of the most difficult things you will ever have to deal with.

I’m male but I find most men to be total jerks and can’t imagine how any woman with any self respect would look at them. The sad fact however is that there is still a lot of gender discrimination in opportunity and this still puts women at a disadvantage in chances for success in life. And this all leads to a lot of unhappy people searching for solutions to problems that don’t have any solutions that an individual could find useful or even possible.

So the best advice is to determine what you need to stay alive. That should be your starting point. If you don’t have the essentials required to keep yourself healthy and happy, imagining you will find someone else willing to provide it for you is wistful thinking to an extreme.

I can tell you this: whatever you think now, the world will look a lot different to you in 20 years and the worse thing would be to end up in a time and place that you never thought could exist. And that is probably what will happen to you.