I would definitely stay away from wildspank.com and lafirstdates.com - these are total rip-offs. Right now, my go-to casual dating site is adult friend finder. Fair price, lots of real members (plenty of fake ones too though). Other guys have some positive experiences too.

only use free sites dont give card details to anyone to prevent scams,most are very untrustworthy to the point of criminality

Free sites are just full of scammers.

The only good sites for actual hookups is adultfriendfinder.com.

All the others a re a waste of time and money.

Any updated recommendations? I hated AFF the first time, but may have to give it another try since it seems there's not much else out there?

AFF works for me. Took a bit of time but I have met a few people from it now (in the state of NY).

It's by no means perfect but it is the best option out there. All the other sites I tried seem to be either scams or just escorts.

I agree adult friend finder or ALT (same company) is the best options. They could be better but at least they have actual members unlike fling or benaughty

I tried AFF last year. It was a total scam. The majority of the profiles were fake. They love bomb you when you sign up on the free account. Once you pay those love bombing you don't exist. My In Box was continually filled with scammers and fake profiles. Their business design represents the worst of dating sites. They are corrupt.

There are some real users on AFF, but a lot of them seem to be the weird fetish types that aren't looking for one on one.

The problem is a lot of the other sites seem to be almost 100 percent fake.

As I said in another comment, AFF members are real but it does take a while to find the active ones. I have a subscription that allows free members to reply back to me and not a lot of them do. I assume these profiles are older and the person has moved on from hookup type sites.

I have tried many sites and none of them work. Most I find now are using chatbots to simulate a womans conversation with me. Others just use people to pretend to be interested in you so you will just spend the services message credits. They just want to make money and string you along as long as possible.

I wish AFF was better... it works but requires a lot of work for me (a man in his 60s).

Has anyone tried the Feeld app? Apparently is matches based on what type of kink you are into.