yes that is true POF is a joke, and now I am learning so is evow, I was on POF cause a few of the people I know have had some luck on there and I met two guys one was a complete weirdo and the other made promises of being there until he got what he wanted and was gone, if I just wanted a booty call I can find that around my hometown I dont need to go to a dating website for that, its a shame that people take advantage of the honest people that are trying different ways to meet people

I have to say I'm pretty disapointed as well. I tried to create an account on eVow and it wount even let me do that . All I get is a screen say only available in certain countries.... well the US was among the ones excepted . I live in florida , how can it not recognise that a florida area code, zip code , address, and valid e-mail address. Not to mention the IP address. What a crock is right.

Yes unfortunately this site is a sham. You see the same guys over and over again they lie about there age or picture or other information. Out of the 7 guys I met only two said who they were and looked like their picture the rest were liars smh. And it's true most of the men want a booty call are tired of there married life or just aren't getting satisfied in the bedroom it's a shame. An d the so call matches and the contacts r false cause once u view a profile they automatically match u up with that person which I find stupid . Well seriously thinking of deleting my account after the new year and meeting someone the old fashion way through friends or at lounge or club. Also short and chunky or short and currvy are still the bad category and most men prefer those women that like models oh well

I am fascinated by everything I'm reading here. Men saying women on POF or match are players, cheaters, cougars, looking for a lay or whatever else, and women are echoing the same about men.

Let me add my two cents and experience, and this is directed at those saying that people on match or POF are anti social or freakish looking, and that's why they're on the website. I am as social as you can be, when I get the chance to be out and about, and when I say I look good, I mean I turn heads. I am very normal, and by god consider myself intelligent, and physically fit (not my imagination). But here's what happens when you have the responsibility of running a very hectic government program: you work an average of 14 hour days, weekends too, and those around are the married ones or the truly freakish ones (mind and body) who think that because I'm single, I'll be desperate to go out with them. I don't do bars, I don't drink, and I am limited in my circle of friends for several reasons.

I'll agree with the comment that you can find the psychos even in church. I had the horrible luck while on assignment to meet a gentleman who swept me off my feet, was amazing in every aspect; brains, looks, respected my boundaries about not wanting to have sex early in the relationship........ fast forward ....... lied about his age (he looked much younger), married for 25+ years with children. Which makes me the guilty party for continuing to be busy and not paying attention to the signs, and naive for thinking since I have never cheated on someone, the universe can not possibly screw me over.

When all is said and done, you're either on these sites because you're honestly searching, or you're looking for a quicky since your significant other or lack of, are not cutting it for you. But to generalize that most people on them are Ted Bundy's spawns, and that goes for both the men and women writing these reviews, shows you have defeated yourself, and given up without any help from sneaky Bob or slutty Susan. So what do you expect?

I joined POF as a matter of fact a few days ago, and did not and will not post a photo. If the write up doesn't get a response (so far some really weird matches), I'm ok with that, since this is a first attempt. If I don't try something, "he" will not materialize at my door out of thin air.

Happy New Year

yeah knight in shiny armor my ass... yea there tarnished and a little rusty....my mr perfect hahahahha yea right if we were perfect we wouldnt need net dating and as far as i seen they want a free ticket...im a nice guy but hell they dont want that and wow soon as you put a real pic out there they run. Pack of Fools and Ecow are just that i get more commitment from my mailman at least she shows up when she says so lol and i guess its another lesson in "you get what you pay for"

I have been on POF twice in 5 years. I am a male, I post updated pictures and post my real age...etc...I honestly don't think I have met up with one woman on this site that showed me an updated picture. Whats so hard about taking a picture? I notice a lot of the same woman on there who have the same pictures from 5 years earlier. It is a free site and a lot of people both male and female are on there for a "quick lay" and say they want to have a serious relationship to draw people in. It sad theree is no honesty in this world today. My last relationship from this site ended up being a drug addict who hid it so well untill 3 years past then robbed me for everything I had. People need to wake the hell up and be honest..

Dam-it. These site are so disapointing. Cant a guy just find somebody serious that dont lie say there penciltucky and for real well they s ay yea but right now there in some country tqking care of there sick parents and there millions they have. But asking to send them money to transfer the million In my name or for a one wa y plane ticket to comee meet me. How much they loved me from the start. What the start are you kidding me that was only the second email. Lmao. I just want somebody to be honest. I guess that could only happen if I was a wacko and married my mom. Aaaaah not weirdo or woukd that even happen. Oh well. Let me know when a I can post again thanks.

Just created a profile for eVow thinking it might be a REAL matching site .. and, of course, it wasn't.

I see no difference between eVow and POF that is significant matching-wise.

In addition, eVow has apparently been around for more than a year and they STILL default a city incorrectly from a zip code and WON'T let you change it -- that's a glaring newbie-site bug!

Also, when I type a word, eVow won't respond to a keystroke about once every five keystrokes, and I have a lot of words missing letters!

I'm a man, and the site does boast of being 70% women, so my odds are supposed to be good.

But that's all I see with eVow.

I joined e-harmony for a short time about six months after Dr. Warren created it, when he said 66% of the members were women. That turned out to be meaningless, as the e-harmony matching engine is worthless by virtue of overkill.

For me, the ideal site would be free, would have very little info to enter, just pictures and basic location and relationship/kid status stuff .. and then it would have a fully explained Keirsey Sorter matcher, where you can take the quiz and then dial a from-and-to range on each of the four scales (E-I, S-N, T-F, J-P) and configure to your own personal liking a template profile for a psychological character-temperament search (along with age, location, and the like).

That will give you a list of those matching your criteria.

Then you select someone you find attractive from that list and request to communicate with them.

If they agree, then you're each charged $5.00 to open free-form e-mail communication between you.

The rest is up to the two of you.

No more paying monthly fees to find no one of value or wading through tons of unattractive profiles looking for a needle in a haystack -- the search engine truely WORKS for you.

The Keirsey Sorter is based on Jung's work with archetypes and character-temperament typology, upon which the Myers-Briggs is also based, and has been nothing but accurate, as Keirsey's book "Please Understand Me II" recommends, in matching compatible people in different endeavers, including mating.

Really, the era of the POF, eVow, Match -type sites should have long ago ended.

Sadly, e-harmony failed to create a true matching engine, and Chemistry.com, though employing a great temperament-finding quiz, focused on matching OPPOSITES, a recipe for quick hot "chemistry" sex, but eventual break-up when the couple wakes up six months later next to a "stranger" .. and eventually Chemistry stopped doing any real matching at all.

The better spousetrap has yet to be built.

I am a 36 year old male and I started on Okcupid.com. I liked the format, the layout and the matching system. However, I am very particular and didn't find many matches in my area so I tried PoF. I thought PoF had lots of yucky male centric ads with lots of people both male and female looking for casual dating or sex. I found PoF much less user friendly and the matching was practically nonexistent. I was thinking of trying eVow but everyone's reviews have me thinking I might try one of the paid sites instead. I did have luck meeting a couple of nice people on Okcupid just nothing that became long-term. My main complaint on both sites is that I write very nice 3-4 sentence notes to people and seldom get a response, not even a thank-you, but no thank-you. I always take the time to write someone back when they initiate communication, I just feel it's the polite thing to do and wish others thought the same. Best of luck to everyone.

Sorry to say this, but most free dating sites are full of ugly men, as I'm a female I'm sure that some guys think this about the females. I have 69 men want to meet me, and would not give one of them the time of day.
I have met a couple of guys from theses sites and their pictures and description were nothing like them.
As I said, I'm sure some of the guys have found the same of some of the females