Hi,

I have a question for you. It isn't about dating but it is about something very similar to your statement about the women from Ghana and their mum and dad passing away in an auto accident at the age of 18 years old. She is living with her Grandmother and has been living wither her since the death of her parents. This is very different and yet it is very similar. I was caught in the snare of sending money, because she isn't working but she is going to get her certification on hair stylist. She told me that she and her Grandmother only have milk and bread for their daily food. But in this situation I met her on a site called "meet me", and the way she told me made me realize that she was serious. Her first statement was she wasn't into any drama and she don't play any games but she was interested in talking to me. I agree to chat with her and she told me to go to this site called "hangout", there she told me about love and what it is suppose to be and what love is really like, we talked about everything. I was like "hmmm okay" she seems promising. I saw pictures of her and I was blown away by her beauty. She told me she had one boyfriend and he cheated on her to the point of a painful discovery of his cheating. My thought was could she be "cat fishing?" I was very skeptical and I asked her to send me a picture with her standing with a note saying my name followed with "this is me with her name and date it. She did just that. I asked for an I.D. card and she sent that. She has done everything I requested without hesitation. But I am still skeptic and I'll tell you why. In her country there is a tradition that they do before they get married called "I.N.F.", which mean "Inform the Family." According to her they go into the village and inform the elders the "King" of the village and all the family members, kind of like when a man asks his lady to marry him and if she says "yes" she announces it to her family and friends about her engagement and everybody is excited and happy for her and they want to meet the husband to be. So, in her situation they go and have a meeting about the news and agree that she should be married to him. And after that they have the celebration called "I.N.F." But here's where it get suspicious for me. The "groom" is suppose to send a certain amount of money for her celebration. Her Grandmother told me that he "groom" is to pay for the beer (50 cases) goats for the feast (five goats), the clothing material the place of the ceremony/celebration. The price that is paid will be determined on the what all she can do as far as the ceremony is. For instance, if I send oh, say, $15,000.00 it will be a pretty good size ceremony. So the larger the money the bigger the ceremony. Okay, again, I was skeptic so she had me to look it up on YouTube to prove or show me how it works. Everything seems promising. Oh by the way, she told me that the money don't come to her but to the people who is going to set up the ceremony. OH, BY THE WAY she is rich according to her and her Grandmother. Her dad left her a large sums of money over $20 million in gold. and according to her dad he wanted her to meet someone special and he want her to genuinely fall in love with each other and not only that, all of her property/estate will be signed over to him the "groom". The family lawyer will contact me after the I.N.F., ceremony and sign over all of her property to me and I can get us a home and she can get her passport and visa and do all the necessary paperwork to come to America and be a U.S. citizen and we can live happily together. Now, I said all that to ask this. Can anyone tell me if this "I.N.F., is in fact real or legit or what? because I am getting ready to send the funds over to her (but not directly) so that she can have the ceremony and the family lawyer will contact me thereafter and ask me some questions and then send me the documents of her property/estate and then sign everything of property over to me. He will even ship her gold to me as well to any place I want. I have never heard of anything like this. Honestly, I don't care about her property I just care and love her and I only want to be with her. However, if the money is indeed real then it wont hurt to pay some of the bills. I just want to know if the I.N.F is real or am I being taken advantage of. She asked me for my phone number, I gave it to her and she directly called me just to hear my voice and after that we were back chatting again she told me that I had a very nice voice. I have talked to her three times already.

Thank you for your input and support and information. It will be greatly appreciated.

P.S. She got angry with me last night because I told her that I was going to ask someone here in America about the "inf" to prove that it is legit to my friend. She told me not to do that because there are many different cultures in Ghana and she named off a few and they wouldn't know about it because they have their own way of celebrating someone getting married. And that raised a flag of warning in me. So this is why I am really asking someone about this. If you have any information on this tradition in Ghana I really would like to know.

Thank you sincerely "Jack".

it wasn't me who wrote this but sounds familiar, I have a few names, Stephanie Steward, Evelyn Asante, and I think her real name is Patricia Osei.

same as many here.. now contact thru email and skype.. she in ghana with mum.. dad is dead . webcam freezes up , but did see her on it , no volume to hear her either , ex beat her and divorced, look for older mature man now.. i offer to buy webcam and send to her and she refuse this, say she not want me to spend my money on her , she seems honest and upfront with true honest intentions but my guard is up , i told her i will visit her next month to see if we do have the chemistry for marriage , she seemed happy about this and i feel same..i do not like to bear false witness against anyone or to be judgemental until i know this for fact,she wanted me to remove my post on dating site we met on and i did,and then she asked for my password to it and she would remove it..which put red flag up for me,i told her she need to trust me on this and she agree,, so..needless to say i confused but im not a dumbass either.. ive been on other culture dating sites and visited the country twice and felt used by the women i met.. so.. i never do that again...anyway.. any constructive criticism would be welcomed.. thanks in advance... me

I met a special one tonight. I had 3 girls wanting to chat with me my on gmail with the same stories, live with mum, dad is dead. I called them all out and 2 of them just stopped responding because I think they knew I busted their scam plans. BUT there is one girl who told me they were full of it and she was real. She offered to send me pics and she sent them but I told her I still wasn't convinced. So I kindly asked her to webcam me, which she did. There she was, same girl in the photos, talking to me on the webcam. She still wanted to convince me she was only looking for love. So she asked me if it was ok if she called me. She did, she had an accent but spoke decent english. As a matter of fact she called me twice telling me to please trust her and that all she wants is a trusting relationship. I am still unsure about her. It doesn't help that she is very cute and attractive. I plan on playing along until the red flags start coming in but for now she still wants to convince me she only wants a relationship and a loving partner. Just to clear things up, I don't ever plan on sending money even if it's a $1 but I am very curious how this is going to turn out.
What are your thoughts on this? Does this sound like a scam or what????

I am glad that I am not the only one seeing this. I have tried multiple sites most all for free at the beginning I was dumb and paid for a couple. I would say that 90% of the "girls" are in Ghana. They tell me because once I am suspicious I make a comment how African women turn me on, then they tell me they are in Ghana! This has been happening on every dating site I go to now. It has become a game for me to see if I can find a true American, so far I am batting 0! If I want the truth you play the game for awhile they say how they love you so much! (after 5 minutes on a chat?) then in a couple of days and they say they are in lets say New York, or L.A. most common places. I say I used an internet sniffer on them as we were chatting and did a reverse Ping and see that they are NOT in this country, WOW do they start cussing me out and say if I don't trust them they are leaving me now. I ask again to tell me the truth where are you, they get upset and I never hear from them again. LOL I like to mess with them for a change and play the game back at them. Some times they think I am about ready to sent a $1,000 then I hit them up with that! Oh what fun!

Has anyone received a friend request on FB from Cendy James ? She's a beautiful blonde with a beautiful body. I have been chatting with her since December . Not 100% sure but I think she is trying to scam me.

Same ole story here too.. Anyone in touch with Gloria Oseni from Ghana? Wants cell and ring..

Anyone that falls for any of these scams deserves to lose their money, its so obvious all the time. If someone you have never met asks you for money then say no...simple. If anyone asks for any personal information like bank details or pin numbers then say no. If you can't manage that then don't go on the internet or use a phone.

They even ask for money, $100., $150., one ask me for a Diamong ring. They all said they love you.

Do your research guy.she is known as the number 1 scammer of all..I know her and still talking to her.She knows how to play her game.Yes she is a beautiful women but she is tons of trouble.Stay clear and do your research.