I feel I must add my comments about Netrelate. Not a good site at all to join. Been there...done that and never want to do it again. The staff members are rude and if you get on the bad side of some of the members (who turn out to be forum moderators) they will make your experience a living hell. I am a very quiet and shy person and the rudeness displayed there (and the foul language) shocked me and the staff are very unprofessional.

If you are thinking of joining, join as a free member because once you start shelling out money, you realize that it was a terriible waste.

In Peace and Sisterhood,
Sister Raven (Yes, I am a Nun, hence why I didn't appreciate the excessive profanity there)

• Well, that's interesting to hear. It was NEVER like that, but then again, the face of the Internet as we all knew it continues to change as more and more people go anonymous on it. NONE of what you shared was EVER tolerated when I played on there in the past.
  
  
• Such a shame someone had that kind of experience as, again, it has been a decent site to me in the past. Admittedly haven't been over there in a long time, though, as it really does come off as for the more childish at heart.
  
  
• Have you been over to CraigsList yet..? Warning, though: You will still find cyber bullies and trolls aplenty there, but you can flag and/or rate posts at will in combination with other members to vote things off to the Isle of Misfit Threads. If you are as sensitive as you are describing yourself to be, DEFINITELY leave the Psych Forum for your "better" days. Durn near most of the site is and will be free from here to who knows when from the looks of it, too..
  
  

Hey Out. No, that is the very first time I have heard of Craigs list?? That is a dating site?

Yep, NR has turned into a rotten egg. Admin there are extremely paranoid and claim to have no censorship in their private groups but they do censor and snip members at will. The site mods are disguised as regular members and if they don't like you, you are gone.

I don't recommend that anyone waste their money on a membership there but to use it as a free tool to make new friends and once the friends are made, jump ship when it becomes nasty.

I agree 100% with Raven on Netrelate. It used to be a good site, but in the last month or so it went way downhill. I was on a year and a half. As to EHarmony, I would like to warn people it is a conservative christian site, even though the commercials don't say that. Atheists routinely find they sign up and have "no matches." The only exception is if they maybe have some conservative/christianlike views, such as being against abortion. If that's your thing, hey, but if not you should know about it.

The short answer: NO! The lnog answer is NO because if you ansswer honestly and are average in your income, ambitions, just an average person then you will get a message saying that there are no members who are compatable. Othewords, to get matched you probably have to lie. I took the damned test and answered honestly and that is what I got after about an hour of my time. Just another scam site that is so expensive that it can advertise on some of the low rent cable channels late at night. And the 'real' couples are nothing to write home about as far as looks.

I've had an eHarmony membership for a while now(almost a year). Trust me, It's not worth it. All of your matches are going to be well...and I mean WELL outside your search radius and no one fixes that. I've emailed them several times about the problem and they haven't fixed it. I have my search radius set to 60 miles and ALL of my matches have been over 1000 miles away. I don't care how you do that, when you do the math, it's not possible to have 1000 miles show up when speaking about a 60 mile radius. Also, be prepared to wait FOREVER to hear replies from your matches if you do get any. It took one match over 3 weeks to respond. What's up with that? I mean if you don't seriously have the time to sit down for 5 minutes and reply to a simple email how the hell are you going to have enough time for the "love of your life"?....DON'T waste your money on eHarmony, I already did, if there's anything good that can come out of this experience please someone listen to my mistake and don't make the same mistake I did.

After 22 years, my husband told me he was "miserable in our marriage". I am a total newbie. All I want is to go out on a date (mind you I'm a suburban mother of two who owns a small retail business). I want to get dressed up and go out. I will add that I'm not going to be the bitter divorcee, because- yuck. Can you imagine? Did I mention that I'm a newbie? What sight is the right one? I know this question is general, but I don't know how to begin...

To me@42,

eHarmony is a good dating site to try for your first one. If you are like me (I am 42 as well) then you are looking for a long term relationship and you want to take things slow (I have 3 kids from a previous marriage). It took me a while to figure out how to best use eHarmony but once you do it is easy to drop your matches a message. I found eHarmony's matches to be decent quality and easier for me since I didn't really want to search for people anymore.

It is exciting at first to search for the man of your dreams (I tried plenty of fish first) but you soon find it depressing since I found most of the guys a either do not answer you on plenty of fish or if they do you soon fine they are not the person they say they are on their profile. Most of the men on plenty of fish are just looking for sex.

I also find the cost of eHarmony prevents most men who are not really interested in a relationship from joining so that is fine by me as well. The other good site you probably have heard of is Match. There automated matching is not as good as eHarmony I found but they allow you to search manually for members and if you want to do that I would give them a try.

I think dating sites like eharmony are just to expensive for what they offer. It is much better to go out and meet people in real life and interact with them in a meaningful way. Trying to talk to someone by messages or sending texts on your phone is okay but it is so much easier to figure out if you want to date someone by actually MEETING them.

I find churches tend to have a lot of single events. I would suggest calling your local church to see if one is coming up. You will be glad you did and about $70 richer because that is how much eharmony costs.

I have a question.

It says on the eHarmony website that it is free to communicate. Is this really true or are they just saying this so you join the site. What I really want to know is can I email other members and can they email me without paying?

thanks