So selfish.

this post strikes a bad bad cord with me because my exwife strung me along for years because of money. not f*cking love. I realized too late that she loved the money that I made and what I did for her. She was lazy and i did more than my share for her and the kids and she just floated along for the ride......She did not love me at all but loved that i worked hard while she had an easy life and she thanked me by having sex with other men while she lived off my money. how did I find out? firm evidence -

1) her best friend told me about it after she got in an argument with my exwife. her friend gave me screenshots where my exwife talked about the guys, what they did and where they did it, and said she will never leave me because I'm her golden ticket --- she can't leave money and her easy life.

2) i found a shirt in our bed at the bottom under the covers that wasn't mine or hers while i was changing the sheets. I asked her if it was true.... deny deny deny... i love you she said.... let's make things work..... she played me over and over again. she blamed her bad decisions on me. yes, i'm why she slept with dudes. no accountability at all and no remorse. She kept me around for a comfortable life and knowing i would buy her what she needed and let her buy what she wanted, keep the bills paid and things in place. she held it over me that she was the mother to my kids and that gave her the right to use me this way. my kids were her ticket to manipulate me. she didn't just play me she played my mom and talked to her about how the issues in the marriage were because of me. my mom is a widow and retired and spent her days helping my ex figure out how to win me back. coached her. f*cking crazy. my own mom forgave my ex for sleeping around and using me for money and said i needed to try harder with her. in the last few months of marriage, my ex told me she was done sleeping around and money wasn't important to her at all. she loved me and wanted to make it work. she was 'trying'....

I then found evidence #3 that sealed it which I'm not going to even type here because it's f*cking disgusting.

marriage isn't about money for christ's sake.

Wow there is alot to digest here and in the post from @nnyleinnus. I don't see how people can stick with a partner just because of finances. Sure it might be tough to separate and manage your own finances, but that isn't the reason why two people should stay married/ "My husband makes a TON of money" and "how much can I get from him?" are huge red flags on the "marriage". Then, the response post where the wife stuck with the husband because of money, but cheated on him over and over? She then lied to him that she was done sleeping with other people, and money wasn't important__ and then this was just another lie? People need to wake up and see the truth from toxic people and toxic marriages.

undeniable now...... for real???

Another Lie???

Hate the story but love that you are moving on and creating the life you want

Money seems like the driver here and not love. Sad.

This seems familiar story

This is what marriage has come to in 2021.

and maybe 2022