agree

Have anyone with any life experience read your question. Anyone with any common sense. The minute you opened up your marriage was the end of your marriage.

Trust is gone so this isn't going to work anymore. once it's gone it is gone.

No one suggested intensive couples therapy. Maybe other people see the writing on the wall but this is an option.

Therapy would be a horribly painful process. Given her stories over the last years+……. I can’t imagine it

found you again!

Open marriages do not work no matter what rules are in place. Desire to open the marriage means you should end the marriage and find love and happiness with another person. Open marriages hurt everyone in the end, but divorces are new beginnings.

you don't love him, or you wouldn't have sex with other people. period and vice versa. your kids will benefit from separation and getting away from the toxicity. wake up and stop pretending like you care.

I agree with @Carolyn. Say you weren't even married and were just dating you'd prob want to end that dating relationship if your partner didn't want to be with only you. It doesn't make sense to be married or dating or anything with this person.....

My mother told me years ago when I was looking to get married that if/when someone strays in a marriage, it is almost impossible to save. They strayed because you or vice versa weren't important enough for them to remain committed. It will always be in the back of your mind and you will never forget the circumstances around it. How can you work hard and provide for someone that doesn't respect you enough to keep true to only you? You really cant because the trust and respect is gone.......

You aren't enough for them or vice versa....... and if you weren't enough then you will never be so guess what you will be doing for your entire life? you'll be wondering what they are up to and with who..... that is no way to live and people in committed relationships don't waste a minute of their time with these thoughts......

If you're considering divorcing your spouse, talk to them about it before taking any legal action. Try to come up with a plan that will be best for both of you if the marriage does end. It's important to remember that divorce can be a long and drawn-out process, so make sure you are mentally prepared for this.