I stumbled on AM by accident. Frankly, I was just horny and wanted sex without any strings attached. Sounded ideal. If I really did just want sex, NSA, I'd be able to do that all day long with guys from this site.

But I didn't find many guys I was attracted to. Most of the guys were crude, with crude names (with names including "69" or "f8cker"or similar words) and unflattering pictures. If they did write their interests, their grammar was horrible and they didn't hide their lechery. So guys, tidy yourselves up in your writing and photos.

I did meet a few guys who I had drinks with. These were "nice guys" who knew how to write, knew how to talk with me.They paid for my drink. We agreed to meet for sex. But--the sex wasn't great. And the kissing was even worse.

Now, I have two more prospects and I am hopeful that both the kissing and the sex will be awesome. If it's as bad as the previous attempts, I will give up on AM forever.

Guys, you need to know that WOMEN CANNOT BUY CREDITS TO SEND MESSAGES. We MUST send our messages collect. Women's memberships are always free, NEVER paid. That's why our messages come to you collect, so please don't tell us "no collect messages." We can't do anything about it.

Please, don't ask for my key until we've EXCHANGED messages at least a few times. I am picky about who I send my key to, for obvious reasons.

AM is NOT a scam. But it has a lot of loser guys on it, unfortunately.

It is a scam they keep ripping off by charging your card with hidden fees. The customer service doesnt help. Very rude. Fake women (bots)

It is. Ok, not a scam per say, but very close... very “misleading”.
Initially, quite long time ago, in the beginning, online dating was much more real, and much less sites, etc… All gone…
Now, generally, like all the rest of on-line dating, it is just became money generating machine selling the dream to man… Just count how many site you know?

Let’s be honest, we read all of those reviews, and yet… we go and create profiles there, and pay … Why? Because still there is a hope that you actually get lucky and eventually will come across that minority of real profiles, which do exist… but very few.

Especially after reading the "happy ending" stories, like here… wait a year, pay for a year and finally you MAY get lucky… Did you noticed, that a few years back happy stories were a bit different? They were much more direct denial of “fakeness”, and about quick and easy success… not anymore, as it became obvious that is not a case

Yes, I have used it as well. Absolute majority are “rubbish”. There were may be just a couple of genuine girls/messages , easily distinguished by their response. Not worth it.
If you can afford to spend that much time on-line, do the same in real life, and your success rate will be better. At least you will spend the same year actually talking to the girls or trying ..

There are couple of other sites, which are slightly better. I still trying to use, but in very limted form, as time spent there does not tranlates into better scores. More like a lottery, Do not ask which, I will not answer, because if I do, my response will look like another “fake” or “ad” of other sites, plus it depends on where you are anyway...

My experience is that the site itself runs scams on its own paying customers. Having subscribed using the intro offer, I made my profile and uploaded my pix and got to work. As a bit of a web dating alumnus I am familiar with various site scams, and the Ashley Madison subscription model not only makes it easy for the site itself to scam its own paying customers, but it makes it painfully obvious that it is, in fact, the site itself doing it and not some outside influence.

By using a credits-for-mail model there's nobody else who can benefit from wasting your credits, than the site itself. At least with pay-per-month sites where the features are then open to use, outsiders can lure you to offsite email addresses and pay sites. With Ashley Madison it's blatant that forcing you to spend credits simply to see mails, since kiting you in this manner can do nothing but enrich them.

And this is exactly what they do. You will receive unsolicited 'collect' mails from profiles which appear to be women daters [I'm a man] which cost you to open. Only then can you see that it's a single, non-personal spam line of text of less than say, 10 words, asking if you want to chat [sent when you are obviously not online, as site shows if you are] or asking how your search is going or any other number of banal quick questions that were obviously not directed to you specifically. If you then reply it costs another 5 credits, even though the site assures you that replies are free if you haven't initiated contact yourself. many of these fake ambassador profiles will even have spurious 'user feedback' readings beneath them. Additional credits can be wasted asking them to show their 'private showcase' pix [most fakes have this indicator].

All in all, avoid it like the plague; I can see luring non-paying tryout profiles into getting a subscription but then scamming people who have already paid is ever lower scum-business than that.

I have absolute rock solid proof that AM is complete load of BS. After setting up my account, and paying the big sum of money to get going, I had the no response treatment .... I tried freaking everything i could think of, but not one single response. Not even a "Hi thanks for the mail" or "Sorry but I am busy with someone else" I mean. NOTHING. So to prove it was a scam and only working with facts, I set up a fake account, as a female so that I could be notified of new male memebers joining the site. For 2 months every day I received mail from both my accounts. I can absolutely confirm that the ratio is more than 50 to 1 in RSA. My bet is that at least 1 in 50 guys suspect this is a scam and hence they create a fake profile to prove it leaving my maths sound.

You have more luck getting lucky, at a lesbian convention than AM. If you did meet someone through this "service" consider yourself lucky. Put your money back in your pocket go into the real world and work the crowd you have a 99% better chance at a hit.

It's a total scam, the only women I came across were looking for sugar daddy's or were advertising their services.

I went through 200 credits and not one reply from a genuine person.

AM is the PERFECT SCAM. I won't rehash all the stuff about fake profiles and hidden charges thats already been said. But AM is the perfect scam because they can steal your money- and you can't do a thing about it. People have a lot to lose if they are connected to this site, so no one will make a ruckus and draw attention to themselves. AM knows this and banks on it.

The other culprit that enables the AM scam is the media. While many news programs and websites try to attack AM by decrying it as vulgar and devoid of morals- they are actually helping AM. When people see AM talked about on the news, they think its a real site and are tempted into using it. All the hollering about AM encouraging affairs distracts people away from the real crime- that AM is defrauding people. Its the same trick magicians use- hold something flashy with your left hand so they audience doesnt see what you're doing with your right hand.

AM is fake! DO NOT GIVE THEM YOUR MONEY.

This site IS a scam. the ladies only want to chat on their website. I tried to get a few ladies to chat on the phone and received absolutely no contact. They probably are employees of ashley madison and their goal is to sucker
someone into buying tokens. HUGE RIPOFF

I've been on Ash/Mad for about three weeks now. I'm male. Men, you can do a simple test to see how many women to men are on the system in your area and age group. You need to set up both a male and female account. (I think it is unethical to allow the female account to be visible because dozens of men will spend credits trying to contact you -- that could quickly mount up to hundreds of dollars wasted.)

Once you have these accounts do an advanced search in both the female account and the male account for your area and age group. I recommend searching for people active in the last seven days.

I my large mid western town I found that males outnumbered females anywhere from 10 to 15 to 1. So you can see that males have a low probability of hooking up. You have to hope the woman finds any of you acceptable and better than the other 14 (actually she'll have dozens or hundreds.)

Another factor is what I call robot accounts. These are probably Ash/Mad accounts. They usually have full face pictures (odd for attached women) and are either on line a lot, or were on line either 4 or 12 hours ago. They seem to cycle through those specific times. My guess is that they make up 10-20 percent of the "hits" I get in my area and age group. I'm sure that density varies over location and age group.

So far I've contacted 55 women. Approximately 30 percent then viewed my profile. That's a good indication that they were real people. Three asked for photo access and one gave me her email. None have granted me photo access.

I don't have a "public" photo which I am sure depresses results, all though I am not a particularly handsome man, so that might be a wash.

So those are my results so far. I might expriment with a public photo of some sort. But being married, that seems awful risky.

There are definitely fake profiles on AM (and is unbelievably cheeky of these profiles to persist three years later) but also real women! I've had no less than five great hookups since joining three years ago, two of whom I still see on a regular basis.

The trick to overcome the 15:1 guy:girl ratio without wasting all your credits is to find a way to get interested women to notice and come to you. Create a compelling original profile and then try to draw the ladies out with winks and keys to your photo portfolios. The serious ladies will self-select., saving you tons and tons of time and money. Trust me.