Good for you! So with that much claimed success, what is your secret to AM?

Be very careful how you spend your credits, there definitely are lots of fake profiles, old dormant profiles and scammers...

After having joined wait a week and avoid all messages u rcv in that first week....
Avoid anyone who hasnt been on line for 7+ days may well be somone who just joined out of curiosity never to come back to site
Avoid anyone who hasnt bothered to take the time to fill out a written profile if someone is interested they are going to have put some written information in their profiles about themeslves
Never chat on AM instant Messenger total waste of time and anyone asking u to do so prob AM employee

I have started each conversation with either free winks or adding people to favorites, check to see who is viewing your profile. Not a single chick has actually sent a paid message to me so ur going to have to weed your way through which collect messages to accept and which return winks to reply to. Of the paid messages ive sent ive at least had a conversation with about 50% be polite and courteous but also get to the point as its most likely the woman is not just talking to you, they are recieving 2-300 messages at a time. Try and get her to swap email addresses, if you get that far you are really in good shape and its now down to you to seal the deal

OK..SO I have been an AM member for almost 2 years off and on. I have purchased the minimum package of credits maybe 2-3 times. First off there are many many fake profiles. You will need the patience to sift and sort through the fake ones. Examples of the fakeness: IF you in your 40s 50s and your getting messages from girls in their 20s with super hot profile pics chances are they are fake. I have seen at times on the site when all the long time profiles in your local area are all online at the exact same time as if a switch was turned on. Another give away is when your credits run low you will notice a sharp increase in winks and collect messages to run you dry to try to get you to buy more credits. Lastly there have been many times where you begin messaging a person and the profile disappears the next day or 2 after you spent the credits.

Now with that being said here has been my experience. First I created a profile with a headless shot for my profile pic..I'm in early 40s in great shape. I personalized my profile and just didn't check boxes. I did not use the shotgun method and was selective in choosing who I would message and I had a preference for other attached woman (yes many single women-mostly fake looking for sugar daddy) near my age range..I would make exceptions here in there to broaden my target range. Many of my messages went unanswered. Many I received replies and exchanged just a few courtesy emails. You find out early and exchange private key pics to ensure the attraction is there or why bother messaging for any amount of time. So there were times when the physical attraction just wasn't there. The one sure way to know if someone is real is after a few AM messages offer your personal (fake account) email. If things look promising and they disappear at this point then you know the profile was fake..do that early and you will weed them out. If they like the first few AM messages and like your pics they will email your personal email account and you take it from there. Do not waste credits chatting in AM. If they like you they will chat off line in other applications. Cost too much to chat and you don't even know if ther are real.

With all that taken into account I have had personal email exchanges with about a dozen women. I have met 4. 2 of which (27 and 37) were in bad relationships and just couldn't make the time to be available in person often enough to have any type of relationship. Another (she lied about her age said 40 ended up being 47) that ended up with brief sexual encounter that ended abruptly by her choosing out of the blue . And finally I met the perfect match. Someone that just clicked on every level. Same interests, great conversationalists, beautiful, great sexually and very respectful of our situations. In her late thirties and we have flexible enough schedules to make things work. Its been going on for several months and and we are both very happy. Deleted AM profile and everything as we found what we were looking for. AM is by far the best site. Just in the sheer numbers your are going to get more real women. You just have to be patient and look for the right things.

Just when I almost counted AM out I found the prefect match so we both now thank AM for what we have!!!! Hope this was helpful.

Doesn't sound good..probably fake especially if messages are short. I would send message explaining how you have had experiences with fake profiles and would prefer to email outside of AM to get to know her better and offer her your personal email (hopefully you have a separate dummy account for these purposes). She will probably disappear and then you will definitively know she is fake. If not she will email you and all is good. Either way you won't be wondering.

Now that's a funny story. Way to string that out. Never had someone flat out ask for money like that.

Ashley Madison is a total rip off! The worst decision you can make is this particular site. The model for how their site works is extremely flawed! The Chat setup means you lose credits, even when you have no-one to communicate with. As mentioned by others there are a large number of fake profiles and opening a chat session with one of these, means you're losing credits for nothing. Messages that you have sent get deleted so you no longer have them for future reference and if you get a 0 credit balance, the site is virtually useless (Ashley Madison does nothing to communicate this fact). Lift your game. Hopefully other potential suckers will read this and give you a wide berth. And on top of the above, your staff don't give a damn.

Seems like a scam. I plan on running down my credits and then saying Adios. I'm a guy and I'm no troll, but no Sugar Daddy either. I know what a gym membership looks like and use it 3-4 times a week. I have a job and my smile doesn't look like a picket fence. I run 5ks. I've sent over 3 dozen emails in the last month and got 3 "real" responses; one was to say " no thanks" (hey..at least she responded), another was kind enough to keep reading my emails and profile until she blocked me and the last has an inoperable brain tumor. What is that last woman doing on a website like that looking for anything anyway? Assuming that is true of course, which it may not be. Just maybe a polite way of saying "no thanks"?

Yes, I had my fair share of "bots" who first hit me up when I signed on. I learned quick what they were!

So as a test, I came up with a "fake" female profile using a public domain picture of a woman. Here are my results;

Within 5 minutes of putting the ad up, I had 5 members view my profile, one IM request, 2 emails and 1 wink. Seriously? I hadn't even finished putting up the profile!

After 2 hours, had 21 emails and 10 winks and 6 admirers. Got all sorts of pics, as you could imagine. Come on guys, really? That quick?

After almost 2 full weeks of not signing on; 388 emails. 281 winks. 348 Views. Come on! All that for just a picture of a woman smiling! What of the ones who are half naked or who are very open and upfront about what kind of sexual encounter they want? Only the very specific male(or female) gets thru. Hey...survival of the fittest, right?

The end result? The ratio of men to women must be 100:1. You have to have a "kink" or can scratch a very particular itch to get thru. Or here is an idea, what if these posts are by women who "want" their husbands/boyfriends/significant others to see these profiles? In other words, it is possible some of these "real" women have no interest at all in meeting any of the men who email them, or they email back in conversation? Food for thought? "See, honey...look what I can do?" Women are strange birds...

I've been off and on AM for about two years. Plenty of bs on there but if you're patient and can be a little witty...you'll meet someone. I've been contacted by many real women. None of them had a public profile photo. One was a really sexy soccer mom. We met for drinks on a random Tuesday afternoon and ended messing around in her minivan in the parking lot. She just wanted to be wanted. A few things I've learned:

• Don't bother contacting them....they are hammered with messages. be patient and someone will find you
• Chat and collect messages are scams
• Any female profile with a headshot is a scam
• Spend time on your profile. Don't just check boxes
• Don't post d--- shots or anything remotely sexual.
• a good face shot is a must
• Be patient and realize you're going to have to work hard to get a woman to communicate with you
• expect long dry periods
• use the "viewed me" tab often to see who's checking out your profile

Ashley Madison is great for smart and good looking guys. Sure there are fake profiles, but also there are girls on there that just are feeling things out. If you are good looking, patient and smart you can have lots of success. I am a married guy and have had sex with 9 different women on AM. I am still conversing with 5 of them and have had sex with those 5 multiple times. I have done things with those women that I can't believe. I show them a really good time, satisfy them sexually in a way their husbands can't, and treat them with respect. The site is almost too good to be true. I love it!

It's a total scam, for both male and females interested in a NSA, discrete affair.

You just spend money, and more money. I can tell you I have.

All that happens is, you get contacted by women that don't pay on their side and you accept their inbound email and conveniently get charged for it.

Then, other entice you to chat with them, again, spend a bunch of money for the chat feature only to get zero, zilch, nothing, nada.

Wast of time and money, don't do it. Search elsewhere. Trust me, at this point, even the supermarket has better candidates.