I am an actual Ashley Madison member and I can say that it is not a scam in my opinion it is the best married dating website on the Internet The post that you've read from the the skeptics are completely untrue I have met a number of women on the site and they were actual real women. The sceptics are usually geeky men that can't meet a women if they paid her. Ashley Madison or as an actual member calls it "AM" is a very safe and trusted site where discretion is the key. The only drawback is it's a bit expensive but other than that it's great over 14 million members I say 60% men and 40% women. The women are your average bored housewives looking for companionship that they are missing in their current relationship. Their are plenty of women to go around both married and single so if you are a married man that is bored with your current situation then you should at least check it out for yourself.

Having read a few member reviews I was very skeptical as what my success would be. However curious by nature i could not resist !! knowing there may be many trolls working for AM with false profiles there must also be plenty of real women out there, i was relatively confident that i could navigate through the BS Not wanting to waste to much money i opted for the minimum package $50... I spent some time putting together a detailed, clever and humorous profile including a dozen pictures which would clearly show my physical attributes, tall and muscular. I felt this would be important if i was to have any success and i soon found out it was, one woman that i ended up chatting with told me she had received over 200 messages from guys !!!! Basically you need to stand out just to get your profile looked at and that is half the problem, women are getting swamped. Having just 20 messages i could send i decided to scan my area NYC 25-40 years of age and added all to my favorites and sent a wink which is free. Deciding i would only use my credits if someone responded. Ten days later of the 200 women i contacted only 37 had bothered to review my profile, this was disappointing as i was confident of success if i could get my profile looked at. However of that 37 14 of them either contacted me via collect message, wink or by adding me to favorites this is a good ratio. I decided to initiate contact or view the collect messages from 10 of that 14 all of which cost credits althought aftyer initial contact all further correspondence is free, stay away from IM way to expensive if chick really wants to message you suggest AOL IM, Skype, Google chat etc FREE, this has worked for me All 10 responded, I have had a real conversation with 5 of the 10... I have had one invite to adulterous affair with a 31 year old. Another conversation with a very hot freaky chick who wanted me to play the submissive, she was into S&M and i played along for a while but was clear to me after a few chats that i had no desire to be gagged, hog tied and whipped, so we ended that chat !!!!! I currently have 15 credits left and chatting with 4 ladies.. I have saved the best til last Lisa... I am yet to get my happy ending but i am definitely feeling Lisa we have been in contact via AOL AIM daily, email exchanging pictures, we are Skyping today and if all goes well we plan to meet up soon, she is a smoking hot 30 year Latina 5'8 105lbs Smile i will be very happy if this pans out !! I was contacted by a couple of smoking hot girls in their 20's from California Collect Messages of course, I decided these were trolls!! why bother to contact me when im in NYC so did not waste my credits responding. Also when choosing who to contact i found member feedback to be a useful tool. Bottom line stay away from instant messages, use your credits wisely, take time for detailed profile and pictures as it is hard enough to get your profile reviewed as it is so you want to make a good first impression. Remember any woman who is remotely hot is getting upwards of 200 hits. Bottom line i think i have done very well with 15 credits left having spent just 50 bucks.. So long as you are not a lewd, obese mutant i think you will do OK if you take your time and spend your credits wisely, yes its an adult dating site but keep initial contact polite and clean if your lucky enough to get a conversation going you dont want to *censored* it up by being rude and or lewd, plenty of time for dirty talk down the line. If i reload my credits ill probably go for the $250 package however im currently pursuing 3-4 interesting leads with the adorable Lisa being no. 1... Wish me luck she is bloody smoking !!!!!!!

In addition to the above ^^^^^^ When deciding whether to send a message using your credits If somone has sent you a collect message, wink or added you to favorites make sure they have viewed your profile first if they have not 99% guaranteed its a troll, if they have not viewed your profile its a guarantee they are not for real. Also look at the member feedback this is a good tool to decide if they are for real also if some chick is sending you gifts before having had any conversation id say that a pretty good give away that its a fake as gifts are expensive and unlikely some hot chick is wasting 20-50 credits on someone they don't know !!!! Seriously.... Also if reading a members profile is a good way to detwrmine if for real or not, just a bunch of checked boxes is a good sign. If a woman is serious then she will have taken the time to add some specifics as to what she is and is not looking for EXAMPLE from actual member profile I am not into endless messages/emails.I also understand that this is an adult website, however, do not immediately talk to me about sex. I will need to get to know you and trust you first. Also, if you cant be flexible with your time,.this wouldn't work. I can be available during the day sometimes, but mostly on Friday and Saturday nights. Please, respect my privacy. I will respect yours. Also, not looking to change my current situation This is clearly a real member who is good to go "just impress her" she also had good member feedback which is a plus Any way as is said in my review above be smart about your search use the free tools and i think you will have success !! I will add that i live in a big city NYC and that is a big plus as have a lot of members to filter through, Number 1 priority is your profile as these gitls are getting north of 200 messages so you need to stand out and i wouldn't give up if a chick hasnt responded to a wink as they are getting so many messages you are just gong to get overlooked on many cases just hit them up again in a week with another wink or add to your favorites

AM is not a scam by a long shot. Sure, some profiles are definitely robots, and the people who want to chat with you the minute you sign up are not to be trusted. But if you take the time and think the whole thing through, you will learn to separate the wheat from the chaff and will end up having a great time. In my case, I travel a lot because of work and have looked for women in the cities I visit most often. So far, I've gone out and exchanged fluids with three of these ladies, out of 50 I've contacted. True, there have been a fair number who didn't like my pictures or my living abroad, and those contacts came to nothing, but what did you expect? To me, the key is to look at the profiles critically and to find your niche. This is a lot like marketing -- you won't be everybody's cup of tea, but you must have some USPs. What are they and what kind of women go for them? If you crack this problem, then AM will be a good investment. Good luck.

I am almost certain AM has set up bogus accounts with the pictures of attractive women. There was one woman in particular that I was going to either meet or prove to myself she was a fiction. When I set my profiles, I was VERY careful to match myself to "her." I sent several extremely tasteful, carefully worded messages. The only reply I got was confirmation that my message was received. And then I started noticing something else. EVERYTIME I logged on, she was online as well. Midnight, 4:00 am. You name it. My advice-- ask your wife to play dress up or go see a marriage counselor. AM was set up to take your $$$$$$.

So what would someone say to this....You send a wink, they read your profile several days later. A day or two after that, they send you a "collect" message" with a key to 2 pictures. You send an email, get an email response back. We've swapped "regular" emails, I sent 1, she responded, I replied then nothing. A "bot" or real? I suspect "bot" at this point because the emails were all very vague, could have been intended for anyone. They were clever, because they had parts of my screen name in them, but never answered direct questions about location, etc. when the profile said this woman lived in the next town over from me. Thoughts? I've read alot of these posts on this thread and I would say it is running 50% "most are fake" and 50% "most are real". Am I being too kind? Does a "collect" message always indicate someone is not "real"?

Id say about 50 50 are real but its not that hard to weed out the fake ones !!!! A collect message definitely does not mean fake, if its unsolicited the yes most likely but if you got in response to a wink message or adding womone as admirer then not necessarily. I always check to make sure that person has viewed my profile if not DELETE if she has non private pictures with face probably bogus. If i do respond ill send a detailed message and ill always suggest that we continue to converse via AIM, Google chat, email or some other non AM medium, if they are not up for that then you are probably wasting your time. I have had success in both erotic cyber chat and physically hooking up !!! Good luck

Same guy here ^^^^ I would add.... I think your conversation was legit if it had not been then fake profile would have tried to get you to spend credits by using AM chat.... From conversations ive had these women are getting 200-300 messages at a time. So i would say the vague responses were probably because she was having multiple conversations at the same time and maybe she decided to pursue someone else. Bottom line i think you had a live one on the hook but she got away !!!!!

I'm not so sure it was legit. I think it's 80/20 on that site that are bots/website employees/"marketing reps". The emails were too vague, like I said, intended for anyone. Blank. Vanilla. My no geek, my ad is fairly witty and humorous.I'm tall and muscular, my picture shows my nice white smile. To me, this indicates possible drama in "her" life. No need for that, no thanks. I haven't been on that site for more than a month, and so far I would say AM is a complete waste of time. Save your money, fellers.

Well like i said ive had plenty of success in the 5 weeks ive been a member and I have another 2 preliminary meetings next week planned, one with a chick in Tribeca another in Queens both very respectable looking... I even manged to get 10 credits refunded to me when i reported one profile as a scam artist. it was classic, chick exchanged email addresses and claimed to from Denver sent me lovely pictures etc. You could tell from the way she was talking that she or more likely a he was eastern european so i decided to play along just waiting for the hook. After about 5 or 6 email exchanges this person says she desperately wants to come and stay with me !!! "cant wait i say" lol and then of course there is the request for $500 to be sent via Western Union for her ticket LMFAO... Well i continue to play along having the moron send me some naked pictures.. Eventually after about 100 email exchange YES i was bored, i told her that i sent money. After much searching at the WU office she calls me out !!! Seriously the jokers IP address tracked to Sunnyvale in California some 2k miles from Denver .. Anyway point is AM removed the profile and refunded my credits