I joined Ashley Madison, bought the credits and starting sending out requests to possibilities on their site. Did not receive much action until one of the posts really caught my eye. It seemed perfect for me for many reasons (age, weight, height, interests, location, etc.). It took a bit to get a conversation going but finally was successful. We messaged back and forth for days until I finally became suspicious. Due to many hints that I will not go into, I sincerely believe that this person (or whatever) was staged by Ashley Madison (works for them) to keep me buying credits and stringing me along. Believe me, I have some pretty STRONG EVIDENCE to support such a claim. I totally believe that there may be some real people on the site, but they are loaded with false individuals scamming potential victims. DO NOT WASTE YOUR TIME OR MONEY!! I lost $120.00...kicking myself in the *censored*!

I have been on it for a while. I met one woman and we have been having a wonderful time. I have talked to a few others that were definitely real but I did not meet. Perhaps there are plants but I haven't noticed it. Most of the profiles seem very legit.

It is a site where there are obviously way more guys so it is not an easy site to meet someone on , and the women are likely bombarded with messages so they can be very selective. I have a friend who met someone off the site as well.

AM is both a scam and it works. i have met 2 married women from the site and have had numerous "collect" messages where they never respond after you accept. you have to just be patient and keep at it. Of the two that i met, one i wouldn't touch! the other, we went out 3 times and all three times ended up at a motel for 3-4 hours. need i say more

Ashley Madison is not a scam. As a woman on that site and i will tell you, there are WAY more men on there than I can handle. The man to woman ratio is really off. And I get bombarded with messages and end up even getting yelled at because I didn't "pick" them or whatever.

I have met two men on the site and both were really amazing guys.

If you think it's a scam because you aren't getting anywhere, it's like because of A: You aren't putting enough info on your profile, B: You are overwhelming the girls with pics of just your *censored* and not trying to start a real conversation (which happens to me ALL THE TIME), C: You're not appealing to the right kind of girls, D: You're a prick (another thing I see a lot in my inbox) E: All, none, or some of the above.

Hell, maybe they do have some profiles just to keep you guys buying credits, but I haven't seen any kind of messages that suggest such things to me.

It seems many men *censored*ume the site is to find married chicks that want to have the freakiest sex of their life. Most of them, I think, are just looking for a good time in and out of the bedroom. Not just a f*ck buddy.

I am very picky and very selective. I guess it's a site that just works better for the girls. I'm certainly enjoying it.

Be patient. It can take awhile. I have started some good conversations with a few guys, but I don't have the time to date all of them!

My experience of AM. - NEGATIVE

I was just looking for some azz when I travel. Yes it is tough with a ratio of 100 men to 1 woman on the site. Also don’t fall trap into buying credits, they will bill you again when you get low regardless of whether you stated not to. Most of the women are fake, maybe 2 percent are real. You will get constant collect messages. That is what makes you buy the credits. Don’t do it! It is all staged, read on people....this is no place to date or get some strange azz. IT DOES NOT WORK. The guy when made this site is a generous as hard up dudes looking for some will actually do anything...even put their marriages and life on the line. It is actually hilarious.

So to point out:
-Don’t buy credits! You have to give them a credit card! Are you crazy?!?!
-Women are not real, period.
-Do not open collect messages.
-Do not give out your phone number until other communication has been established. It may be someone trying to bust you! Think about it…
-Use other devices to get off, Craigslist, Backpage, Youporn. Cheaper, way cheaper
-Be cautious…you don’t want to wake up in a tub of ice with a note that says...”call 911, thanks for the kidney”.

Best of luck!

I used the site for a little over a year and have had great success as far as meeting men goes. However I was recently booted from the site. When asked why they said "certain things I was saying in my IM messaging was not appropriate for the site" this site stresses how discreet they are and yet you are reading my private messages and quoting me? All I know is there are real people on the site but I would be weary of your privacy there.

2% real 98% scam.. OK, here's a couple of things to keep in mind. Have you ever in your life, known any halfway attractive women (married or otherwise) who found it difficult to meet men to have sex with? The answer, of course, is no. Meeting men isn't the problem. Meeting men who aren't simply, shallow, emotionally unavailable, porn addicted, ...holes, is. I'm not saying that there aren't good people out there...I'm just saying a website like AM is arguably one of the largest concentrations of guys on earth, that a woman isn't looking for. The reason I say 2% real, is that I actually was naive enough ( there have to be others like me!) to join, submit a profile, etc. I'm fit, very attractive, travel a lot, and unfortunately in a virtually sexless marriage. Within 24 hours I was inundated with, what seemed like, hundreds of messages from guys who had to have been recently released from the sexual offenders wing at Riker's Island. I especially liked the one, who after chatting a few times, began to subtly hint that he was looking for someone to defecate on his head. Call me picky...

First of all - check the box that you do NOT want AM to contact you for "market research" and get rid of most of the scam messages.

They do not lie about the fact that there are fake "market research" profiles on there - they are the ones that seem to be logged in 24/7 - don't waste time contacting them.

Also - with the male to female ratio so far off - it is VERY rare for a woman to have to initiate contact - so collect mesages from women are probably fake.

Beyond that - I have had a LOT of success on AM. I have about a dozen close friends (men and women) who frequent the site and have had equal success. It just takes a little work and skill. I have been in 2 separate long term relationships and have filled the gaps with about 4 additional women in 3 different cities that I met on AM. Sure - I had to weed through a little chaffe here and there - but it was worth it.

Don't bother with the "affair Guarantee" that one IS a scam. Rread the fine print and add up the numbers and it is obvious why.

AM is NOT a scam. How do I know? I have been a "client" (though I've never paid a cent) off and on for four years. I started out as a typical lonely housewife looking to have an affair. I learned the ropes about how you guys operate (most are clueless considering you are he ones paying!). I never once sent a message, collect message or even a wink. I never had to - the men come to you! I'm not saying there aren't legit females on there who might send messages, but you don't need to open any collect messages, and I'd be suspicious of any female who has a paid membership, it's simply not necessary for women to pay! That said, I will say that I'm sure that MANY of the men that contacted me might think AM was a scam, simply because I didn't respond to, agree to meet, or choose them!! I met with LOTS of men and even had sex with some of them! I even had two long - term affairs (10 months and 18 months). Now, I did keep a profile on from time to time during those affairs, to keep tabs if my paramour was back on. Most men are very dim about that sort of thing and will put the SAME profile back up looking for more women even though they told you they took it down, and so did you. I learned very quickly to always have 2 profiles up. So yes, some profiles may seem "fake" but I don't think AM is generating them. Your wife, girlfriend, affair lover, or even your boss could have a profile up to look and see who is on there. Be smart! If you're on a cheating website, don't think everyone on there is being as straight up and "honest" as you are. And frankly, most women on there could care less how many credits, coffee dates and hotel rooms it's costing you to bed them. If you're not having luck, read AM's tips on how to use their website, be selective and most importantly, don't post any pictures that make you look remotely like a mass-murderer. Studies show women trust men who smile (showing teeth), and do not appear threatening or to be hiding something. Good luck!

First of all I did meet two women on here. It took awhile but I was finally successful. I am 63 and met 51 and 45 year old women. Though they were both attractive I didn't feel comfy with the 51 year old. On the other hand Miss 45 and I have become lovers and great friends.

Regarding a scam... there is a lot of scamming on AM making it difficult to find someone. I get requests to IM but when I suggest we do it on Yahoo or AIM where it is free they back off. Why? They are scamming me out of my credits. I get real nice emails from women "collect". So after I pay to answer back they block me. Why? I send nice emails and no lewd pics like many men. Well it is obvious it is another scam to get me to spend credits. They block me and move on to another sucker.

Over time I sent out over 500 winks and many emails but only got 2 good responses.There is something wrong there. I post a nice pic. I am not ugly, in good shape, and send nice messages. I send winks to women of all ethnic groups. I do not discriminate because of race, weight, etc.How is it I only get 2 good responses? The fact is even though there are legitimate women on there looking most are just scamming for AM. It is obvous.

You can be successful on AM. Use winks as much as possible. Only use credits when it really seems like a good possibility.