Ok, here's a summary of my Ashley Madison (AM) experience.

First, AM is expensive. Users must purchase "credits" that are required for any meaningful interaction with females. An introductory bank of 100 credits costs $49, about $2 per credit. Sending a message to a person of interest costs 5 credits. Women are able to send "collect" messages, and to open one of these costs 5 credits. Sending a response costs another 5 credits. In other words, a guy can burn through 100 credits pretty darn fast.

Second, in Southern California, the overwhelming percentage of attached females on AM are not the sort that most men would find attractive. Excessive weight in abundance: women who are 5'4" coming in at 200 pounds or more. They are the majority.

Third, about 90% of the females are looking ONLY for cyber sex, so if you are hoping to have an actual meeting and exchange of bodily fluids, this is not the site for you.

Fourth, there is an over-abundance of single women looking for a sugar daddy. Given that there are sites designed specifically for this sort of arrangement, I can't figure out why these women are on AM--or why AM allows them to be there.

When I bought my introductory 100 credits, as was pretty certain that I was wasting $50, and the last several weeks have confirmed the fact.

It's sick how all you think affairs are okay...SMH.

I joined Ashley Madison and within a few weeks met a woman and had a pretty neat affair with a lady whom I shrared excellent chemistry. That relationship ended after about two months and now I am having a problem with success on AM. I know that the men out number the women probably 5 to 1, but it really irritates me when women won't acknowledge an email. I did not go for the garruntee and so each email is a modest investment.

The one thing I really like as a married man on AM is that I can be completely honest. I have nothing to hide and I have found a few truly like-minded people. The problem is as fast as they put up a profile, poof...they go away. Lack of confidence,fear...well deserved I am sure.

I have been around Adult Friend Finder (more like a 10 to 1 male to female ratio) for years and have met a number of women there, but a real, chemical connection was often missing because I couldn't be honest about my situation.

For what it is worth, be yourself, be real and you have a chance to to be successful on Ashley Madison. It is just not going to happen when you want it to!

Find me on AM as Nightiis

Ashley Madison is defo a scam, so much so that they send you out seperate emails suggesting that large numbers of women are interested in you, but despite the fact that these are showing as online, they never speak back or chat, or reply, after you have brought credits, and no new women ever appear in your area either, is just the same made up ones, avoid at all cost!!

I've met several women via Ashley Madison. However I think most of the profiles on there probably are fake. Using the site successfully involves being able to tell the difference. I rarely bother with anyone who hasn't written something about themselves rather than just ticking boxes, or anyone who seems too good to be true, and if I do contact someone I make sure to write a personalised and well-written e-mail rather than something obviously cut & pasted. People with feedback in their profiles are also more likely to be real.

Whether the fake profiles are generated by the site or by users (probably teenage boys) is something I wouldn't like to guess at, but the site does delete profiles and refund credits when a scam is drawn to their attention, and their continued business depends on their reputation so I suspect it's not the site.

As with most 'adult' dating sites, I think if you take the view that about 10% of female profiles are for real and 90% chaff you will be in the ball park. That still makes the sites a workable proposition, if you're prepared to put the effort in. Still a better bet than a singles bar, in my view.

Also bear in mind that any halfway attractive real woman is going to be inundated with messages, which is why even real women are more likely than not to ignore most of what they receive.

I would not recommend the site. I have been a member for 9 months , chatted with maybe under ten women. Mostly foolish with whom I was contacting at first. tip : be realistic on who you can match up with. I did meet up with two women , they were actually single. One was a one night stand , the other I seen for a couple of months. I never been contacted ,I intiate. I have tried and refine what I say and how I say it. Probaby should take down that picture of me in the bath room in front of the mirror! lol I don't contact anybody who is looking for a sugar daddy. More cafeful now that my credits are getting low. Will I re up , not sure to tell the truth. I was messaging with this knockout , just felt in my gut it wasn't for real. I researched until I found "her" photo online. Sent whomever a nasty message and reported it to AM. The profile was taken down and I was refunded my 5 credits. Tip : be careful , as stated before - if it's too good to be true , it probably is. Can't say for sure what the ratio actually is but I would classify it as a sausage fest. Heard before of good looking women getting a ridiculous amount of responses. How can one really compete with that ? I do find more and more singles there. Thought it was for married people.Maybe AM should make it more worth while for women. The bottom line is money for them so I wouldn't hold my breathe , that's why there are the phoney messages from women to get men to join. But I find that on most of the "just get laid" dating sites. Tip : learn to weed through the profiles , try and find the legit ones. With dating , you're gonna pay on one end or the other.

I have been on Ashley for almost 2 years. I bought the affair guarantee package and still have at least half my credits. I don't use the chat feature on there however. I am now having an affair with the fifth married woman I have met on there. I have had sex with all 5 of them and there was only one of them wanting to leave their current situation. These are some of the best girls I have ever had the chance to meet in life and will remain good friends with all of them. I am 54 years old and the women were 55, 48, 44, 43 and I'm with the 40 year old now.

How can you call AM a scam just because it has not worked for you? About a year ago I met a wonderful married lady on there, we developed a wonderful relationship and are still good friends now. I have met others and there are many "real" women on there. There is no doubt that there are "scammers" on there also, but AM can only do so much to police that. I am not supporting AM, just sharing some real experiences. And stated previously. you have to present yourself as "real" if you expect to attrct real.

Its a site based on cheating, so is anyone surprised that its not a scam....