Ashley Madison is not totally a scam, although I have heard some nightmare stories about most of the women just wanting money, cars, etc. I also know that there are men who pose on there as women.

I am a female who used Ashley Madison about a year ago, and I did meet a guy. Things were great for our one meeting, but apparently he was looking for a lot of one-night stands, despite what he claimed. I, on the other hand, was looking for a discreet, on-going relationship with no strings as at that time I was married.

I am currently separated, and I am wondering if anyone knows of a good site for people who, like me, really miss the passion and crave an intimate relationship without a deep involvement. I spend countless hours puzzling over this one. I don't want to pick someone up in a bar; I don't want someone who is living with a spouse and wanting to cheat. The ideal relationship for now is to be involved with someone with whom I can share a friendship and go out some, and share an intimate relationship. I just am definitely not looking for marriage or for a dependent type of situation.

Any suggestions would be appreciated.

I think it is probably part scam/part real. I'm sure there are some women who are truly looking for what the site says it provides. However, in looking at the big picture, while I was surfing some profiles, interestlingly a bunch of very good looking women appear with their very clear and unobstructed photos. And in their description it says that they are looking for (among other things) DISCRETION! Now how can that be??? I know there are some who have their husband's "permission", but not that many! I'm fairly positive the site is "populated" with "stagers" to get our horny attention. But as stated before, I'm sure there are some real ones too. I follow the age-old trusted motto: if if looks too good to be true...it probably is. The real good looking women don't have to go on dating sites for action, they can just browse the aisles of any hardware store and pick whatever man they want.

Ok guys...its time to face facts! I AM a real woman, and I have been using AM..and it has been an eye opener for me. Not the site but the men and the lack of respect many of them have for women in general. Just because I am on a hook-up site does not mean I don't have standards..there is a huge section there to tick the boxes for the qualities you are seeking. My profile says Im 5 ft 8 and seeking tall men...so why is it that half the responses I get are from guys 2 inches shorter than me! You wonder why you dont get a response? If you took the time to read a profile and only respond to those that you fit ALL the criteria for, you would save yourself a lot of heartache..
And another thing...
When setting your own profile, dont tick all the boxes. If you really aren't fussy about what type of woman you are looking for, dont think we are going to be interested. We like our men to have standards too...
I have been on AM for less than a week. I have no public profile pic. I have had close to 100 people contact me, but have only chatted to 4 of these. Of those 4 I have met 1 for a coffee; he was a lovely guy but for me it just didnt click. So dont assume any form of response from a woman automatically qualifies you for any further involvement.
I am meeting a 2nd guy shortly..and only because he is as honest and selective about what he is looking for as I am. He also showed a level of respect in our initial contact that most women require before they feel they can trust someone enough to meet them.
So suck it up all you men out there-set yourself a standard and stop coming across as desperate bogans who will jump on anything that breathes. There is nothing wrong with having a bit of dignity. The ability to spell and construct a sentence would also go a long way toward improving your chances, as would a clean shirt and a comb before you take your profile pic. Just because women are online, it doesn't make them any different to the women they are when they are at work, at a restaurant, or a club, or anywhere else you would meet them. And Im sure your uninvited lewd remarks, pushy domineering behaviour, inability to accept a refusal politely or with dignity, unsolicited pornographic images, and your general lack of manners wouldn't see you meeting too many women with any shred of decency in the real life arena either.
Maybe there are a lot of computer generated 'women' on the site to balance out the ratio a little, but, honestly, if your social skills compare to those of 97% of men have approached me, you will have as much chance with an AM avatar as you do of ever meeting a genuine, self respecting woman.

I wanted to add my two cents as an experienced and disappointed user of AM. I'm attractive, sensitive, sensible, and have excellent writing skills, so I don't think my problem was my pic or profile description. I had several women contact me or respond to my initial contacts, but had to pay $60 to really get in touch with them. Not one, out of the seven or so women, every responded to me twice.
I don't think the profiles are fake, but either there is something fishy going on, or the women who join AM are more timid than you'd expect. Either way, I blew $60 and suggest you don't do the same.

How to spot fake profiles.

AM uses them to make guys think there are more women on the site than there actually are. But I have met real women on the site, and also spent more than a few credits chasing phantoms....