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Well on fet if you join groups they have regular meet ups and they are into kink so if you join one of them you can take your chance in person
I’m on fet too

Actually, Fetlife is still the best bet for you. I happen to have been on there since about a year after it started, and I currently "own" a number of groups, where some of your answers can be found.

Two of those are Classified Advertising groups, sort of a Brother Sister pair of groups, where they are complimentary, one for Dom males only and one for female subs only.

I started assisting, the founding owner of those pair of groups, as a moderator, many years ago, and some years later, when he died, I ended up being asked by his widow to take over the ownership of the groups.

The total membership in that pair of groups is now over 20,000, actually, I just checked and the total for the pair is now 20.293.

(6,021 males, and 14,272 females)
There are a lot of very strict rules in those two groups, and I am on there very often, daily at least, sometimes more per day.

Location has to be shown at the beginning of the ads, and other things, such as NO *censored* pictures. Many other thing are also helping make these two groups very popular, such as no flaming, harassment, putting people down, and the women are very highly protected in these two groups. As a result the ration of women to men advertising in my groups reflects the popularity with the women.

If you go to my personal profile on Fetlife, and look down the left side, you will see I also own a number of other Classified Ads Groups, some of which are open to other outlooks, other than limited to just pure dom men seeking sub women. But I do not "work/supervise" those as much.

Here are the names and links for the two most popular of my Classified Ads Groups.

Classified! female sub Types Seeking Male Dom Types
https://fetlife.com/groups/19040

Classified! Male Dom Types Seeking female sub Types
https://fetlife.com/groups/19039

This last one above, is THE ONE you want to run YOUR ad in.
DO NOT put your male ad in the women's group, because you will get DELETED and BANNED from all my groups.
READ THE RULES carefully, before you post your ad.
These rules are WHY these groups are soo popular with women who join and run their ads in my groups.

My personal profile on Fetlife is;
TortureCrucifyWhip 80M Sadist
Tucson, Arizona, United States
https://fetlife.com/users/801408

My first profile on Fetlife was, and still is:
MasterSeth 80M Master
Tucson, Arizona, United States
https://fetlife.com/users/140998
(This profile is still open, and refers people to the newer one, so people can find me by the name I am most widely known as, "Master Seth"

More people in this world know me as Master Seth, than my real name which is Robert Ernest Wadlow, same name as the tallest man on record, my 6th cousin, who died in the 1940's, Robert Pershing Wadlow.

I also have a personal website, (http://master-seth.com/HomePage.html). On the Home page, you can find all my contact information, phone for texting, email address, etc.

Most of it is not kept up to date, but the Educational Page (http://master-seth.com/TheGSpotandMore.html) is pretty up to date. It is the required reading for my students on my teaching of Female Anatomy.

Good luck in your search.

Seth of Tucson

However, on the home page, listed above, you can find my

I am also very active, with several profiles, on CollarSpace, which used to be called CollarMe.com.

But that website is VERY Poorly run, maintained, and many of the functions have been eliminated, I guess to streamline the loads on the website servers, but it is just a ghost of it's prior self.

It does have search abilities, which Fetlife does not have.
But there are a high percent of fakes, money seekers, travel money scammers, etc. And I have noticed that, in the case of member in Arizona, the same group of women are on there all the time, never go away, which leads me to believe some of those are just "bait profiles" created by the website, and designed to keep people coming back.

I have been a daily active member there since 2009, so I have a very deep understanding of how that website runs.

I have, very rarely, actually seen someone on there who I know in the local BDSM lifestyle. So I know there are at least some legitimate profiles on there.

Good luck
Master Seth,
Seth of Tucson.

I don't think there is one but what worked with me is entering normal dating or marriage & list in my info couple of my dark desires & it worked some girls contact me up on it
I tried these approach in my any marriage or dating site some will not accept it
but you can write it a very different way so that only people familiar with BDSM will know it

I have a feeling that all these sites listed on this forum makes one super moron. On one site it is impossible to specify sex of the partner, on the other it is not possible to register because does not accept mail, on the third something hangs, etc. It is amazing that for such a popular theme no one can create a normal thematic social network

I'm a male sub and have gone through adult friend finder, alt.com, bdsmdate.com, and a few others. I don't have any real revelations but thought I'd toss in my recent, and on-going experience. The scammers are just never ending. Alt.com is the worst! A few pointers for those unaware. You can use google image search or tineye (or others) to perform a reverse image search. Well, most scammers are so obvious anyway, often can't even type a profile that makes any sense. Poor grammar or weird word usage or obvious giveaways. Or just use common sense - A 22yr hot blonde is NOT going to be a femdom on some BDSM site. If you create a second fake account and just do nothing with it you'll see all the scammer messages roll in. Just another method to quickly weed people out. Members that provide their email address in the first conversation are clearly fake. My suggestion is very early on just state that you will not provide money or personal information until a video chat or face/face happens.

Frankly, the whole BDSM online dating experience has been VERY depressing. I'm not claiming to be Brad Pitt but I'm a 44-yr old jacked guy. And it's a challenge just to get a response from someone that is "potentially" a real user.

Hope you have better luck than me!