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Maybe first time luck

Anonymous
I was lucky I guess, Met a nice gal. no public pix on the site but we met for coffee and ended up seeing each other for a year. It was like a dream. She moved on or I would still have my tuesday night. Since then I have found a ton of fakes and had no luck at all. I have met two others but would not touch them for my personal reasons. My summary would be... its real but does have fake profiles. If you're not picky you will do well. If you are a nice looking gal you will get laid every night...

RG

Anonymous
excited
Actually I have been using this site for about a year now and it has been very successful for me. I have been contacted by fake profiles with the "collect message" feature. I contact customer support and they refunded my credit every time. I then see that the profile it came from is deleted or removed shortly after. I travel all over so it is a great way to meet people anywhere I go. I don't understand the why people bash it like they do. They provide a service that people choose to use that's all.

Nottelling

Anonymous
Ok guys...its time to face facts! I AM a real woman, and I have been using AM..and it has been an eye opener for me. Not the site but the men and the lack of respect many of them have for women in general. Just because I am on a hook-up site does not mean I don't have standards..there is a huge section there to tick the boxes for the qualities you are seeking. My profile says Im 5 ft 8 and seeking tall men...so why is it that half the responses I get are from guys 2 inches shorter than me! You wonder why you dont get a response? If you took the time to read a profile and only respond to those that you fit ALL the criteria for, you would save yourself a lot of heartache..
And another thing...
When setting your own profile, dont tick all the boxes. If you really aren't fussy about what type of woman you are looking for, dont think we are going to be interested. We like our men to have standards too...
I have been on AM for less than a week. I have no public profile pic. I have had close to 100 people contact me, but have only chatted to 4 of these. Of those 4 I have met 1 for a coffee; he was a lovely guy but for me it just didnt click. So dont assume any form of response from a woman automatically qualifies you for any further involvement.
I am meeting a 2nd guy shortly..and only because he is as honest and selective about what he is looking for as I am. He also showed a level of respect in our initial contact that most women require before they feel they can trust someone enough to meet them.
So suck it up all you men out there-set yourself a standard and stop coming across as desperate bogans who will jump on anything that breathes. There is nothing wrong with having a bit of dignity. The ability to spell and construct a sentence would also go a long way toward improving your chances, as would a clean shirt and a comb before you take your profile pic. Just because women are online, it doesn't make them any different to the women they are when they are at work, at a restaurant, or a club, or anywhere else you would meet them. And Im sure your uninvited lewd remarks, pushy domineering behaviour, inability to accept a refusal politely or with dignity, unsolicited pornographic images, and your general lack of manners wouldn't see you meeting too many women with any shred of decency in the real life arena either.
Maybe there are a lot of computer generated 'women' on the site to balance out the ratio a little, but, honestly, if your social skills compare to those of 97% of men have approached me, you will have as much chance with an AM avatar as you do of ever meeting a genuine, self respecting woman.

Wonderfully Satisfied CA Woman

Anonymous
loved
To Nottelling all I can say is AMEN to what you had to say! I have only had a Guest Membership on AM since last Spring and it has produced MANY replies. I filled out my profile VERY carefully and added a personal comment at the end of each category. I found that the really discriminating and caring men, who knew what they wanted ,actually looked at the profile and responded accordingly, because when I study their profile, their Intimate Desires, Perfect Match and Personal Interests closely match mine.

Within one day I had about 20-25 replies, one in particular from a great guy, we chatted back and forth on Yahoo for a few days, then met for lunch. He was a perfect gentleman ,we sat and talked for four hours, I had no doubt in my mind our wants and needs were the same, it was going to work out, and for nine months it has been wonderful, but for reasons beyond our control, all good things must come to an end!

So, I posted again a couple of weeks ago with a new screenname and this time all the idiots and perverts came crawling out of the woodwork. i yi yi! After 3 e-mails, one man kept hounding me for a picture saying "You can tell I am the real deal!" Yeah, after 3 short e-mails I can definitely tell that for sure! It took me awhile to figure out that one guy was only interested in writing erotica, probably for his auto pleasure! Then there were the "desperate ones, " and as Nottelling mentioned, men that looked like they hadn't changed their clothes or combed their hair. And guys, don't send us a pix taken in front of your bathroom mirror! And there were those that couldn't write complete sentence. I realize a lot of guys can't type, but...... And then there were the wife bashers.

I am very careful. If a guy gives me his telephone number, I do a reverse look-up on WhitePages.com to make sure he's who he says he is. You will find name, address, family members and age and many guys lie about their age. AM states that if you are changing facts in your profile for anonymity, then immediately be up front after connecting with someone. Pix send on AM are safe because they can't be copied and sent elsewhere.

Earlier this week I met another great guy and the e-mails have been flying back and forth. We have so much in common, just like my first guy, and I look forward to meeting him on Monday for lunch! I have a good feeling about this and he said he does also. Like many on AM, we don't want to end our marriages, but are only looking for that which has been missing for sometime.

Yes, there are REAL women on AM with stories and successes and I am happy to be one of them!

Banjo30

Anonymous
Quote by: Savannah Dude

A-M is not a scam. I've talked to 5 women of which I've had great sex with two of them and 2 other great cyber sex. The cost of subscribing is a lot cheaper than the typical BS dating scene and unless you're just plain nasty you've got a good chance of getting laid. .



It is not entirely a scam. However, this poster is almost certainly being paid piece work for planting this obvious lie.

Less than 5% of the female profiles are real.

If you are very good looking, wealthy, charming, in your 30s, write well and are charming and perceptive, you might actually meet a woman if you are very persistant and put in many hours.

Of course, if you're all those things you could meet tentimes as many women just going out and looking.

Banjo60

Anonymous
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To "Notelling" and "Wonderful",

I'm not really surprised. I'm sure there are all sorts of jerks (and worse) on AM. It's also quite predictable that women would have more satisfaction from such a site. However, many of us (men, not jerks) have legitimate complaints. AM does make fake profiles. They do use these profiles to get men to convert from free accounts to paying ones. They also use "bait" profiles to get men to use up their credits. I think that is part of the reason you see so many juvenile and obnoxious jerks. AM would be a more pleasant site if they didn't use these tactics, but they wouldn't make nearly as much money.

I've noticed that over half of the women I sent emails to never logged on to receive them. They went from "last log on 12 hours ago" to "last log on 7+days" Oddly, this never happened when I sent a "priority message". My priority messages get answered with nice messages, showing interest, asking me about my situation. Then nothing. Then I follow up, and it is always the same answer - "Things got real hectic and my mail box is full." Then nothing. Then "That profile no longer exists."

I'm actally a good-looking, charming man who writes fairly well. I can be either very charming or very funny when I wish. I always addressed a woman's desires, expectations and concerns . I wouldn't mind so much if I thought that women just preferred someone else - I'm far from perfect, however, I think it is more likely that I haven't actually sent an email to a real female client yet.

Banjo30

Anonymous
Quote by: Pissed off customer

What a waste of money. I could have went club hopping to 6 different clubs and picked up at least 2 women. Don't wast your money. Angry Angry



Really? I tried going clubbing, but had no success. If I could actually find a club, I think I'd do better. It's been about 20 years since I went looking, and as far as I can tell, the idea of "clubs" has nearly vanished. They seem only to exist in the downtowns of major cities now, and there are many fewer there than ther used to be. There used to be clubs that catered to older people - dinosaurs in their thirties. I remember because we avoided them like the plague. Now, there are none - just trendy bars where young people sit and chat with their friends while drinking "artisan" beers or whatever *censored*tail Washingtonian magazine tells them is being consumed by junior White House aids today.

anonymousgal

Anonymous
excited
I am a real woman who posted a profile on AM last month. To my surprise and delight I have chatted with
what seem like very normal and nice guys on the site. I have met a couple for coffee. One for more and I'm
looking forward to seeing him again. So far, It has been a fantastic experience. There may be fakes, but there
are also real ones like me, who are looking for some passion and excitment that has been lost at home. My
advice, refuse the collect messages and do the searching yourself. You might be surprised at what you find.

Banjo30

Anonymous
determined
Quote by: joeblowwhistler

True, 100% SCAM... Interesting to see how many women pop up in your area after sign-up...



Not true, it is only about 99% scam.

If you send messages to every woman's profile, you might get through to the one in a hundred profiles that are not run by Ashley Madison itself. If you are also good looking, successful, very fit, and can write with charm, wit, and eros, you might meet someone. But if you're all those things, you can meet women much more easily without Ashley Madison.

Banjo30

Anonymous
Quote by: anonymousgal

I am a real woman who posted a profile on AM last month. To my surprise and delight I have chatted with
what seem like very normal and nice guys on the site. I have met a couple for coffee. One for more and I'm
looking forward to seeing him again. So far, It has been a fantastic experience. There may be fakes, but there
are also real ones like me, who are looking for some passion and excitment that has been lost at home. My
advice, refuse the collect messages and do the searching yourself. You might be surprised at what you find.



It is a lot easier for women. Ashley Madison doesn't see you as piggy banks to be emptied. They see you as assets. While there are probably very few fake male profiles, there are very few real female ones. Even if a guy sends a message to a real woman, and carefully and thoughtfully writes something very nice, there is a good chance that it won't even be read. The women I've corresponded with have all told me that they don't read anything close to all of their messages.

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