Forum Subject: Internet dating is a scam. Stay away!!!
Posted on: 2004/07/15 12:05pm
By: Anonymous (guyincognito)
Watch out for all of the supposed "news" stories and review sites claiming the vast success of internet dating. Notice that these are all posted on sites belonging to parent corporations or subsidiaries of those very internet dating sites. Internet dating is highly touted as the last way to make money from the internet and these huge corporations will stop at nothing to trick you into building up their stock portfolios.
While women may find success, the story is quite different for men. Almost every female profile, no matter how detailed and well written, belongs to an internet porn spamming corporation. Your chances of meeting someone are slightly worse than your chance of being stuck by lightning.
Additionally, these sites create fake profiles of attractive women (usually hiring models to pose for the photo), which they use for advertising and also to wink or email members who are not paying subscribers to bait them into paying the membership fee (which is usually required to read or respond to an email/wink).
If you use a credit card to pay the subscription fee you will have extreme difficulty in stopping them from charging your account. Canceling your membership via email and phone will be futile. It can take up to a year of frustrating phone calls to stop the charges and you will never get the money back.
These sites also sell your personal information to third party internet networking corporations who will use that to spam you with targeted advertising and popups on your computer.
Simply logging on to one of these sites may sound like a risk free way to see what all the hype is about, but at the end you will find yourself out hundreds of dollars, with a virus infected PC, and a totally unusable email account.
If you are dumb enought to give your credit card # to one of the porn spamming companies, you will be out much, much more and will have little recourse for recovering this money.
Since these companies do nothing to verify the identity of the users, your children may be baited into joining with your credit card and will be easily scammed by the porn spammers, and its gonna cost you a bundle.
Do yourself a favor and block these sites from being accessed from your computer with a firewall program to save yourself from this endless nightmare.
While women may find success, the story is quite different for men. Almost every female profile, no matter how detailed and well written, belongs to an internet porn spamming corporation. Your chances of meeting someone are slightly worse than your chance of being stuck by lightning.
Additionally, these sites create fake profiles of attractive women (usually hiring models to pose for the photo), which they use for advertising and also to wink or email members who are not paying subscribers to bait them into paying the membership fee (which is usually required to read or respond to an email/wink).
If you use a credit card to pay the subscription fee you will have extreme difficulty in stopping them from charging your account. Canceling your membership via email and phone will be futile. It can take up to a year of frustrating phone calls to stop the charges and you will never get the money back.
These sites also sell your personal information to third party internet networking corporations who will use that to spam you with targeted advertising and popups on your computer.
Simply logging on to one of these sites may sound like a risk free way to see what all the hype is about, but at the end you will find yourself out hundreds of dollars, with a virus infected PC, and a totally unusable email account.
If you are dumb enought to give your credit card # to one of the porn spamming companies, you will be out much, much more and will have little recourse for recovering this money.
Since these companies do nothing to verify the identity of the users, your children may be baited into joining with your credit card and will be easily scammed by the porn spammers, and its gonna cost you a bundle.
Do yourself a favor and block these sites from being accessed from your computer with a firewall program to save yourself from this endless nightmare.
Internet dating is a scam. Stay away!!!
Posted on: 2004/07/15 01:59pm
By: Anonymous (Darth)
Wow, I think guyincognito doesn't like dating sites. While I do agree you have to be careful (like with everything else on the internet) there are dating sites out there that offer a legitimate service. You just have to do a little research before you sign up.
I have to disagree. My friends and I belong to a well known dating site and two of them have met there current girlfriends there (maybe I will soon). I think that is where these forums come in handy in finding the right dating site. You can get actual peoples opinions.
I am sure some sites are a problem with this but when I decided to end my membership with Match.com, I didn't have any problems with them charging my credit card.
Read the dating sites Privacy Statement before signing up. A fare number of the major sites I believe do not sell email addresses (unless this has changed with some of them). You should be extremely careful with your emails from any source. Only open the ones that you know who the sender is. That's why I use a hotmail account for stuff I am not sure of. If you never open attachments you should be safe from viruses (even the ones that create popups) especially if you run an antivirus program.
While women may find success, the story is quite different for men. Almost every female profile, no matter how detailed and well written, belongs to an internet porn spamming corporation. Your chances of meeting someone are slightly worse than your chance of being stuck by lightning.
I have to disagree. My friends and I belong to a well known dating site and two of them have met there current girlfriends there (maybe I will soon). I think that is where these forums come in handy in finding the right dating site. You can get actual peoples opinions.
If you use a credit card to pay the subscription fee you will have extreme difficulty in stopping them from charging your account. Canceling your membership via email and phone will be futile. It can take up to a year of frustrating phone calls to stop the charges and you will never get the money back.
I am sure some sites are a problem with this but when I decided to end my membership with Match.com, I didn't have any problems with them charging my credit card.
These sites also sell your personal information to third party internet networking corporations who will use that to spam you with targeted advertising and popups on your computer.
Simply logging on to one of these sites may sound like a risk free way to see what all the hype is about, but at the end you will find yourself out hundreds of dollars, with a virus infected PC and a totally unusable email account.
Simply logging on to one of these sites may sound like a risk free way to see what all the hype is about, but at the end you will find yourself out hundreds of dollars, with a virus infected PC and a totally unusable email account.
Read the dating sites Privacy Statement before signing up. A fare number of the major sites I believe do not sell email addresses (unless this has changed with some of them). You should be extremely careful with your emails from any source. Only open the ones that you know who the sender is. That's why I use a hotmail account for stuff I am not sure of. If you never open attachments you should be safe from viruses (even the ones that create popups) especially if you run an antivirus program.
Internet dating is a scam. Stay away!!!
Posted on: 2004/07/19 02:16am
By: Anonymous (MetisWarrior)
Good points Darth . I must ask why did you quit match.com 
and what would you suggest as a alternative site ?
and what would you suggest as a alternative site ? Internet dating is a scam. Stay away!!!
Posted on: 2004/07/22 05:11pm
By: Anonymous (Write2Market)
It's not a scam--my husband and I met on Match.com. I also met a great guy before I met my husband, and he and I dated for over a year.
I'm a reasonably attractive woman, and I have two friends who are online NOW--both blond, fit, and professional. Your posting is the first rumor I've ever heard that women online aren't for real.
I agree it's pretty obvious men outnumber women online, and that must get bizarrely frustrating for the men. But not all the pretty female faces and great profiles are false. I've written over 100 women myself, inviting them to take my survey on Internet Dating Success factors. Many of them have written me back--I know they're genuine.
I'm researching factors that contribute to success online for my master's thesis. If you're interested in the topic, please check out my survey--it's conducted by volunteers for the purpose of finding out what DOES help people have more success with online dating.
The URL is:
http://www.surveymonkey.com/s.asp?u=38640517881
For ethical reasons, I can't compensate anyone for taking the survey --but I can send you a link to the live results. Over 100 people have taken the survey so far.
Best luck--
Lisa
I'm a reasonably attractive woman, and I have two friends who are online NOW--both blond, fit, and professional. Your posting is the first rumor I've ever heard that women online aren't for real.
I agree it's pretty obvious men outnumber women online, and that must get bizarrely frustrating for the men. But not all the pretty female faces and great profiles are false. I've written over 100 women myself, inviting them to take my survey on Internet Dating Success factors. Many of them have written me back--I know they're genuine.
I'm researching factors that contribute to success online for my master's thesis. If you're interested in the topic, please check out my survey--it's conducted by volunteers for the purpose of finding out what DOES help people have more success with online dating.
The URL is:
http://www.surveymonkey.com/s.asp?u=38640517881
For ethical reasons, I can't compensate anyone for taking the survey --but I can send you a link to the live results. Over 100 people have taken the survey so far.
Best luck--
Lisa
Not true
Posted on: 2004/07/29 09:04pm
By: Anonymous (Redzone)
There are companies that are starting to implement screening and background checks of members to be able to join or communicate with other members.
ie; www.true.com and now www.citydate.com, I suggest that people who are serious about meeting someone use one of these verified member sites.
ie; www.true.com and now www.citydate.com, I suggest that people who are serious about meeting someone use one of these verified member sites.
Internet dating is a scam. Stay away!!!
Posted on: 2004/11/09 05:33pm
By: Anonymous (Totally agree)
These are my experiences exactly. I'm not an ugly guy. I get dates in the real world without too much of a problem. I'm professional, IVY league educated, athletic, I come from a big close family, am interested in many, many things but after trying ever single dating site in existence (due to tremendous pressure from my family who buy into this hype and want me to get married) I can say for sure, there is not 1 female on any site that has a slim/athletic build a college education and is between the ages of 18 and 30. I challenge anyone to show statistics that prove otherwise. Match.com is the worst offender of all. Just post a profile and see. You will get 3 unsolicited contacts from attractive women right away. These are fake profiles created by Match.com. When you pay the membership fee and reply to their extremely friendly, flitatious emails you will be met with no reply at all. You will then see these profiles online and attempt to chat with them. They will be extremely friendly once again but will have no idea that an email was sent from that profile to you. Internet dating may be a very effective way for complete losers and undatably ugly people to meet but you will never, ever, ever meet a woman that is 18-30 attractive and smart on an internet dating site, although you will see tons and tons of profiles of women with these qualities. Internet dating is a scam.
Internet dating is a scam. Stay away!!!
Posted on: 2004/12/15 03:45pm
By: Anonymous (suspicous)
I've been on dating sites for about 18 months, and Ive met some nice women....so there are real people on these sites...but recently a site Ive been on a while as got me feeling very suspect...
I decided the site waan't offering anything so let my subscription run out, with in a week I'd had 5 people make me a friend without speaking to me and had a couple of messages sent, non I could reply to because my membership had run out...anyway figured what the eck £8.50 (UK) guess what nearly a month on and not one of those contacts will respond or as been in touch again...
I decided the site waan't offering anything so let my subscription run out, with in a week I'd had 5 people make me a friend without speaking to me and had a couple of messages sent, non I could reply to because my membership had run out...anyway figured what the eck £8.50 (UK) guess what nearly a month on and not one of those contacts will respond or as been in touch again...
Internet dating is a scam. Stay away!!!
Posted on: 2005/02/22 12:37am
By: Anonymous (johnny)
let me know about Elite mate....?
johnny
johnny
Internet dating is a scam. Stay away!!!
Posted on: 2005/11/25 01:42pm
By: Anonymous (Mike)
YES!!!
I have tried udate.com, match.com, yahoo personals, and many others - they are all "cash machines" to deprive me of my money - the reports say that internet-dating is a $475M/yr business, the largest single business on the internet; I hope these lawsuits that people are bringing againest match.com and others wake these people up
I have tried udate.com, match.com, yahoo personals, and many others - they are all "cash machines" to deprive me of my money - the reports say that internet-dating is a $475M/yr business, the largest single business on the internet; I hope these lawsuits that people are bringing againest match.com and others wake these people up
Internet dating is a scam. Stay away!!!
Posted on: 2005/12/06 12:00am
By: Anonymous (Bryan)
[QUOTE BY= Totally agree] Internet dating may be a very effective way for complete losers and undatably ugly people to meet but you will never, ever, ever meet a woman that is 18-30 attractive and smart on an internet dating site, although you will see tons and tons of profiles of women with these qualities. Internet dating is a scam.[/QUOTE]
I met a 28 yr old, beautiful girl with no kids who did'nt smoke, owned her house and works out several times a week. A hot romance ensued and I have been with her for 8 months. I could not have been more satisfied.
Maybe I was lucky but I dated very good prospects from online dating.
I met a 28 yr old, beautiful girl with no kids who did'nt smoke, owned her house and works out several times a week. A hot romance ensued and I have been with her for 8 months. I could not have been more satisfied.
Maybe I was lucky but I dated very good prospects from online dating.
Internet dating is a scam. Stay away!!!
Posted on: 2006/03/02 08:43pm
By: Anonymous (jeff)
Wow the whole reason im here is for those who come after me and read this. i have to admit im dreadfully pessimistic about these sites ive hit two signed up did the whole deal.. and there are so many fake profiles its amazin sure i think you could find a hundred overweight housewives and what not but the guy ahead of me is right on.. 18-30 pretty difficult i read on another board a gentlemen who said using aff or adult friend finder he had to send roughly 176 emails to get one date thats probably pretty close to the truth. go ahead but realize if its to good to be true it prolly is thats a good rule of thumb with these sites, im pretty much done with um theyre riduculous, i mean like the dude said somebody will send you some mail ie, a wink or a email suggestive and flirtacious so what do you do well if your a male you bite, then they send a return mail half the time it bears no resemblance to the original email or the other half itll have you thinkin some hot 19 year old wants to ride you like a cowboy and will include some attached pictures which lead you to another paying site absolutely terrible. i for one can say adult friend finder is a joke as well as true.com blow your money on something else boys...
To Brian You were VERY lucky
Posted on: 2006/03/07 03:24am
By: Anonymous (firebird)
with your internet dating experience.
Mine , as well as most I have read that are males looking for a woman is negative stuff.
I don't think guys expect a super model and most guys could not afford or in reality, want one. A high maintenance woman is like a high maintenance car-expensive and demanding all the time and you are always left in a state wree you feel inadequate for various reasons (at least with a high maintenance woman).
If she is truly gorgeous, you can expect guys hitting on her all the time at the very least.
Mine , as well as most I have read that are males looking for a woman is negative stuff.
I don't think guys expect a super model and most guys could not afford or in reality, want one. A high maintenance woman is like a high maintenance car-expensive and demanding all the time and you are always left in a state wree you feel inadequate for various reasons (at least with a high maintenance woman).
If she is truly gorgeous, you can expect guys hitting on her all the time at the very least.
Internet dating is a scam. Stay away!!!
Posted on: 2006/05/16 11:07am
By: Anonymous (webdater)
I've always relied on internet dating to get myself a date. Its just that finding dates on the net is easier than having to ask women to go out face to face. On the net, when your rejected, it really doesn't hurt as much as when its done in your face. When I go out with the one I met on the dating site, I am also assured that they are also interested in me as much as I am in them, so there is this feeling of security with yourself.
Anyway, about the webscam thing. I'm sure ya'll would think that after all that I've said, that I am in favor of these web dating sites. Well, yes I am but I should also be a witness to the numerous scams on the internet. A lot of sites have these phony users. Right now I'm at webdate.com. No problems so far. Just be careful when you are trying to meet up with someone. Make sure you are actually talking to a human, not a robot.
Anyway, about the webscam thing. I'm sure ya'll would think that after all that I've said, that I am in favor of these web dating sites. Well, yes I am but I should also be a witness to the numerous scams on the internet. A lot of sites have these phony users. Right now I'm at webdate.com. No problems so far.
Just be careful when you are trying to meet up with someone. Make sure you are actually talking to a human, not a robot.Re: Internet dating is a scam. Stay away!!!
Posted on: 2007/05/06 02:51am
By: Anonymous (Dorthy)
Not all is scam ,some genuine relationships have been found through online dating too!
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Posted on: 2007/05/09 09:13pm
By: Anonymous (Marty)
I agree. By joining or starting a local singles group online, you're much more likely to meet someone and keep out the spammers.
It has been my experience that not only are online dating services scams, but most of the features on their sites don't even work.
It has been my experience that not only are online dating services scams, but most of the features on their sites don't even work.
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Posted on: 2007/05/14 06:09am
By: Anonymous (dorthy)
There are several hundred internet dating websites available, and it is always a difficult choice to pick the best among them.
However my friend tried dating on some of the online websites and she was quite lucky to get a handsome guy 8)
However my friend tried dating on some of the online websites and she was quite lucky to get a handsome guy 8)
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Posted on: 2007/08/27 01:38am
By: Anonymous (Anonymous)
why doesnt anyone post the sites that they've had success at? Nice replies to argue the issue but NO proof. Is there a LEGIT site out there, or are they really a bunch of scams. I've tried Fling.com and with horrible results, i disowned them, and i'm now a little sad to find out it's way to hard to find someone online. I guess I'll have to resort to the usual way: Go out and meet them.
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Posted on: 2007/08/28 11:37pm
By: Anonymous (Boughthelie)
Thank you Anonymous!!! Fling.com is a SCAM!!! It's primary design is to entice lonely guys such as myself to find "local" hot women. They are all models trying to get you to buy time with them. All the IM's I got were models trying to get my credit card number, or to go to their "free" site to "chat", when all it really was, was a ploy to buy into their other site. When I got suspicious, I checked every single profile within a hundred miles of my location, ( it took quite some time.) Some of the profiles were actual repeats with different names, ages, locations, AND some (a lot) of profiles that said they were on "today" were shown later as "over 2 months" and such. FLING.COM IS A SCAM!!!!! DO NOT BUY THE 7 DAY TRIAL PERIOD BECAUSE IT WILL WASTE YOUR MONEY, TIME, AND ONLY FRUSTRATE YOU THAT MUCH MORE!!!!!!
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Posted on: 2008/06/23 12:15am
By: Anonymous (Pygoscelis)
I gotta say, internet dating sites make me feel lonlier than ever. I've been single a very long time, over a decade, and I've been lonely from time to time - but since going on dating sites its gone to a whole new level. Never felt quite the same way having gone to a bar or club and striking out. WHy is that?
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Posted on: 2008/08/28 06:57pm
By: Anonymous (Dave)
You just have to be careful very careful. There are lots of money in dating business. But anyway most girls from Russia and FSU look for better life outside their countries and we just have to find those who really honest which is not that simple. I use several sites and write about 10 girls, hope at least one of them comes out honest. And this http://forum.fiance.com is really very helpful forum. Good luck in your searches guys!
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Posted on: 2008/08/28 07:37pm
By: Anonymous (Marty)
People who run online dating sites may not care, but fewer and fewer people are taking online dating seriously anymore. It isn't going to die out though... far from it. Game players will keep online dating afloat for years to come. The rest of us will join local clubs, or start them.
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Posted on: 2009/06/08 01:30am
By: Anonymous (luvMolder)
Oh I disagree, Internet dating sites are just GREAT if
1) you are slender
2) you live in a big city
3) you can afford the insane prices they charge month after month after month, because if you are not in a big city you have to sit and play the waiting game until a new person comes on the site in your neck of the woods because everyone else near you has been MIA for more than 3 months
4) you are attractive
5) you are not looking for any more than a one night stand
6) if you like traveling many miles spending tons of money on gas just to be stood up or rejected
7) if you are into getting involved with cheaters posing as single or divorced people
1) you are slender
2) you live in a big city
3) you can afford the insane prices they charge month after month after month, because if you are not in a big city you have to sit and play the waiting game until a new person comes on the site in your neck of the woods because everyone else near you has been MIA for more than 3 months
4) you are attractive
5) you are not looking for any more than a one night stand
6) if you like traveling many miles spending tons of money on gas just to be stood up or rejected
7) if you are into getting involved with cheaters posing as single or divorced people