Forum Subject: EHarmony question?

Posted on: 2004/05/13 08:32am
By: Anonymous (Joan)

How do people like eHarmony? Is it worth filling out the long profile?

Joan

EHarmony question?

Posted on: 2004/05/13 09:07am
By: Editor

The one thing you have to remember with eHarmony is that they present to you the matches based on your profile you created (Using there matching model). You can't perform your own searches. When you do create your profile make sure it is correct. Some people like the matchg model, this allows them not to have to search through thousands of possible matches. Other people enjoy searching. It allows them to expand there search criteria if they so choose.

EHarmony question?

Posted on: 2004/06/10 11:25am
By: Anonymous (Bill N.)

I tried them out briefly last year. (These comments are based on the site as it existed a year ago. A quick look at the eHarmony's tour makes me think these comments are still valid.) There were a number of things I did not like about the site:

1) The detailed matching on the site can mean that you will match very few people.
2) It's more expensive than other dating sites.
3) They control the vertical; they control the horizontal. The site insists on walking you through a multi-step encounter/dating process.
4) Photos may be hidden at the user's request and shown at a particular point in the dating process. While I appreciate the security aspects of this, I am not willing to spend any time pursuing a serious relationship with someone I am not attracted to. On most dating sites, photos are posted for all to see if they are available.

As I said, I didn't give the site much time to work for me. I got out before the end of the 7-day trial period. I only had a couple of matches in that time (both with hidden photos). Perhaps I should have given the site more time, but I was already used to the experience of other dating sites like Yahoo, Match.com, and loveaccess.com. eHarmony just didn't suit me.

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Posted on: 2004/06/10 11:12pm
By: Anonymous (shera)

I just joined eharmony. Their personality profile is pretty good. The matches are interesting but I don't know if they are that compatible. For instance- a lot of my matches describe themselves as physically fit- high energy people. I am very laid back.
The other thing is that the matches you have may or may not respond- a lot of them don't respond or close matches permanently based on random whims.
That's my experience so far.

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Posted on: 2004/06/11 03:31am
By: Anonymous (west1745)

I used eharmony for a year. It is definitely worth it to fill out the profile and find out more about yourself. You can do that without paying and only pay if you want to communicate with a match.

I like their communicationn process. I learned a lot from it.

I have met some nice people on there but no matches yet. Maybe this is because I have my heart set on someone I have met offline.

Good luck to you!

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Posted on: 2004/06/11 01:51pm
By: Anonymous (GrahamCrackers)

Author: GrahamCrackers
Honestly, I've found EHarmony a HUGE waste of time and effort after filling out the endless drone of questions.
Seems like they don't pay attention to what you're looking for...but what looks good on paper. I was matched with people contstantly 10-15 yrs older, out of state, and had things IN COMMON like 'EATING, WALKING, and FAMILY'. Yeah, THAT is what I'm basing my life on...someone who can walk and eat. You can't see their pictures either, unless you PAY. I'm from the old school of attraction and chemistry. Not that online attraction means in person, but I wouldn't want to strike up a conversation with someone and then be 'repulsed', etc. The profiles were bland and no personality into most of the matches they sent me. I'm HUGE on someone having humor and personality. I'd also like someone opposite some of my qualities. I honestly thought it was taking too much of a 'scientific' approach. I like Match.com and Matchmaker sooo much better. Pictures up front and essays that they write on their personalties, likes, dislikes, etc. EHarmony was like going blind and then being matched for things that usually didn't matter to me. 'Eating???' Everyone likes to eat, or likes their family or 'walking'. To me, it was ludicrous.

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Posted on: 2004/06/11 04:07pm
By: Anonymous (Michelle)

I totally agree... it was a waste of time... after taking over an hour to fill out the profile, and then only getting matched with maybe 2 people, I didn't even bother with it after that...

EHarmony question?

Posted on: 2004/06/11 07:16pm
By: Anonymous (MostOutrageous)

Well, since you asked..

Hi, "Joan"..

I went through the whole blamed incredibly VERY long process of answering all of the questions purely because I wanted my promised free $40 value personality evaluation report.

Guess what?!

My profile was refused with no explanation save for that I didn't meet their requirements for members at that time (six or eight months ago). Their system absolutely refused to let me back into my newly created account, *AND* I have as yet to receive my very publicly promised free personality evaluation report.

Wanna know what I think? Too late.. Gonna share anyway..

I was very honest and upfront when answering the employment/paycheck questions by saying that I was unemployed and had no visible source of income. In my heart of hearts, I feel to this day that, since I was unemployed, they were not interested because they would never be able to drain me for the costs related to their services.

Honest, from the bottom of my heart, that's how I've always felt and nothing, absolutely nothing they ever say nor any cutesy, lovey dovey commercial they produce will ever be able to convince me of anything else. Ever.

The WHOLE time I was taking that test, based on the type of questions and how they were asked, it crossed my mind that they will invariably be using all of that incredibly extended data to make money off of online dating reports you can be guaranteed are being put together somewhere in their files.

It's just something else to think about as the very hopeful and trusting consider shelling out what another member described as possibly higher than average dating referral fees. Personally I'm not into paying someone else to make money off of my life, dating habits, and heartfelt desires..

Hope this at least lends food to thought to someone out there straddling the fence..

Big cyber hug.. May we all find our special somebody out there wherever they may be..

Peace..

Most Outrageous
Talking Rock, Georgia

Oh, PS.. Don't forget to keep your eye on the meat world, too, even as you play online.. Keep in mind Reba's song, "Somebody".. You may very well find that "somebody" you seek right there in the little red car in the lane just next to you..

[QUOTE BY= Joan] How do people like eHarmony? Is it worth filling out the long profile?[/QUOTE]

EHarmony question?

Posted on: 2004/06/12 12:21pm
By: Anonymous (Pam)

I'd like to thank everyone for their input. I can't say if it confirms whether eHarmony is right for me, but it's interesting to hear others' experiences. I did AOL personals back 5-6 years ago when it was wide open and free and felt like I wasted a LOT of time, so I am attracted to the concept of EHarmony at least. I just joined. The profile was pretty much right on the money for me, so hopefully it will be for the guys, too. Plus, I'm in my 50's and there are far fewer available people in my age group so a service of some kind seems necessary as looking locally doesn't yield a lot other than married men looking for flings.
I don't like to pay but all the sites charge now, and the fact that the other person pays too says something about the seriousness of their intent. The free or cheaper sites also seem to bring out the playas, and honestly, is there anyone out there who feels they need more anonymous rejection in their life?
The guided communication does seem a bit stodgy but they now have "Fast Track" where you can go right to open communications if both parties agree. The idea of guiding the initial back and forth is to control what I definitely saw happen a lot on the more open AOL forum, which is to keep people from pissing each other off right away! People make snap judgements based on typos, spelling, humor that didn't translate well into writing, and so on.
I'm a little nervous because eHarmony doesn't give you a chance to communicate body type and so many guys (and probably women too) are so fixated on looks that they won't make any effort to know a person if they don't have some ideal appearance.
So I would like to see a bit more clarity around what you are looking for facially: a 1, a 10, or something in between, and what body types you can accept, maybe also on a 1-10 scale, from "marshmallow plus" at one end to 1% body fat at the other(and running a marathon a day to get rid of THAT fat).

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Posted on: 2004/06/12 03:44pm
By: Anonymous (Most Outrageous)

[QUOTE BY= Pam]I'd like to thank everyone for their input.[/QUOTE]
Hi, "Pam".. Your opening was spoken as one who had already posted here, but I couldn't find an earlier post to respond to. Maybe I just misread that.


Wow.. That's great.. Do consider yourself fortunate that they sent you one.. Who knows, it's sounding already like maybe you will be one of the ones who doesn't end up complaining about the site.

[QUOTE BY= Pam]Plus, I'm in my 50's and there are far fewer available people in my age group so a service of some kind seems necessary as looking locally doesn't yield a lot other than married men looking for flings.[/QUOTE]
Did you try looking over to the left of the screen for these:

Dating Over 50: FiftyYearsPlus.com, Prime Singles, Senior FriendFinder

If it were me, I'd maybe even start out first by trying the BBB Online to see what, if any, complaints have been turned in on either of those three. If you dig around on the BBB website, you'll find a place to track down online businesses.

Oh, and if you've already been there, done that, maybe you could share that, too? I'm sure others would probably want to see a separate thread but maybe not.

At 46, I'm not quite ready to look at the over 50's yet myself because I'm very much a kid at heart. I've ALWAYS been a good ten years younger in mind than I am in body. Match has taken it upon themselves to continually (try to) throw me into the 50~yr~old plus guys speedmatching category, and that just doesn't cut it for me. I've just started conversation with a very nice gentleman of 45 who sounds like he'd love an apprentice in the garage when he pulls his next old motor. I'm game..

As for flings, unfortunately one is going to find those types no matter where one goes for services, and "flingers" come from all walks of life. Just keep one eye on the social register for a few days to quickly verify that one. It is very sadly the nature of the beast, so to speak, and the Internet has literally placed the world at the feet of those who want to cheat. It then just becomes a matter of whether they want to cheat with someone who could afford Site A or Site B..

[QUOTE BY= Pam]I don't like to pay but all the sites charge now[/QUOTE]
Yes, and no.. There's one that I can't tell if it's just getting its feet wet or if it has been around for a while. I found it a few months ago while it was called CyberSoulmates. It has just been renamed to NetRelate. There are (or was [nature of the cyber beast :)]) some somewhat limited free functions on there including 3 hours playing on the message boards and two free emails to other members each day.

I've had communication with I'm assuming the webmaster. Questions are frequently answered almost as soon as they are sent. But.. Based on some limited communication with the site admin, I will say that they are definitely not as professional as other sites out there. I don't think one is dealing with kids there, but one is definitely dealing with a company that might benefit from a quick course in Customer Relations and Communications.

I almost got the feeling that it could very well be someone doing what I'd like to do. Throw a huge server up in a garage somewhere and give people a much more accessible, fun place to play while keeping a careful eye out to make sure the raunch level is zip. Members at NetRelate are and *MUST BE* cordial to each other at all times, so it is at the very least a very nice place to visit while one is still searching on other sites, including your eH..

[QUOTE BY= Pam]the fact that the other person pays too says something about the seriousness of their intent.[/QUOTE]
There's definitely been a lot of bantering back and forth around the Net about that one. In my own case, I don't let the size of someone's wallet or how fast they open it be what I base another's intentions on.

I know many, many very nice seriously intentioned people out there who, just by the grace of whatever Fate rules their life, could not afford unreasonably excessive fees at all or for very long. A lot of character can be built in one who is not immediately handed everything just because they can pay for it at whim and will. Good intentions, character, heart, and soul most definitely are not something that can be bought for any amount of money.. It can only come from the inside.

I think if I kept running into a big problem of poorly~intentioned people, I might have a friend sit down with me and go through any profiles of interest. I definitely could see working together to pick out the deeper intentions of prospective suitors by jointly trying to read between the lines. Then again, there will always be those who will manipulate words and hearts just to get what they want..

[QUOTE BY= Pam]The free or cheaper sites also seem to bring out the playas[/QUOTE]
Insert above again ("As for flings").. Playas can come in all wallet sizes and levels of willingness to open those same wallets.. I've always had it in my head that someone with a bigger or wide open wallet has more resources to cover his cheating heart and lifestyle.. Guess it's just coming from what we've each experienced in life in the past.

[QUOTE BY= Pam]honestly, is there anyone out there who feels they need more anonymous rejection in their life?[/QUOTE]
As a mental health advocate, nothing ticks me off more than when, in the quiet times, I realize that, at their roots, these sites are taking advantage of the very lonely and desperate. So sad, so heartbreaking.. Trust me when I say it has been one of my personal focuses lately, just looking for a professional in the area to pick up the ball and run with it.. Again, it boils down to my personal quest to make sure that people go out there into the cyber dating world with their eyes wide opened..

[QUOTE BY= Pam]I'm a little nervous because eHarmony doesn't give you a chance to communicate body type and so many guys (and probably women too) are so fixated on looks that they won't make any effort to know a person if they don't have some ideal appearance.[/QUOTE]
I have to laugh very loudly at that one. Whew.. I do not post a pic on anything I play on because I have been told repeatedly that I am very recognizable. Because I very much prefer to protect my meat world anonymity, I get the same thing you speak of. They don't want to speak to someone unless they can see them. I myself have always fallen in love with words first. Someone who is "so fixated on looks", as you said, is DEFINITELY not who a nice person like you (or me ) needs to even think about.

[QUOTE BY= Pam]what body types you can accept, maybe also on a 1-10 scale, from "marshmallow plus" at one end to 1% body fat at the other(and running a marathon a day to get rid of THAT fat).[/QUOTE]
Yep. Right on up to an "I'll exercise if you will" or "100% couch potato so byte me" kind of thing..

Pam, I sure do hope you find what you are looking for. Thank you SOOO much for temporarily destracting me from the work I really should be doing.

Through how you present yourself in your own words, you definitely know what it is you have in mind. Very cool. I'll bet you find it soon. Best of luck and good wishes in your quest at eH. Please don't forget to brag when things work out for you..

Peace..

MostOutrageous

EHarmony question?

Posted on: 2004/06/12 05:16pm
By: Anonymous (horselady)

Getting a good chuckle over some of these comments... I suspect that EH might do better if they included a couple of make-or-break items. I went through the entire process (it's great to find that you're in such a minority that nearly no one is likely to be attracted to you - too bright, too active, too independent, too non-traditional, too... etc. Guess I need to dumb myself down and size myself up a bit).

I received a couple of interesting matches - but one make-or-break for me is my horses. They are, and have for a long time been, my life. I never could have children (and was all too familiar with the barren-broodmare-syndrome), so the horses, and the effort I put into rescuing horses, are far too large a part of who I am to find appealing any comments like "I'm allergic to horses.. get rid of them" or "where is there room for ME if you have all of those dumb animals". Yes, definitely a make-or-break.

Common or compatible traits are all well and good, but common or shared passions, interests, and dedications are even more critical. That's presuming folks even HAVE passions, which I'm beginning to suspect may not be a common case!

I suspect that the bottom line is that anyone at the extremes of the various and sundry bell-curves will experience the same limited success via net sites as they already have using conventional methods.

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Posted on: 2004/06/12 05:24pm
By: Anonymous (Tony)

I spent just shy of a year using eHarmony, so I thought I'd throw in my two cents. For my money, it's just not worth it. It was interesting to fill out the profile, but I pretty much know myself, so there were no surprises. :-) The first thing I noticed after completing the profile was that I received absolutely no matches. That's right: none. A couple of days later I received one. In the coming weeks the number of matches I received started to grow until I really couldn't keep up. Normally this would be great, but the highly structured communications process is really limiting and stagnant. You have no real freedom to communicate outside of multiple choice questions. I eventually did go out with several of the women I was matched with, but none of them were even close to beaing a real match. Just as an example, I rarely shy away from an opportunity to try something new, but I was matched with a girl who was afraid to try Indian or Vietnamese food because she was afraid she wouldn't like it. Granted, food is a small thing, but this attitude permeated her entire personality. Anyway, enough about her. The point is that the "advanced mathing" system is not that advanced. I've done much better on my own, either in person or on other do-it-yourself dating sites. (i.e. Match.com)

That said, everyone's experience is different. Plus, I'm a guy, so my experience may or may not be useful to you. :-) Although, I think the main problem I was facing was that most of the girls I met were wanting to find a husband, while I was looking to meet a friend with no preconceptions or limits.

Good luck to you - whatever your decision.

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Posted on: 2004/06/12 08:18pm
By: Anonymous (MostOutrageous)

Had to type back again.. You all are too fun.. I'm glad I stumbled on this through CNN yesterday..

HorseLady.. You sound like me.. I don't know how many times I've done the "love me, love my (furry, feathered, and scaly) kids" number.. Check, check, and double~check on the rest, too.. It's that confidence thing, that air of self~sufficiency, that can be a real deal buster for us, I think.

One personality match quiz I just happened to come across last night, a year after I took it, said that 95% of the opposite sex would basically adore someone like me, but that I'd only be happy with about 5 or 6% of them myself, if that. Still trying to figure that one out since I am seriously an easy keeper who enjoys sharing equally with her significant other. Plain and simple. No expensive tastes.. Nada.

Just would like to eventually find someone who is faithful (whoops ~ there goes, oh, say 60%+ right off the bat), kind, and considerate. Someday my prince will come..

To Tony.. It's great to hear a man's point of view. Your comment about meeting women who were husband shopping front and center sure hit home. I had wanted to toss that in earlier but couldn't quite find the place for it in my soliloquy.

The word "suffocation" comes to mind like right off the bat when I think back on most of the men who typed to me. Over and over the feeling I got was that we were two~thirds of the way to the altar, and that was their opening email.

Maybe over time people will be able to teach each other to not be quite so anxious about spending some quality time alone with themselves, do some kicking back and enjoy the ride for a while. Out of the blue, things will happen more in the way you said, out there accidentally one day when they least expect. (A girl can dream, anyway.. )

Happy hunting to us all..

MO

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Posted on: 2004/06/12 11:54pm
By: Anonymous (Anonymous)

Ok, it's time for me to add my two in. There is nothing wrong with girls husband shopping. I'm at a point in my life where for the first time I'm considering life partners and as a result, eharmony is perfect for me.

Also, I haven't had the bad exerience some have had with minimal matches. I get tons of matches..sadly, less than half ever communicate -- probably because they don't pay.

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Posted on: 2004/06/13 12:56am
By: Anonymous (Joel)

I think eHarmony is well worth the money. Remember, it is basically religious dating service, so keep that in mind. I meet my wife on eHarmony and she is fantastic. She is just the woman I had always hoped for and much, much more. eHarmony matched us so completely that we can almost read each others minds and finish each others sentences. eHarmony is great.

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Posted on: 2004/06/13 11:04pm
By: Anonymous (supergirl)

I thought it was awful! I ran it on a free trial and I only got a couple of matches. These matches were too old (I was 28 at the time and they were 40), too young (come on... what would I have to say to a 23 year old?), politically and socially conservative (I'm a very active political liberal and independent woman), and lived an hour or more away from me (I live in a major city, it shouldn't have been that hard to find someone closer).
I talked to a couple of these matches anyway (since eHarmony is convinced of its ability to find highly compatible matches) and we had absolutely nothing to talk about. Now, perhaps we had similar underlying personality traits, but we had NOTHING in common -- not activities, not favorite movies or types of music, not our family backgrounds, not favorite places to travel, not ideas about what we want over the next 5-10 years. One guy even went on and on (despite my tactful attempts to stop him) about how city neighborhoods are scary because of all the black people and that women need to be protected by men. Yuck!
So much for that.
I had hoped that online dating would be more about who you are than what you look like (I attract enough guys at clubs who come over because they think I'm cute and then spend the evening talking to my chest), but so far, in my trials at different sites, that has not turned out to be the case. My online dates haven't been any deeper or more personality-driven or better in any way than the ones with guys I meet out and about. It just increases the odds that you'll meet someone decent because you meet more people.
But I persevere... I'll just keep going through my toad-quotient and living my highly fullfilled and interesting life until I meet the right one.
Good luck to everyone.

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Posted on: 2004/06/14 09:24pm
By: Anonymous (Bohica)

I am currently a member. I did a 3 month period. Yep, $100. At first, I did a nationwide search. But realized that I would probably never meet any of the women I would communicate with.
I changed it to something like 200 miles from me. That is a reasonable distance to look.
Have had about 7 matches total in the shorter distance. Only 2 replied. One closed after the 3rd stage I think. The other, we had open communication, and even chatted outside of E-Harmony. Then she stopped writing. I reviewed the emails we exchanged, and I know I didn't write anything obscene. I guess I wasn't what she was looking for.

So, is it worth the more money that you spend? Not in my opinion.

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Posted on: 2004/06/15 12:58pm
By: Anonymous (Annadult)

I don't recommend the eHarmony questionnaire for people with Attention deficit disorder. Even with their constant email reminders to finish it, I never did. I'd spend a lot of time analying my answers to make sure it really described the way I felt, then get so bored, I'd just check the next 10 without much thought at all. Just when I thought I was nearing the end, it was '"Oh crap, MORE questions???"

The dating services that let you browse are hard for me too. I start out with good intentions of staying right on track, but it's not long before I'm thinking of anything BUT what I'm supposed to be doing. Like this post--I started it at 10:30...it's now 11:57. And yes, I do know what that says about my prospects of ever meeting anyone.

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Posted on: 2004/06/16 05:00pm
By: Anonymous (Sue)

Wow, I am interested in the perception of others on E-harmony. I have had a very good experience with the program. I signed up for 1 year and within 4 months asked if I could close my account because I had already met someone. As someone mentioned earier, the personality profile done for me was very accurate. I was matched with and e-mailed many guys. Not everyone I was matched with was "my type", and I was closed out by some too, I guess I was not "their type". The guy I met and I are often amazed by the things we have in common. Looks like I will be engaged or married by the end of the year... About the money thing... very interestin, e-harmony allowed me to transfer the remaining 6 months of my paid time to a good friend who was not even on the program yet. Since I had signed up and paid for a year, they really didn't have to give me anything. I have been told that the average person on e-harmony has to be matched up with and meet about 9 people before meeting someone they feel able to spend the rest of their lives with. Most of those who posted on this account do not seem to have given the program much of a chance.

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Posted on: 2004/07/08 05:43am
By: Anonymous (MostOutrageous)

[QUOTE BY= Sue] As someone mentioned earier, the personality profile done for me was very accurate.[/QUOTE]
You're very fortunate that you even received your profile. Still waiting for mine..

[QUOTE BY= Sue] Looks like I will be engaged or married by the end of the year...[/QUOTE]
My opinion, but.. If things are that perfect and wonderful, why wait?!

[QUOTE BY= Sue] very interestin, e-harmony allowed me to transfer the remaining 6 months of my paid time to a good friend who was not even on the program yet.[/QUOTE]
Again, consider yourself very fortunate. A quick search of something like -ripoff- and -eharmony- brings up people out there trying desperately to dislodge eHarmony from their credit cards but to no avail. Instead they are finding additional charges added.. Really not cool..

[QUOTE BY= Sue] Most of those who posted on this account do not seem to have given the program much of a chance. [/QUOTE]
Actually, when one really reads consumer~generated complaints, one sees that people DO give the program more than ample time to succeed if that is indeed its ulterior motive for existence. As above, a search on a combination of words like -ripoff- and -eharmony- shows it's not just -this account-.

[QUOTE BY= Joel] Remember, it is basically religious dating service, so keep that in mind.[/QUOTE]
Oh, goodness, I certainly hope that's not a major promotion point with all the loud complaints about ripoffs and related.

[QUOTE BY= supergirl] My online dates haven't been any deeper or more personality-driven or better in any way than the ones with guys I meet out and about.[/QUOTE]
Thanks for the giggle.. I'm finding most to be quite shallow myself. Something that just now occurred to me is that those who demand to immediately see a pic may be doing a quick check to make sure they are not dealing with, oh, say, their own spouse or something.

[QUOTE BY= Bohica] Then she stopped writing. I reviewed the emails we exchanged, and I know I didn't write anything obscene.[/QUOTE]
Had the same thing happen to me just this past weekend but in reverse (he stopped writing completely out of the blue). We were having a blast writing back and forth, too. I guess Life happens.. Too bad. He was a really, really nice guy.

Leaving it on that note.. Well, save for this one more.. Some interesting reading over at RateItAll as well as what one finds when one plugs this in over at the BBB Online..

Happy, safe hunting to us all..

Most Outrageous

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Posted on: 2006/05/07 03:42am
By: Anonymous (Raven)

I feel I must add my comments about Netrelate. Not a good site at all to join. Been there...done that and never want to do it again. The staff members are rude and if you get on the bad side of some of the members (who turn out to be forum moderators) they will make your experience a living hell. I am a very quiet and shy person and the rudeness displayed there (and the foul language) shocked me and the staff are very unprofessional.

If you are thinking of joining, join as a free member because once you start shelling out money, you realize that it was a terriible waste.

In Peace and Sisterhood,
Sister Raven (Yes, I am a Nun, hence why I didn't appreciate the excessive profanity there)

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Posted on: 2006/05/07 11:26am
By: Anonymous (MostOutrageous)

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Posted on: 2006/05/07 05:45pm
By: Anonymous (Rave)

Hey Out. No, that is the very first time I have heard of Craigs list?? That is a dating site?

Yep, NR has turned into a rotten egg. Admin there are extremely paranoid and claim to have no censorship in their private groups but they do censor and snip members at will. The site mods are disguised as regular members and if they don't like you, you are gone.

I don't recommend that anyone waste their money on a membership there but to use it as a free tool to make new friends and once the friends are made, jump ship when it becomes nasty.

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Posted on: 2006/05/07 09:42pm
By: Anonymous (MattShizzle)

I agree 100% with Raven on Netrelate. It used to be a good site, but in the last month or so it went way downhill. I was on a year and a half. As to EHarmony, I would like to warn people it is a conservative christian site, even though the commercials don't say that. Atheists routinely find they sign up and have "no matches." The only exception is if they maybe have some conservative/christianlike views, such as being against abortion. If that's your thing, hey, but if not you should know about it.

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Posted on: 2006/09/23 03:31am
By: Anonymous (ticked off)

The short answer: NO! The lnog answer is NO because if you ansswer honestly and are average in your income, ambitions, just an average person then you will get a message saying that there are no members who are compatable. Othewords, to get matched you probably have to lie. I took the damned test and answered honestly and that is what I got after about an hour of my time. Just another scam site that is so expensive that it can advertise on some of the low rent cable channels late at night. And the 'real' couples are nothing to write home about as far as looks.

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Posted on: 2008/01/29 10:04pm
By: Anonymous (who cares)

I've had an eHarmony membership for a while now(almost a year). Trust me, It's not worth it. All of your matches are going to be well...and I mean WELL outside your search radius and no one fixes that. I've emailed them several times about the problem and they haven't fixed it. I have my search radius set to 60 miles and ALL of my matches have been over 1000 miles away. I don't care how you do that, when you do the math, it's not possible to have 1000 miles show up when speaking about a 60 mile radius. Also, be prepared to wait FOREVER to hear replies from your matches if you do get any. It took one match over 3 weeks to respond. What's up with that? I mean if you don't seriously have the time to sit down for 5 minutes and reply to a simple email how the hell are you going to have enough time for the "love of your life"?....DON'T waste your money on eHarmony, I already did, if there's anything good that can come out of this experience please someone listen to my mistake and don't make the same mistake I did.

I am totaly new to this process

Posted on: 2009/01/25 12:50am
By: Anonymous (me @ 42)

After 22 years, my husband told me he was "miserable in our marriage". I am a total newbie. All I want is to go out on a date (mind you I'm a suburban mother of two who owns a small retail business). I want to get dressed up and go out. I will add that I'm not going to be the bitter divorcee, because- yuck. Can you imagine? Did I mention that I'm a newbie? What sight is the right one? I know this question is general, but I don't know how to begin...

Re: EHarmony question?

Posted on: 2013/06/01 11:00am
By: Anonymous (Lets Talk)

To me@42,

eHarmony is a good dating site to try for your first one. If you are like me (I am 42 as well) then you are looking for a long term relationship and you want to take things slow (I have 3 kids from a previous marriage). It took me a while to figure out how to best use eHarmony but once you do it is easy to drop your matches a message. I found eHarmony's matches to be decent quality and easier for me since I didn't really want to search for people anymore.

It is exciting at first to search for the man of your dreams (I tried plenty of fish first) but you soon find it depressing since I found most of the guys a either do not answer you on plenty of fish or if they do you soon fine they are not the person they say they are on their profile. Most of the men on plenty of fish are just looking for sex.

I also find the cost of eHarmony prevents most men who are not really interested in a relationship from joining so that is fine by me as well. The other good site you probably have heard of is Match. There automated matching is not as good as eHarmony I found but they allow you to search manually for members and if you want to do that I would give them a try.

Re: EHarmony question?

Posted on: 2013/06/09 12:31pm
By: Anonymous (Road Runner)

I think dating sites like eharmony are just to expensive for what they offer. It is much better to go out and meet people in real life and interact with them in a meaningful way. Trying to talk to someone by messages or sending texts on your phone is okay but it is so much easier to figure out if you want to date someone by actually MEETING them.

I find churches tend to have a lot of single events. I would suggest calling your local church to see if one is coming up. You will be glad you did and about $70 richer because that is how much eharmony costs.

Re: EHarmony question?

Posted on: 2013/06/30 09:19pm
By: Anonymous (Dave)

I have a question.

It says on the eHarmony website that it is free to communicate. Is this really true or are they just saying this so you join the site. What I really want to know is can I email other members and can they email me without paying?

thanks

Re: EHarmony question?

Posted on: 2013/07/12 01:47pm
By: Anonymous (Rosco P)

Dave I was wondering that myself until last week when Eharmony had a free communication weekend. On closer inspection it looks like on a regular day you can communicate with something called the guided communication process that doesn't include email. On the free weekend's it does include emails. It is a little misleading but all right there in the fine print.

Re: EHarmony question?

Posted on: 2013/08/17 08:03am
By: Anonymous (Terri)

I want to see the photos. I just joined eharmony today during their latest free communication and found out I cannot view other people's photos. Matching on your personality is only part of the equation and I am not even sure if eharmony got that part right (to be fair I have only messaged a few people). Physical attraction is part of a relationship and if can't get some idea of what a person looks like then whats the point.

I had fully planned on paying for a membership after this weekend now I am not sure