Posted on: 2022/09/06 03:58am
By: Jiyasa
While I'm currently annoyed, I will do my best to be as unbiased and as objective as I can be without outright tarring and feathering anyone. This website (ABFHeaven) is a very niche and specific dating site and I have been on and off here a handful of times. I usually will register once in a blue moon and create an account simply to peruse the local users in my area (you can't view them without a registered account) and if I don't see anyone, I don't see the point in sticking around so I delete the account. No harm, no foul. Well a day or two ago, I did this again to see if there were any new users in my area and when I tried to log on again tonight (less than an hour ago) my account was denied and said it does not exist. I have never been disrespectful, confrontational, rude or vulgar with any user on this website. What reason could Michael (the admin) have for doing this?
I am giving this review from the perspective of a neutral (didn't have time to be outgoing) male who at best, was a lurker and read comments/posts without commenting or interfering for fear of getting my head bit off. To me, the general mood of this website comes across to me as very hostile. I understand that in every walk of life there are good people and bad people everywhere you go, this website is no exception. This website (especially in the forums) appears to be rife with drama, angry blanket statements at ALL males regardless of whether or not you have done what you are accused of. The admin seems to always side with the females and they appear to know it and take full advantage of it. If you are a male, from the moment you walk through the front door that is the forums or post a personal ad, you are immediately in the crosshairs and fair game in their eyes. I'm not saying by any stretch of the imagination that all of the males were on their best behavior, but some of the profiles and comments of the women on this site are downright vicious. I have seen men reach out and I couldn't see any visible sign than at least outwardly that they had done anything wrong, the women on this site called some of the men on the site (including myself) abusive terms such as "thirsty", "rapey" and "pushy" and "you need us" and just an overall sense of condescending talk. How is anyone supposed to form a bond with you if straight out of the gate you're swinging and attacking them? I never even spoke to some of these women and I could see where the site had told me that they had blocked me. I can understand being let down, hurt, rejected at the opposite sex, but why so hateful and angry? I get that but the arrogance and haughtiness of some of these females on this site and their incessant man-bashing is appalling. IMHO they should seriously consider changing the name from ABFHeaven to She-Ra Man Haters Club.
The overall impression that I get from this site is that the women are only merely wanting attention and validation, not wanting to actually meet at any point despite not having stated this beforehand at any given point in conversation. The reason I say this is because I have never wanted anything fleeting or a "one time thing", and I honestly met all of the criteria the women were asking for and I was met with the same unwarranted abuse. When the man (or myself in this context) would want more than just a two sentence message two or three times a month followed by being ghosted and wanted to talk more and get to know one another, he is suddenly called "pushy" or "thirsty". This is when I throw my hands up and walk away.
I'm not going to tell anyone "Hey don't use this website" or to avoid them but I personally will be avoiding this website like the plague. You do what you want to, I don't presume to tell anyone what I think they should do but I have to be honest when I say my personal experiences of this website have definitely been less than stellar so if you do decide to join this site.... well, do so at your own risk is all I can say. I wouldn't personally expect a good outcome though. Sorry for the rant, just had to get it off of my chest. Peace out everyone, happy hunting and be safe.
Re: ABFHeaven.com (A Personal Review)
Posted on: 2022/09/08 06:20am
By: Anonymous (al)
validation is a sure sign of scammers
Re: ABFHeaven.com (A Personal Review)
Posted on: 2022/09/30 08:03am
By: Anonymous (Brad)
OP is salty that their account was deleted.
Site rules are very clear that you can't keep creating new accounts. People do this to bypass block lists.
Re: ABFHeaven.com (A Personal Review)
Posted on: 2023/01/22 05:18pm
By: Keeping It Real
I love the site. Im not very active, but feel safe there. Rules are clear on no redoing another account for safety. There's been those who are kicked for issues and try to regain access. I appreciate this feature of Michal trying his best to provide a safe place. I have never seen man bashing. I have seen where women will reply to misogynist, rudeness, etc. I wouldnt call that bashing