Forum Subject: Sticking it out for finances?

Posted on: 2021/05/19 05:14pm
By: Anonymous (Nnyleinnus)

I’m sucking up a *censored* marriage with a *censored* husband for financial reasons. He makes a TON of money. DID I mention he makes a ton of money? At what point should I get the nerves to tell him to get the hell out of my life forever? I have two young kids btw. How should I prepare myself with money to be ok? How much can I get from him in the divorce? Stories and advise pls!!!

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Posted on: 2021/05/19 05:39pm
By: Anonymous (Dan_Man)

On behalf of all men, this post sucks. So, you are faking a marriage because your husband makes a lot of money? That's not cool at all. Do you work? If you don't, you're lazy. If you do, you obviously are in love with money and have no respect for people. You suck too. Grow up.

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Posted on: 2021/05/23 10:04am
By: Anonymous (Babygirlpinkie)

I’ve been reading your posts for a while on here and even saw u on the dating sites after you sent out the link. I have some opinions if u want to hear them. (U gonna hear them anyway!!!) You seem pretty eager to find men and women to fool around with, hate your husband but like knowing he has money, you like black penises, brag about infidelity, and seem immature. If U didn’t say you were in your late 30s I would say u are in your early 20s with your selfish and childish thoughts. I don’t care if “Grant” makes a million dollars- u need to move on. You aren’t marriage material.... at all. I feel bad for the guy to be unaware of your *censored*. Rant over.

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Posted on: 2021/05/26 05:49pm
By: Anonymous (Mr.JohnInPA)

You have two young kids. Let me say this again. You’re a MOTHER. This should be your priority not how much money you can “get” from your husband if you separate. I don’t envy him. At all.

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Posted on: 2021/05/26 06:46pm
By: Anonymous (BTSrockingKorea)

I might be the only one trying to help you. I would suggest keeping your finances separate while you see if you are going to divorce. If you have a decent job, you can slowly save to have a nest egg. Don’t worry about his money for you. Instead think of it as his money will keep your kids secure if you can’t. Try and be an independent woman and don’t rely on someone else’s money. You’ll feel better in the long run.

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Posted on: 2021/06/10 03:08pm
By: Anonymous (Looker2)

Separate your finances and be independant. Learn to manage your spending and stay on a budget. You will feel good & won't need to rely on a man.

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Posted on: 2021/06/10 10:26pm
By: Anonymous (area51{-X-X-})

My wife spends our money on useless crap for herself & useless crap in general. Goes to the grocery store & buys the worst possible choice $$$ of whatever she is buying. I told her that it has to stop. It didn't stop. It won't stop. So........... We are separating our money & putting a joint amount into a common pot for kid spending. If I choose to save my money & not blow it, that's my choice. She's not blowing my share. If not I'm putting her into a pot with a lid so she can't spend ever again.

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Posted on: 2021/06/18 08:58pm
By: Anonymous (StudinPants)

my man, i love your plan.

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Posted on: 2021/06/18 09:57pm
By: Anonymous (Missy)

Money is important (but isn’t everything you know). Money should never be a reason for anything (unless it’s about feeding yourself or kids or keeping a roof over your head). Get a job and start to support yourself. You can do it!

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Posted on: 2021/06/24 08:43pm
By: Anonymous (AllAboutTheBase)

It should have nothing to do with money. Nothing.

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Posted on: 2021/06/28 03:57pm
By: Anonymous (LRM007)

You clearly married the wrong person and given the way your posts are written, i bet your husband feels the same, if not more. Sometimes people make stupid choices that put them down a difficult path. This happens all the time, every day, to a sh!t ton of people. Sticking in a shitty marrage isn't healthy for the kids, or you, or your spouse. Neither is focusing on money. It is troublesome to read you say "how much can I get from him in the divorce?" Is that what's important? money? so you take all his money, and then do what with it? money will solve what? Guess what? I was a kid with parents like you. Trust me when I wished my parents would have found real relationships with other people instead of pretending. get on the right track; you're clearly on the wrong one and it's helping no one.

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Posted on: 2021/07/01 06:59pm
By: Anonymous (OverRiverOHno)

So. your new profile says separated so I guess the decision was made? Good decision. *thumbs up* message me if you want to talk.

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Posted on: 2021/07/05 07:57pm
By: Anonymous (Tina_MarieTN44)

The title of your post says "sticking it out for finances"???? You started this post talking about money. This is troublesome because it gives some insight into your character. You mention your kids next and briefly, then it's back on the $$$$.

You asked for stories and advice Money shouldn't ever be a factor in terms of trying to get it out of a spouse, or asking how much you can get out of someone before you divorce them. People matter. I searched on your username and read many of your other posts to see if I could learn more about you. They were eye opening. You seem very selfish and self-serving and attention seeking. My advice is for you to get some therapy to work through your issues. it's currently destructive behavior to you and everyone around you.

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Posted on: 2021/07/20 08:24pm
By: Anonymous (Shanlynnae)

I was once in a relationship where I thought I was stuck because I made less money but we lived together and had a shared place and bills. I thought there was no way I could leave. My sister sat me down and we added up all the things I bought each month that wasn’t a “need”. Fancy haircuts/dyes = $120. Fake acrylic nails - $75-100. Unnecessary clothes - $200. Fancy drinks - $50. Random concert tickets…..I could continue. Bottom line is that I spent so much money on crap that I could afford much more than I thought. Reevaluate your personal spending habits and you may realize the same.

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Posted on: 2021/07/27 11:11pm
By: Anonymous (Jenny)

Money is the root of all evil. Famous quote that is 100 percent true.

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Posted on: 2021/08/07 11:44am
By: Anonymous (OverRiverOHno)

So where are we at?

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Posted on: 2021/08/07 12:25pm
By: Anonymous (Chris)

Get a job. Learn to pay bills. Learn what a budget is. You don’t need anyone but you. You’re an adult woman.

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Posted on: 2021/08/18 04:29pm
By: Anonymous (UofNC)

Please consider taking the UNC survey on divorce. Results will be shared on the original post. Thank you!

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Posted on: 2021/08/18 11:21pm
By: Anonymous (8675309rockin)

she found out the hub is making major bank and wants to juice him b4 she serves him…. playin’ nice & laying low until things r down….. all about jingle.

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Posted on: 2021/08/22 11:10pm
By: Anonymous (Urban)

People like this make me mad bc they use people & are selfish and lazy. Milking should be a crime and I hope someone tells her (ex???)husband to watch his wallet bc she sure is.

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Posted on: 2021/08/24 01:26pm
By: Anonymous (Ebbie)

So selfish.

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Posted on: 2021/08/27 11:23am
By: Anonymous ($$$$)

this post strikes a bad bad cord with me because my exwife strung me along for years because of money. not f*cking love. I realized too late that she loved the money that I made and what I did for her. She was lazy and i did more than my share for her and the kids and she just floated along for the ride......She did not love me at all but loved that i worked hard while she had an easy life and she thanked me by having sex with other men while she lived off my money. how did I find out? firm evidence -

1) her best friend told me about it after she got in an argument with my exwife. her friend gave me screenshots where my exwife talked about the guys, what they did and where they did it, and said she will never leave me because I'm her golden ticket --- she can't leave money and her easy life.

2) i found a shirt in our bed at the bottom under the covers that wasn't mine or hers while i was changing the sheets. I asked her if it was true.... deny deny deny... i love you she said.... let's make things work..... she played me over and over again. she blamed her bad decisions on me. yes, i'm why she slept with dudes. no accountability at all and no remorse. She kept me around for a comfortable life and knowing i would buy her what she needed and let her buy what she wanted, keep the bills paid and things in place. she held it over me that she was the mother to my kids and that gave her the right to use me this way. my kids were her ticket to manipulate me. she didn't just play me she played my mom and talked to her about how the issues in the marriage were because of me. my mom is a widow and retired and spent her days helping my ex figure out how to win me back. coached her. f*cking crazy. my own mom forgave my ex for sleeping around and using me for money and said i needed to try harder with her. in the last few months of marriage, my ex told me she was done sleeping around and money wasn't important to her at all. she loved me and wanted to make it work. she was 'trying'....

I then found evidence #3 that sealed it which I'm not going to even type here because it's f*cking disgusting.

marriage isn't about money for christ's sake.

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Posted on: 2021/09/01 01:03pm
By: Anonymous (Vid)

Wow there is alot to digest here and in the post from @nnyleinnus. I don't see how people can stick with a partner just because of finances. Sure it might be tough to separate and manage your own finances, but that isn't the reason why two people should stay married/ "My husband makes a TON of money" and "how much can I get from him?" are huge red flags on the "marriage". Then, the response post where the wife stuck with the husband because of money, but cheated on him over and over? She then lied to him that she was done sleeping with other people, and money wasn't important__ and then this was just another lie? People need to wake up and see the truth from toxic people and toxic marriages.

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Posted on: 2021/09/05 06:38pm
By: Anonymous (CNAPgh)

undeniable now...... for real???

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Posted on: 2021/09/09 07:01pm
By: Anonymous (Aliana)

Another Lie???

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Posted on: 2021/09/10 09:13am
By: Anonymous (ThreeDice)

Hate the story but love that you are moving on and creating the life you want

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Posted on: 2021/09/16 08:36am
By: Anonymous (TRP)

Money seems like the driver here and not love. Sad.

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Posted on: 2021/09/25 10:05pm
By: Anonymous (Darcey2)

This seems familiar story

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Posted on: 2021/10/25 06:06pm
By: Anonymous (JimmyT)

This is what marriage has come to in 2021.

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Posted on: 2021/11/29 06:51pm
By: Anonymous (JimmyT)

and maybe 2022

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Posted on: 2022/01/31 06:34pm
By: Anonymous (JimmyT)

New year same ol tricks for nnyleinnus.