Posted on: 2021/04/11 02:38am
By: Anonymous (Nnyleinnus)
My husband Grant and I opened up our marriage a few years ago based on some infidelity. Now, I’m sure I don’t want in this marriage for long term. Holding on for the kids. I guess this is perfect example of open marriages that fail. Should I ask for a divorce?
Re: Looking for open marriage advice
Posted on: 2021/05/18 10:22pm
By: Anonymous (deb776)
been there and done that. hanging on for kids seems silly if you're sleeping around with other men. the minute you had/have sex with other people you can't say you love him anymore. it's a lie.
Re: Looking for open marriage advice
Posted on: 2021/05/19 08:43am
By: Anonymous (nnyleinnus)
Grant was a willing participant when we had sex with my girlfriend. (He would have sex with her, and we had sex together as a group.) He encouraged us to have sex all together. He was just pissed when I had sex with men on my own... and that i actually cared for them. Trust me, the open marriage benefited him and he got his thrills from it. He's not a victim.
Re: Looking for open marriage advice
Posted on: 2021/05/19 04:58pm
By: Anonymous (Tommy_boy1981)
Quote by: AnonymousGrant was a willing participant when we had sex with my girlfriend. (He would have sex with her, and we had sex together as a group.) He encouraged us to have sex all together. He was just pissed when I had sex with men on my own... and that i actually cared for them. Trust me, the open marriage benefited him and he got his thrills from it. He's not a victim.
You make yourself seem pretty innocent and like all this is normal. Sex with other dudes (I read your recap on the other thread— bragging on all your dudes you bagged) and you have a girlfriend? You sound like a really classy lady. What a prize! Your husband will catch a disease from just looking at you. #wouldnttouchyouwitha10ftpole
Re: Looking for open marriage advice
Posted on: 2021/05/26 07:48pm
By: Anonymous (BTSrockingKorea)
I’m trying to help you. These are meant to be nice. It sounds like your husband introduced you to group sex/threesomes and you were a willing participant too. But......This doesn’t sound like a good or healthy marriage at all. This doesn’t sound like you are each other’s soul mates either. It sounds like you both aren’t happy if you went outside the marriage with men or women or both. You need to love ONLY each other. Fully. 150 percent. Would die for each other. I’d suggest a trial separation where one of you lives in a separate place. Then ask yourselves: do I miss him/her? Does he/she make me happy? Am I excited to see him/her and want to do shared fun hobbies together? Do I want to do special things for him/her like surprises, lunches out, date nights, etc? I can tell you that I found the love of my life a little later in life. I know this guy is absolutely the most perfect love. We connect on every level possible. We finish each other’s sentences, love to share meals, have very similar interests, love to talk, etc. It’s like once we met we formed a permanent connection between our hearts. From all your posts you don’t have this and are really in it for the wrong reasons. Now, unless the answers to my questions are: I miss him all the time. He makes me so so happy. I’m excited to be with him and see him. We enjoy being together and doing things together. I love buying him surprises, making him dinner and his favorite cookies, and showing my love for him everyday....... well if it isn’t this, you made a mistake. My advice is that you need to move on.
Re: Looking for open marriage advice
Posted on: 2021/05/26 09:12pm
By: Anonymous (Black&yellowSteeler)
Quote by: AnonymousI’m trying to help you. These are meant to be nice. It sounds like your husband introduced you to group sex/threesomes and you were a willing participant too. But......This doesn’t sound like a good or healthy marriage at all. This doesn’t sound like you are each other’s soul mates either. It sounds like you both aren’t happy if you went outside the marriage with men or women or both. You need to love ONLY each other. Fully. 150 percent. Would die for each other. I’d suggest a trial separation where one of you lives in a separate place. Then ask yourselves: do I miss him/her? Does he/she make me happy? Am I excited to see him/her and want to do shared fun hobbies together? Do I want to do special things for him/her like surprises, lunches out, date nights, etc? I can tell you that I found the love of my life a little later in life. I know this guy is absolutely the most perfect love. We connect on every level possible. We finish each other’s sentences, love to share meals, have very similar interests, love to talk, etc. It’s like once we met we formed a permanent connection between our hearts. From all your posts you don’t have this and are really in it for the wrong reasons. Now, unless the answers to my questions are: I miss him all the time. He makes me so so happy. I’m excited to be with him and see him. We enjoy being together and doing things together. I love buying him surprises, making him dinner and his favorite cookies, and showing my love for him everyday....... well if it isn’t this, you made a mistake. My advice is that you need to move on.
This ⬆️ She speaks the truth. 100%
Re: Looking for open marriage advice
Posted on: 2021/05/28 08:59am
By: Anonymous (JennyFromTheBlock89)
Quote by: AnonymousMy husband Grant and I opened up our marriage a few years ago based on some infidelity. Now, I’m sure I don’t want in this marriage for long term. Holding on for the kids. I guess this is perfect example of open marriages that fail. Should I ask for a divorce?
Marriages should be about love. Without a doubt, a wholesome pure love. If you don't have it, you have some big choices to make.
Re: Looking for open marriage advice
Posted on: 2021/06/06 10:01am
By: Anonymous (MarchingB18892)
Open marriages are never a solution. They just cause problems. Open marriages after infidelity is even worse. May I ask who cheated? If he cheated on you, the suggestion to do an open marriage is his way of continuing to cheat on you. Don’t be dumb.
Re: Looking for open marriage advice
Posted on: 2021/06/06 10:22am
By: Anonymous (Nnyleinnus)
Quote by: AnonymousOpen marriages are never a solution. They just cause problems. Open marriages after infidelity is even worse. May I ask who cheated? If he cheated on you, the suggestion to do an open marriage is his way of continuing to cheat on you. Don’t be dumb.
Grant cheated first with several women around the time my daughter was born. I was so pissed so I had sex with men after my shifts at work and when my husband was away. I’m a nurse and have work odd hours so no one realized it for years. Grant had no clue and I felt content with my life. Then, I fell in love with the one guy. I was upset and emotional and Grant found out when i was careless with messages. He was furious at me so I promised him I’d break it off. I never did because I loved the man so much. He caused me to lose my job in the end and he felt so bad for me. We have both moved onto other people but I still see this guy once every couple months. I’m not dumb.
Re: Looking for open marriage advice
Posted on: 2021/06/09 07:08pm
By: Anonymous (ElonMuskisDead)
Bad. Nothing else to say here.
Re: Looking for open marriage advice
Posted on: 2021/06/10 11:45am
By: Anonymous (MrsNoMore_MsNow)
Quote by: AnonymousOpen marriages are never a solution. They just cause problems. Open marriages after infidelity is even worse. May I ask who cheated? If he cheated on you, the suggestion to do an open marriage is his way of continuing to cheat on you. Don’t be dumb.
my ex pressured me into Threesomes to make it seem like It was ok for him to cheat. It was his way of making it seem like I gave the blessing I later found him w one of our partners except they were by themselves having sex when i was at work in our bed. I screamed but he said I already had sex with her so why should I care. Divorced was finalized one year after I found them
Re: Looking for open marriage advice
Posted on: 2021/06/10 09:57pm
By: Anonymous (valaz89)
kissing double pussies is the kiss of death

Re: Looking for open marriage advice
Posted on: 2021/06/11 09:09am
By: Anonymous (>Jackblack)
Quote by: Anonymouskissing double pussies is the kiss of death 
well said my man. ROTF
Re: Looking for open marriage advice
Posted on: 2021/06/11 12:04pm
By: Anonymous (Dr.Psych101)
Quote by: AnonymousMy husband Grant and I opened up our marriage a few years ago based on some infidelity. Now, I’m sure I don’t want in this marriage for long term. Holding on for the kids. I guess this is perfect example of open marriages that fail. Should I ask for a divorce?
I am a PsyD candidate and my concentration is in marital counseling. I am currently reviewing relationship blogs as part of my final thesis. I also have experience researching open marriages. I came across your post and wanted to share my thoughts. When you ask this type of question, you are seeking an answer that may already be answered. You are looking for validation for what may already know. Children are often a primary reason for marriages to "stay together" in our modern world. Finances can be another reason, often times for insurance purposes. Both of these reasons are important, but it's critical to look at the larger picture of open marriages and the individuals that comprise the marriage. Although you are past the point of no return (you have already had sex outside the marriage and there is no turning back), there may be others that are considering open marriages as a solution. I can suggest that open marriages breed problems, specifically in regards to each individual's psychological state and outlook. Please consider the following research as it relates to your experiences.
Regarding open marriages, I have researched and found that in a large majority of cases, the marriages are irrevocably broken after this experience. Trust is almost impossible to recover. The act of sex is an emotional and powerful experience for those people that experience it simultaneously with valid love for the other person. Open marriages turn a loving sexual experience into transactional sex. Transactional sex breeds mistrust, jealousy, selfishness and lies. In my research on open marriages, I created a survey of married spouses who opened up their marriages to other sexual partners. In the vast majority of cases (77%), the person who initiates the open marriage (specifically the one that desires to have sex outside the marriage) no longer feels any moral obligation or responsibility to the other spouse. Once that person has sex outside the marriage, their moral judgement seems to be permanently impaired and this often extends to all facets of their lives.
I also found that the person that pushes to open up the marriage (due to a lack of desire to the spouse, or a desire to fulfill their sexual needs) often exhibits signs of grandiose behavior. More specifically, the person often has exaggerated beliefs of their own self importance ("it's all about me"

, put their own needs above all others (e.g. the other spouse, children, family), can be needy in general, and shows a lack of self-truth. In a sense, the "initiator" turns selfish and child-like and feels that their needs should be fulfilled before all others because they were given the permission to do so (through the opportunity and permission to have guilt-free sex with another partner, they are given permission to act as they please in other facets in life). They are given a "pass" not only to have sex with someone else, but a pass to life's responsibilities in general. Once the rule is broken for them, and they believe that rules no longer apply to them. By giving them permission to get pleasure outside the marriage, they then continue to take other liberties in life. They often no longer put effort into the family and instead put forth their energy into activities that helps them with their sexual partners. For example, women given a "hall pass" may become fixated on their bodies, hair and makeup, nails, new clothes, being online on dating websites/apps/social media, texting other people (potential sexual partners) etc. In a sense, they put themselves back on the dating market as if they are single and without obligations and this becomes their primary energy focus to find the next new relationship. The same can be true for men. Men may become fascinated with their outward appearance as well (gym, tanning, "looking good", buying expensive clothes/cars to make an impression) and lack a sense of responsibility to things that they should be accountable for (work, children, etc.). Men may slack off in their career because their energy is in pursuing the next woman to bed. The focus towards the other spouse is replaced with all of this. Giving permission to either spouse to have sex outside the marriage changes the rules permanently, and it's difficult to go back to a previous marital arrangement with love and commitment.
I would need more information from you regarding your marriage to offer specific counseling, but thought I could offer some of my research to you. I'm not sure if any of this information seems in line with your experiences with your husband, but perhaps it offers you some consolation that you aren't alone. The percentage of marriages that recover from this type of arrangement is low (20-35% depending on the definition of recovery). I would recommend seeking out a counselor who could learn of your specific situation and help guide you on a path to healing. You mentioned you have children. Please note that you may not ever be together in traditional sense of husband/wife, but you can raise and guide the children as partners, acting similar to business partners. Business partners have rules regarding operations of the business. You and your husband can create rules on the operation of raising the children, and keep the emotional side (and emotional scars) away from them. Rules can also be followed even though each of you may lack trust of the other person (trust may never be recovered, but you may need to accept this). One of you may still indulge in grandiose or selfish behaviors, but when the rules in regards to the children are followed, you can both agree on this success. During this healing process, it is ok for each of you to spend time with your children independently (without the other spouse) so that you both have time to foster the relationship with your children. Forcing family interactions may cause tension, and the children will notice it. I wish you the best and hope to see a future post from you on the resolution of your marital issues.
Re: Looking for open marriage advice
Posted on: 2021/06/11 02:39pm
By: Anonymous (valaz89)
Quote by: AnonymousQuote by: AnonymousMy husband Grant and I opened up our marriage a few years ago based on some infidelity. Now, I’m sure I don’t want in this marriage for long term. Holding on for the kids. I guess this is perfect example of open marriages that fail. Should I ask for a divorce?
I am a PsyD candidate and my concentration is in marital counseling. I am currently reviewing relationship blogs as part of my final thesis. I also have experience researching open marriages. I came across your post and wanted to share my thoughts. When you ask this type of question, you are seeking an answer that may already be answered. You are looking for validation for what may already know. Children are often a primary reason for marriages to "stay together" in our modern world. Finances can be another reason, often times for insurance purposes. Both of these reasons are important, but it's critical to look at the larger picture of open marriages and the individuals that comprise the marriage. Although you are past the point of no return (you have already had sex outside the marriage and there is no turning back), there may be others that are considering open marriages as a solution. I can suggest that open marriages breed problems, specifically in regards to each individual's psychological state and outlook. Please consider the following research as it relates to your experiences.
Regarding open marriages, I have researched and found that in a large majority of cases, the marriages are irrevocably broken after this experience. Trust is almost impossible to recover. The act of sex is an emotional and powerful experience for those people that experience it simultaneously with valid love for the other person. Open marriages turn a loving sexual experience into transactional sex. Transactional sex breeds mistrust, jealousy, selfishness and lies. In my research on open marriages, I created a survey of married spouses who opened up their marriages to other sexual partners. In the vast majority of cases (77%), the person who initiates the open marriage (specifically the one that desires to have sex outside the marriage) no longer feels any moral obligation or responsibility to the other spouse. Once that person has sex outside the marriage, their moral judgement seems to be permanently impaired and this often extends to all facets of their lives.
I also found that the person that pushes to open up the marriage (due to a lack of desire to the spouse, or a desire to fulfill their sexual needs) often exhibits signs of grandiose behavior. More specifically, the person often has exaggerated beliefs of their own self importance ("it's all about me"

, put their own needs above all others (e.g. the other spouse, children, family), can be needy in general, and shows a lack of self-truth. In a sense, the "initiator" turns selfish and child-like and feels that their needs should be fulfilled before all others because they were given the permission to do so (through the opportunity and permission to have guilt-free sex with another partner, they are given permission to act as they please in other facets in life). They are given a "pass" not only to have sex with someone else, but a pass to life's responsibilities in general. Once the rule is broken for them, and they believe that rules no longer apply to them. By giving them permission to get pleasure outside the marriage, they then continue to take other liberties in life. They often no longer put effort into the family and instead put forth their energy into activities that helps them with their sexual partners. For example, women given a "hall pass" may become fixated on their bodies, hair and makeup, nails, new clothes, being online on dating websites/apps/social media, texting other people (potential sexual partners) etc. In a sense, they put themselves back on the dating market as if they are single and without obligations and this becomes their primary energy focus to find the next new relationship. The same can be true for men. Men may become fascinated with their outward appearance as well (gym, tanning, "looking good", buying expensive clothes/cars to make an impression) and lack a sense of responsibility to things that they should be accountable for (work, children, etc.). Men may slack off in their career because their energy is in pursuing the next woman to bed. The focus towards the other spouse is replaced with all of this. Giving permission to either spouse to have sex outside the marriage changes the rules permanently, and it's difficult to go back to a previous marital arrangement with love and commitment.
I would need more information from you regarding your marriage to offer specific counseling, but thought I could offer some of my research to you. I'm not sure if any of this information seems in line with your experiences with your husband, but perhaps it offers you some consolation that you aren't alone. The percentage of marriages that recover from this type of arrangement is low (20-35% depending on the definition of recovery). I would recommend seeking out a counselor who could learn of your specific situation and help guide you on a path to healing. You mentioned you have children. Please note that you may not ever be together in traditional sense of husband/wife, but you can raise and guide the children as partners, acting similar to business partners. Business partners have rules regarding operations of the business. You and your husband can create rules on the operation of raising the children, and keep the emotional side (and emotional scars) away from them. Rules can also be followed even though each of you may lack trust of the other person (trust may never be recovered, but you may need to accept this). One of you may still indulge in grandiose or selfish behaviors, but when the rules in regards to the children are followed, you can both agree on this success. During this healing process, it is ok for each of you to spend time with your children independently (without the other spouse) so that you both have time to foster the relationship with your children. Forcing family interactions may cause tension, and the children will notice it. I wish you the best and hope to see a future post from you on the resolution of your marital issues.
i think my double *censored* comment was just as helpful and much easier to read than yours

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Re: Looking for open marriage advice
Posted on: 2021/06/13 08:29pm
By: Anonymous (Dr.Psych101)
If you are interested in speaking with professionals, here are several reputable practices:
https://www.thecenterforcouplestherapy.com/
http://saraalexandermftcounselor.com/
Re: Looking for open marriage advice
Posted on: 2021/06/15 05:43pm
By: Anonymous (Downon_707)
Situation seems f*cked up overall & don't think u rly have a marriage right now anyway. Open marriages ain't real marriages. Hard to save something that isn't there, ya know?
Re: Looking for open marriage advice
Posted on: 2021/06/17 01:47pm
By: Anonymous (Justin Thyme)
Yes. Ask for the divorce.
Re: Looking for open marriage advice
Posted on: 2021/06/24 07:50pm
By: Anonymous (Billy&Jean)
What will make you happiest? What will make him happiest? This answers your question.
Re: Looking for open marriage advice
Posted on: 2021/06/25 08:18pm
By: Anonymous (TruthSeeker!)
Quote by: AnonymousMy husband Grant and I opened up our marriage a few years ago based on some infidelity. Now, I’m sure I don’t want in this marriage for long term. Holding on for the kids. I guess this is perfect example of open marriages that fail. Should I ask for a divorce?
When you ask these types of questions you know your answer but are just looking for someone else to say it so then you can feel justified……Doesn’t sound like there is much love between you. Cheating? Open marriage? “Holding on”……...That’s not an open marriage that failed. That’s a REGULAR marriage that failed………
Re: Looking for open marriage advice
Posted on: 2021/06/28 05:43pm
By: Anonymous (++Benny++)
Quote by: AnonymousYes. Ask for the divorce.
agree
Re: Looking for open marriage advice
Posted on: 2021/07/01 06:00pm
By: Anonymous (G.O.R.)
Quote by: AnonymousMy husband Grant and I opened up our marriage a few years ago based on some infidelity. Now, I’m sure I don’t want in this marriage for long term. Holding on for the kids. I guess this is perfect example of open marriages that fail. Should I ask for a divorce?
Have anyone with any life experience read your question. Anyone with any common sense. The minute you opened up your marriage was the end of your marriage.
Re: Looking for open marriage advice
Posted on: 2021/07/05 04:45pm
By: Anonymous (Palm_Beach79)
Trust is gone so this isn't going to work anymore. once it's gone it is gone.
Re: Looking for open marriage advice
Posted on: 2021/07/24 07:43am
By: Anonymous (Annie)
Quote by: AnonymousMy husband Grant and I opened up our marriage a few years ago based on some infidelity. Now, I’m sure I don’t want in this marriage for long term. Holding on for the kids. I guess this is perfect example of open marriages that fail. Should I ask for a divorce?
No one suggested intensive couples therapy. Maybe other people see the writing on the wall but this is an option.
Re: Looking for open marriage advice
Posted on: 2021/07/26 07:45pm
By: Anonymous (JennyFromTheBlock89)
Quote by: AnonymousQuote by: AnonymousMy husband Grant and I opened up our marriage a few years ago based on some infidelity. Now, I’m sure I don’t want in this marriage for long term. Holding on for the kids. I guess this is perfect example of open marriages that fail. Should I ask for a divorce?
No one suggested intensive couples therapy. Maybe other people see the writing on the wall but this is an option.
Therapy would be a horribly painful process. Given her stories over the last years+……. I can’t imagine it
Re: Looking for open marriage advice
Posted on: 2021/08/24 04:20pm
By: Anonymous (PGH_jp)
found you again!
Re: Looking for open marriage advice
Posted on: 2021/09/02 06:54pm
By: Anonymous (Carolyn)
Quote by: AnonymousMy husband Grant and I opened up our marriage a few years ago based on some infidelity. Now, I’m sure I don’t want in this marriage for long term. Holding on for the kids. I guess this is perfect example of open marriages that fail. Should I ask for a divorce?
Open marriages do not work no matter what rules are in place. Desire to open the marriage means you should end the marriage and find love and happiness with another person. Open marriages hurt everyone in the end, but divorces are new beginnings.
Re: Looking for open marriage advice
Posted on: 2021/09/09 06:42pm
By: Anonymous (Aliana)
Quote by: AnonymousMy husband Grant and I opened up our marriage a few years ago based on some infidelity. Now, I’m sure I don’t want in this marriage for long term. Holding on for the kids. I guess this is perfect example of open marriages that fail. Should I ask for a divorce?
you don't love him, or you wouldn't have sex with other people. period and vice versa. your kids will benefit from separation and getting away from the toxicity. wake up and stop pretending like you care.
Re: Looking for open marriage advice
Posted on: 2021/09/11 07:07pm
By: Anonymous (AnonDater)
Quote by: AnonymousQuote by: AnonymousMy husband Grant and I opened up our marriage a few years ago based on some infidelity. Now, I’m sure I don’t want in this marriage for long term. Holding on for the kids. I guess this is perfect example of open marriages that fail. Should I ask for a divorce?
Open marriages do not work no matter what rules are in place. Desire to open the marriage means you should end the marriage and find love and happiness with another person. Open marriages hurt everyone in the end, but divorces are new beginnings.
I agree with @Carolyn. Say you weren't even married and were just dating you'd prob want to end that dating relationship if your partner didn't want to be with only you. It doesn't make sense to be married or dating or anything with this person.....
My mother told me years ago when I was looking to get married that if/when someone strays in a marriage, it is almost impossible to save. They strayed because you or vice versa weren't important enough for them to remain committed. It will always be in the back of your mind and you will never forget the circumstances around it. How can you work hard and provide for someone that doesn't respect you enough to keep true to only you? You really cant because the trust and respect is gone.......
You aren't enough for them or vice versa....... and if you weren't enough then you will never be so guess what you will be doing for your entire life? you'll be wondering what they are up to and with who..... that is no way to live and people in committed relationships don't waste a minute of their time with these thoughts......
Re: Looking for open marriage advice
Posted on: 2021/11/25 02:48am
By: palapas
If you're considering divorcing your spouse, talk to them about it before taking any legal action. Try to come up with a plan that will be best for both of you if the marriage does end. It's important to remember that divorce can be a long and drawn-out process, so make sure you are mentally prepared for this.
Re: Looking for open marriage advice
Posted on: 2021/11/29 07:00pm
By: Anonymous (JimmyT)
why do you post all your sh!t online? what the hell are u saying about me online? keep it low for fuc$sake.
Re: Looking for open marriage advice
Posted on: 2021/11/30 06:03am
By: palapas
For Me, There are a few reasons why divorce is not a solution for relationship problems. First, it can be a costly process to end one’s marriage. Secondly, studies show that when children from divorced families have poor mental health and well-being outcomes when compared to children from intact families. Finally, staying in an unhealthy marriage can be better than ending it because this provides an opportunity for growth and learning to take place in the relationship.
Re: Looking for open marriage advice
Posted on: 2022/04/06 09:27pm
By: johnbatoN
I think adults can figure out their own relationships, but I couldn't be in an unhealthy relationship.
Re: Looking for open marriage advice
Posted on: 2023/07/10 07:53am
By: Anonymous (n/a)
When it comes to open marriages and serious relationships, communication, trust, and mutual respect are key. Open marriages require a high level of honesty, transparency, and emotional maturity from both partners. Here are a few important points to consider:
Open and Honest Communication: Establish open lines of communication to discuss your desires, expectations, and boundaries. Regularly check in with each other to ensure that both partners feel heard and understood.
Trust and Security: Building and maintaining trust is crucial in any relationship, especially in an open marriage. Trust that your partner is committed to the rules and agreements you've established and that they have your best interests at heart.
Boundaries and Agreements: Clearly define your boundaries and establish rules that both partners feel comfortable with. These boundaries may evolve over time, so ongoing communication is essential.
Emotional Connection: Remember that open marriages are not solely about physical encounters. Emotional connections with others can arise, so prioritize nurturing your emotional bond with your primary partner.
Regular Check-ins: Set aside time to have honest conversations about how the open marriage is impacting your relationship. Ensure that both partners feel valued and loved, and address any concerns or insecurities that arise.
Jealousy and Insecurities: It's normal to experience moments of jealousy or insecurity in an open marriage. It's important to address these feelings openly and honestly with your partner, and work together to find solutions that foster emotional well-being for both individuals.
Mutual Respect and Consent: Respect each other's choices, desires, and boundaries. Obtain consent from all parties involved and prioritize everyone's emotional well-being and comfort.
Remember, open marriages are not for everyone, and it's essential that both partners are fully on board and committed to making it work. Seeking guidance from a professional relationship counselor or therapist who specializes in non-traditional relationships can also be beneficial.
Ultimately, the success of an open marriage depends on the willingness of both partners to communicate openly, respect each other's boundaries, and prioritize the strength and well-being of the primary relationship.