Forum Subject: You Should Avoid These Online Dating Approaches
Posted on: 2017/08/02 09:29am
By: Gold
There is no lack of online dating tips, but somehow there are always guys who get it wrong. Dating mistakes are not limited to men, although it is usually them who approach ladies first.
Good dating sites which offer large databases and transparent charges with a decent amount of free services, give you all the tools to be successful. But it's easy to annihilate everything with a wrong way to start communication.
5 Flawed Dating Approaches for Men that Destroy Your Chances
There are many errors a man can make on a dating site, but let's talk about the most common problems.
Follow these quick tips and your Inbox will look more promising.
1. Poor photos in the profile
When I look at the type of photos an average guy uploads to his dating profile, I want to cry, most of the time. Other times I feel like vomiting, but thankfully not too often.
It's not a joke, by the way.
>> Probably 1 in 20 photos in men's profiles looks decent.
>> Personally, I would likely to answer only 1 guy in 200.
>> By simply having a clear and bright shot on a nice-looking background (the loveliness of the scenery will rub off to you, promise!), things would change dramatically for most guys.
>> Ask a friend or a passerby to take a shot, as opposed to selfies. Shots taken from a few steps away look better than self-portraits.
If you do nothing except updating your profile picture to a nice shot, you will outdo 90% of the competition on the spot.
2. Empty profiles
The line that drives me insane in men's profiles, "Not sure what to write here". Gosh! Anything but that.
What are you trying to do? Get a girl? Then say so! Yes, it's that simple. Something along the lines, "I am here to meet a good woman for a relationship" would be just fine.
You may think you need something clever or funny. Usually the simplest and most straightforward things work the best.
>> Once you fix your text and photo, you have chances to succeed with ladies.
>> Go ahead without fixing these things, and you are out before you even started.
3. Not contacting women
As a man, the burden of approaching a lady is on you. The majority of attractive women won't need to initiate communication and they feel uncomfortable to show their interest first.
There are no exceptions to this rule. If all of a sudden you stumbled upon some place where hot women seem to fight for your attention, you are definitely on one of these pseudo-dating sites with foreign brides, where you pay to chat. If you were born yesterday or spent the last decade in a cave, here is an update: They pay people to do it. The country from where most of these operations are now ran is Ukraine, because average wages there are only around $200-300 a month. (Yes, a month.)
>> If you are cheap and pick a cheap PPL site (without a webcam), you are probably talking to a pimple-faced guy or an old Ukrainian babushka.
>> If you consider yourself smart and only chat to girls who have a webcam on, they are still being paid to talk to you. Although it may be cheaper than phone sex at $3.95/minute, but it's the same level of genuine affection, something well below zero.
In general, only hookers procuring potential clients and PPL scouts contact men on a reasonable dating site, to move them to paid services a.s.a.p. If you wish to meet a real girl, initiate. It's OK to get 100 rejections or be ignored. If you want a girlfriend, you probably only need one nice lady to be happy.
4. Innuendos
It is normal to want intimacy with a woman, but talking about it in mails or chats before you even had a chance to see each other in person (at least via a video link on Skype of Duo), is likely to make any decent woman to press the button "Block this sender".
>> If you seek a woman who will want to be with you without financial incentives (aka "a good girl"
, then keep your secret passions and desires to yourself.
>> There will be a day to make it happen, if you do not scare her away now.
5. Getting stuck in electronic communication
If you managed to get a "Yes" from a woman, then after a couple of email or chat exchanges ask to see her (on video, if you are not in the same neighbourhood). Face-to-face contact is the first check point you both need to pass to move forward.
>> If you like each other, there is some potential.
>> If not, there is no point in continuing this connection and getting stuck in a virtual romance for months.
If you got along famously, think about seeing each other in real life soon. Great girls don't stay single for long. Move fast or she may be taken by someone else, who is more proactive.
Good dating sites which offer large databases and transparent charges with a decent amount of free services, give you all the tools to be successful. But it's easy to annihilate everything with a wrong way to start communication.
5 Flawed Dating Approaches for Men that Destroy Your Chances
There are many errors a man can make on a dating site, but let's talk about the most common problems.
Follow these quick tips and your Inbox will look more promising.
1. Poor photos in the profile
When I look at the type of photos an average guy uploads to his dating profile, I want to cry, most of the time. Other times I feel like vomiting, but thankfully not too often.
It's not a joke, by the way.
>> Probably 1 in 20 photos in men's profiles looks decent.
>> Personally, I would likely to answer only 1 guy in 200.
>> By simply having a clear and bright shot on a nice-looking background (the loveliness of the scenery will rub off to you, promise!), things would change dramatically for most guys.
>> Ask a friend or a passerby to take a shot, as opposed to selfies. Shots taken from a few steps away look better than self-portraits.
If you do nothing except updating your profile picture to a nice shot, you will outdo 90% of the competition on the spot.
2. Empty profiles
The line that drives me insane in men's profiles, "Not sure what to write here". Gosh! Anything but that.
What are you trying to do? Get a girl? Then say so! Yes, it's that simple. Something along the lines, "I am here to meet a good woman for a relationship" would be just fine.
You may think you need something clever or funny. Usually the simplest and most straightforward things work the best.
>> Once you fix your text and photo, you have chances to succeed with ladies.
>> Go ahead without fixing these things, and you are out before you even started.
3. Not contacting women
As a man, the burden of approaching a lady is on you. The majority of attractive women won't need to initiate communication and they feel uncomfortable to show their interest first.
There are no exceptions to this rule. If all of a sudden you stumbled upon some place where hot women seem to fight for your attention, you are definitely on one of these pseudo-dating sites with foreign brides, where you pay to chat. If you were born yesterday or spent the last decade in a cave, here is an update: They pay people to do it. The country from where most of these operations are now ran is Ukraine, because average wages there are only around $200-300 a month. (Yes, a month.)
>> If you are cheap and pick a cheap PPL site (without a webcam), you are probably talking to a pimple-faced guy or an old Ukrainian babushka.
>> If you consider yourself smart and only chat to girls who have a webcam on, they are still being paid to talk to you. Although it may be cheaper than phone sex at $3.95/minute, but it's the same level of genuine affection, something well below zero.
In general, only hookers procuring potential clients and PPL scouts contact men on a reasonable dating site, to move them to paid services a.s.a.p. If you wish to meet a real girl, initiate. It's OK to get 100 rejections or be ignored. If you want a girlfriend, you probably only need one nice lady to be happy.
4. Innuendos
It is normal to want intimacy with a woman, but talking about it in mails or chats before you even had a chance to see each other in person (at least via a video link on Skype of Duo), is likely to make any decent woman to press the button "Block this sender".
>> If you seek a woman who will want to be with you without financial incentives (aka "a good girl"
, then keep your secret passions and desires to yourself. >> There will be a day to make it happen, if you do not scare her away now.
5. Getting stuck in electronic communication
If you managed to get a "Yes" from a woman, then after a couple of email or chat exchanges ask to see her (on video, if you are not in the same neighbourhood). Face-to-face contact is the first check point you both need to pass to move forward.
>> If you like each other, there is some potential.
>> If not, there is no point in continuing this connection and getting stuck in a virtual romance for months.
If you got along famously, think about seeing each other in real life soon. Great girls don't stay single for long. Move fast or she may be taken by someone else, who is more proactive.
Re: You Should Avoid These Online Dating Approaches
Posted on: 2017/11/02 01:59pm
By: Anonymous (Andci)
the big problem is to believe in photoshop i agree there are so many fool things on this sites like when you cant take woman's contact info if you want before you will talk t \o her thousand of credits and so on...
I ve used Merry Cherry the last time and i found it luckly for me. but who knows where is the truth. I am going to meet one girl these winter hope she will not become ill as all they can lol
I ve used Merry Cherry the last time and i found it luckly for me. but who knows where is the truth. I am going to meet one girl these winter hope she will not become ill as all they can lol
Re: You Should Avoid These Online Dating Approaches
Posted on: 2017/12/14 12:24pm
By: ryecody1986
Hi I'm new here. Really appreciate the suggestion. It's helpful.
Re: You Should Avoid These Online Dating Approaches
Posted on: 2017/12/21 07:08pm
By: Andrea
An empty bio though will make a woman indeed hesitant to start a conversation. It is good to have an impressing one to raise attention.