Contributed by: kellyseal Thursday, June 08 2017 @ 07:09 am
Have you met someone over your favorite dating app and questioned their honesty? Chances are, if you’re an active online dater you have, and you’re not alone. Many daters are distrustful of other daters, and can’t tolerate even a small “white lie” – whether it’s fudging your weight, age or income, according to a new study by dating site Match.
This is because many of us aren’t exactly honest with our dates. In fact, Match’s annual Singles in America study surveyed over 5,000 daters in the U.S. across a range of ages, ethnicities, and regions to determine how much (and what type) of small lies they would tolerate on a first date before turning down a second date.
Match found the majority of daters – 57% - claim they do not tell white lies while they’re dating. Moreover, two thirds of daters believe any small fib is unacceptable. In fact, your chances of getting a second date or having sex aren’t made better by lying, so the consensus among singles is: just don’t do it.
Another interesting finding is that the number one lie daters tell each other is how many sex partners they’ve had. Nineteen percent of daters have lied about their sexual history, and another 17.6% have lied about their dating history. After that, almost 12% have lied about their finances and a mere 8% have lied about their age. It seems people are less inclined to lie about the obvious things like height, weight, and age, and more likely to lie about what isn’t immediately visible.
Men and women are equally likely to have lied about the number of sex partners they’ve had, but men both lower and increase their number equally (depending on the situation and how conservative their dates seem). Women however are more likely to decrease their number.
Men are also more likely to lie about finances (29%) and their job (32%), while women are more likely to lie about their weight (17% of women vs. only 10% of men).
And when it comes to age, gay and bisexual singles are more likely than heterosexuals to lie about their age, 44% and 56% respectively. A whopping 91% of conservative Republicans and the rich are more likely to lie about their height.
And what about your dates exposing your lies? Can’t potential dates snoop online and find out information about you? The answer is yes, and they do. Twenty-seven percent of men said they had a date view a social media account and have been busted in a lie, and 17% of women said the same.
Bottom line: don’t lie to your dates. It just makes things complicated, and you have no better chance of forming a relationship.