Do Unto Others
- Monday, November 18 2013 @ 07:09 am
- Contributed by: Jet
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In the working world, you hear a lot about networking and reputation. The Golden Rule of treating others as you’d like to be treated frequently comes into play, and you can often actually witness the consequences; no one wants to suddenly work under the co-worker they were badmouthing.
What many don’t realize is that reputation can matter in the dating world as well. Even a mid-sized city can feel like a small town at times; when you start filtering for age, interests, and education level, chances are you’re looking at a pool of potential matches that is very similar to the ones your friends are seeing. Thus, even if a potential match is a stranger to you, that doesn’t mean you don’t know someone who’s met or even dated them before. And as we all know, people like to talk about their dating experiences, the good and the bad.
With online dating being somewhat anonymous, it can lead some to make questionable choices - such as the lewd first-contact message or the incredibly hostile response to a rejection. Those people think they’re behaving in a vacuum; they think they can throw a temper tantrum and move on to their next potential match consequence-free. In truth, that’s not always the case.
Not everyone throws fits and writes obscenity-laden messages, but it’s a good lesson to bear in mind just the same. Depending on your personal circumstance, the dating world can indeed be small, and people do like to talk. So when you’re telling your own “horror stories,” remember that you might be talking to someone who’s already heard the story from someone they know. Even if they don’t know your “ex-date,” trashing someone else can make your date wonder if you’ll do the same to them. Unless you’re talking about someone truly offensive or abusive, it might be best to follow that Golden Rule, and keep your tales to yourself.
Not everyone is compatible, but that doesn’t mean we shouldn’t remain on our best behavior just the same. In addition to the fact that it’s simply the kindest way to behave, it can have incredibly personal, tangible rewards - or consequences.
What many don’t realize is that reputation can matter in the dating world as well. Even a mid-sized city can feel like a small town at times; when you start filtering for age, interests, and education level, chances are you’re looking at a pool of potential matches that is very similar to the ones your friends are seeing. Thus, even if a potential match is a stranger to you, that doesn’t mean you don’t know someone who’s met or even dated them before. And as we all know, people like to talk about their dating experiences, the good and the bad.
With online dating being somewhat anonymous, it can lead some to make questionable choices - such as the lewd first-contact message or the incredibly hostile response to a rejection. Those people think they’re behaving in a vacuum; they think they can throw a temper tantrum and move on to their next potential match consequence-free. In truth, that’s not always the case.
Not everyone throws fits and writes obscenity-laden messages, but it’s a good lesson to bear in mind just the same. Depending on your personal circumstance, the dating world can indeed be small, and people do like to talk. So when you’re telling your own “horror stories,” remember that you might be talking to someone who’s already heard the story from someone they know. Even if they don’t know your “ex-date,” trashing someone else can make your date wonder if you’ll do the same to them. Unless you’re talking about someone truly offensive or abusive, it might be best to follow that Golden Rule, and keep your tales to yourself.
Not everyone is compatible, but that doesn’t mean we shouldn’t remain on our best behavior just the same. In addition to the fact that it’s simply the kindest way to behave, it can have incredibly personal, tangible rewards - or consequences.
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