Waiting on Destiny
- Sunday, December 12 2010 @ 09:45 am
- Contributed by: Jet
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When you're in love, it's easy for everything to seem "predestined." "Meant to be." You know how tough the dating world can be, so when you actually find someone compatible, someone you really get along with, well, it can seem magical.
Thus, when a couple tells their get-together story, it can evolve into a fairy tale over time. “If I hadn't missed the bus that day...” “If I hadn't gone to that website on a dare...” “I wished on a star as a child for a guy who...” “Magic.” “Fate.”
It's understandable. Humans have been finding supernatural meaning in the events of their lives for thousands of years. And sometimes the sheer luck of finding the right person, contemplating what might have changed if this or that were different – well, the numbers can be chilling. It's far more comfortable to assume that even if you hadn't missed the bus that day, you would still be “meant to be.”
But here's the problem with that kind of thinking: it encourages those who haven't met the right person, or accomplished their dreams in general, to sit around and wait for it to happen to them. If you and your true love are “meant to be,” then surely it doesn't matter if you're emailing people on a dating site or sitting right here on the couch, right? Maybe your true love will be the pizza delivery person.
Well, maybe it will. But the more you limit your human interaction – whether in person or online – the less chances you have of meeting someone right for you.
Sure, it can be hard work. It can be uncomfortable emailing a stranger, or approaching one. It's rough when things don't work out. But just like any goal or dream, the hard work is worth it when you succeed. And if you're the sort of person who likes to think that everything is “fated,” think of it this way: when you finally meet your true love, all the previous work will have gone into giving you the perception and social skills to recognize and woo the object of your desire.
Making wishes is great, and who knows? Maybe it actually works. However, are you willing to throw away potential happiness while you wait on a star? Or are you willing to work to make your dreams come true?
Thus, when a couple tells their get-together story, it can evolve into a fairy tale over time. “If I hadn't missed the bus that day...” “If I hadn't gone to that website on a dare...” “I wished on a star as a child for a guy who...” “Magic.” “Fate.”
It's understandable. Humans have been finding supernatural meaning in the events of their lives for thousands of years. And sometimes the sheer luck of finding the right person, contemplating what might have changed if this or that were different – well, the numbers can be chilling. It's far more comfortable to assume that even if you hadn't missed the bus that day, you would still be “meant to be.”
But here's the problem with that kind of thinking: it encourages those who haven't met the right person, or accomplished their dreams in general, to sit around and wait for it to happen to them. If you and your true love are “meant to be,” then surely it doesn't matter if you're emailing people on a dating site or sitting right here on the couch, right? Maybe your true love will be the pizza delivery person.
Well, maybe it will. But the more you limit your human interaction – whether in person or online – the less chances you have of meeting someone right for you.
Sure, it can be hard work. It can be uncomfortable emailing a stranger, or approaching one. It's rough when things don't work out. But just like any goal or dream, the hard work is worth it when you succeed. And if you're the sort of person who likes to think that everything is “fated,” think of it this way: when you finally meet your true love, all the previous work will have gone into giving you the perception and social skills to recognize and woo the object of your desire.
Making wishes is great, and who knows? Maybe it actually works. However, are you willing to throw away potential happiness while you wait on a star? Or are you willing to work to make your dreams come true?
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