The Great Date Crusade
- Friday, July 22 2011 @ 07:19 am
- Contributed by: Jet
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Let’s say you’ve met someone who you think is just great. You have several interests in common, and you have fun on your dates. But after a certain amount of time - months, let’s say - you’re beginning to hit a lull. You’ve gone to all the “cool” places for dates, and you’ve done everything together that you can. Now you’re starting to repeat yourself, but you don’t feel like you’re quite ready to settle into the “night in” routine. When you’ve exhausted all of your common interests, where do you turn for date plans?
First, try to find something to do that is completely foreign to the both of you. You might have a blast! It might be an unmitigated disaster - but taking on the disaster together can still lead to a night of camaraderie and romance. It’s the idea of having an adventure together that’s important more than the actual activity. Remember to consider the two of you as you select it, however - you want to find something that has an equal shot at fun for the both of you. If one of you is incredibly athletic and the other isn’t, a new difficult sport might not be the best choice for the two of you together.
Next, try a “trade-off.” Chances are that you each have interests that the other doesn’t share. Trading dates - exchanging one interest for another - is a sweet gesture and a chance to show your date another side of yourself. Just remember that in order for this to work, both parties have to be equally willing; letting yourself be dragged, whining, to the opera is just going to bring both parties down. A deal only works if both want to give it an honest shot. For this reason, it’s best to negotiate the terms for both dates well in advance.
Finally, a “night in” doesn’t have to mean one spent in front of the television. Try arranging a “game night,” either alone or with friends. You could try cooking a new recipe together, and film it to make your own “cooking show.” The possibilities are endless! Remember that the goal is really to spend time together; while outside entertainment is fun, a couple that truly enjoys one another can even make a fun night of sitting in front of the TV.
First, try to find something to do that is completely foreign to the both of you. You might have a blast! It might be an unmitigated disaster - but taking on the disaster together can still lead to a night of camaraderie and romance. It’s the idea of having an adventure together that’s important more than the actual activity. Remember to consider the two of you as you select it, however - you want to find something that has an equal shot at fun for the both of you. If one of you is incredibly athletic and the other isn’t, a new difficult sport might not be the best choice for the two of you together.
Next, try a “trade-off.” Chances are that you each have interests that the other doesn’t share. Trading dates - exchanging one interest for another - is a sweet gesture and a chance to show your date another side of yourself. Just remember that in order for this to work, both parties have to be equally willing; letting yourself be dragged, whining, to the opera is just going to bring both parties down. A deal only works if both want to give it an honest shot. For this reason, it’s best to negotiate the terms for both dates well in advance.
Finally, a “night in” doesn’t have to mean one spent in front of the television. Try arranging a “game night,” either alone or with friends. You could try cooking a new recipe together, and film it to make your own “cooking show.” The possibilities are endless! Remember that the goal is really to spend time together; while outside entertainment is fun, a couple that truly enjoys one another can even make a fun night of sitting in front of the TV.
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