Contributed by: RedheadWriting Thursday, September 17 2009 @ 10:22 am
The world of online dating can be daunting. Whether you’ve been in the mix of various online dating sites for awhile or are completely new to the scene, it’s easier than you think to create a profile that will get you more glances than passes.
Building your online dating profile doesn’t have to be in the same category as a trip to the dentist (with apologies to the dentists reading this). Just think about the last time you sat down at a business meeting, a party, or even a date. What was it that you found interesting about the people you were talking to? It probably wasn’t that they liked the color blue or “looked as good in a cocktail dress as they do in a pair of jeans.” More likely, it was the truly unique qualities and experiences they possessed. A recent trip to Nepal, a sense of humor like Jerry Seinfeld or that they just completed their first 100-mile bike ride. Am I right?
This is what your online dating profile should be like! Filled with the truly unique character traits that embody you – from the words you choose to the pictures in your profile, let your profile scream “I’m somebody special!” instead of “Keep looking. I’m just like everyone else.”
Online Dating Profile Tip 1: Ask Your Friends.
If you were to ask your friends (both male and female) what they thought were the coolest things about you, what would they say? Don’t speculate – just ask them! Send an email or ask them over drinks, and tell them you’re writing an online dating profile and looking to meet someone your friends will approve of so you need their help. And there’s no shame in using online dating to help get you back out into the dating scene or in your search for Mr. or Mrs. Right. Anyone who tells you you’re crazy, well – put it in your profile. That friend thinks you’re a little nutty!
Online Dating Profile Tip 2: Be Positive.
We’ve all had bad relationships or marriages that didn’t last. And we’re all looking for someone special. That’s why online dating sites exist! Use your profile to highlight an upbeat look on life. No one wants to read a downer of a profile. If you have trouble spinning your life in a positive way, ask for help. There are some great profile writing services out there that are inexpensive and know how to help you find better matches with a little profile tweaking. We hire a plumber to take care of our plumbing – why not hire a profile writer if you need help with your dating profile?
Online Dating Profile Tip 3: Use Recent Pictures.
It may have happened to you already: you show up for a first internet date and you don’t recognize the person you’re supposed to be meeting. The pictures on your online dating profile come down to truth in advertising. If you advertise one thing and give your customer another, that’s bait-and-switch and a business practice that doesn’t make anyone happy. A good relationship begins on the basis of trust. Be honest with your profile wording and make sure your profile pictures are recent. Don’t have any recent pictures? Grab a friend and your digital camera and head to your local park. There’s no excuse to not have recent photos. Even if you love that picture of yourself ten pounds ago, it doesn’t belong on your online dating profile right now.
Also, make sure the majority of your photos show your face. Your matches want to see what you look like! Include some full-body shots as well, but leave the muscle and bikini shots off of your online dating profile. Show that you’re fit? Sure. Leave something in your bag, though. Your mate needs to earn the right to see how good you look with less clothing on.
The tips above will get you going with writing an online dating profile that will yield more winks and emails back than you could imagine. Be positive, be accurate and get some real feedback from the people who know you best!