Big Three of First Dates

So, you're ready for that big First Meeting, First Date, whatever you'd like to call it – and you want it to be somewhere other than the cliché coffee shop. Well, first, remember that the coffee shop is cliché because lots of people feel comfortable there – but you want to stand out, I understand. No problem! A first date can happen anywhere, as long as you keep a few key criteria in mind.

Here's what I call the Big Three of the first date: first of all, it has to be in a safe, well-populated area. Second, it should be a place both parties can arrive at separately. And third, the entertainment should not get in the way of talking – you might be able to busy yourself in an activity if you need to, but you can chatter away if you want to.

A prime example of a place that doesn't meet any of these criteria is a drive-in movie. You're trapped in someone's car for up to four hours, possibly in a secluded area, and you could talk, maybe, but you'll miss the movie. A drive-in can be great fun, don't get me wrong; it's just not the best or safest place to meet someone for the first time.

So, what sort of places do make the cut? Well, for many, it means non-traditional sports, like bowling, miniature golf, or even rock climbing. These kinds of activities lend themselves to athletic skill of any level, you can keep it as competitive or as casual as you like, and there's plenty of time to talk in the middle.

But not everyone likes athletic activity, even something like bowling. At this point, it might be a good idea to revisit the idea of the coffee shop or restaurant – with a twist. Try finding a place that has an open trivia night. If your date doesn't want to show off their muscles, they might want to show off their intellect. Alternatively, try an old-fashioned arcade or midway carnival. You'll definitely want to double-check on this one with your date, as not everyone likes games, but a giant stuffed animal would definitely be a reminder of your first date.

Remember, as you discuss your plans, to have a backup. Some activities, like a midway or miniature golf, depend on the weather. And if Plan A goes awry, it's great to have a suitable place – even the old coffee shop – to retreat to. Try to keep your Plan B in the same general area, so you're not wasting time getting from place to place. Applying the Big Three to your first date will hopefully lead to one that's comfortable, safe and fun – a perfect venue to make a connection.