All About Attitude
- Saturday, June 30 2012 @ 09:40 am
- Contributed by: Jet
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It may have been quite awhile since we were children, but there’s one lesson that probably any teacher or parent can confirm: when it comes to new activities, it will totally fail if you don’t have the right attitude. If we don’t want to learn how to bowl, bowling will not be fun, even if we have natural aptitude, even if it would have been fun on some other day. It probably comes as no surprise, then, that online dating is exactly the same way.
First, consider what dating really is: you’re meeting new people in the hopes of finding someone with whom you click. If you get along, well, at the least you might have a few more evenings of fun. In a best-case scenario, you find a new best friend, romantic partner and someone with whom you can share months and years of happiness. In a worst-case scenario, the first date falls flat. Maybe the potential match actually says something offensive. You’ll never have to see them again, and you might even get a good story out of it.
From that perspective, dating has a lot more potential to be fun than not. And the potential of meeting someone with whom you share a spark - well, that’s even exciting! You’re not entering a long-term contract, or getting a medical procedure done, and you’re getting out of the house and doing something fun. Why not be excited about dating?
For many, however, dating doesn’t represent fun and possibilities. Instead of seeing a fresh start after a relationship that went sour, they might only see failure. Instead of seeing a myriad of possibilities, they might see a needle in a haystack. And it’s a shame, because by entering the dating world “despite themselves,” they’re setting themselves up to be less successful.
Dating might not yield a successful long-term relationship right out of the gate; however, that doesn’t mean that it’s something to dread. As you set up your first dates, ask yourself what your attitude really is, and if it can be improved. After all, who would you rather meet on a date - someone who’s excited about the possibilities in life, or someone who’s expecting to fail?
First, consider what dating really is: you’re meeting new people in the hopes of finding someone with whom you click. If you get along, well, at the least you might have a few more evenings of fun. In a best-case scenario, you find a new best friend, romantic partner and someone with whom you can share months and years of happiness. In a worst-case scenario, the first date falls flat. Maybe the potential match actually says something offensive. You’ll never have to see them again, and you might even get a good story out of it.
From that perspective, dating has a lot more potential to be fun than not. And the potential of meeting someone with whom you share a spark - well, that’s even exciting! You’re not entering a long-term contract, or getting a medical procedure done, and you’re getting out of the house and doing something fun. Why not be excited about dating?
For many, however, dating doesn’t represent fun and possibilities. Instead of seeing a fresh start after a relationship that went sour, they might only see failure. Instead of seeing a myriad of possibilities, they might see a needle in a haystack. And it’s a shame, because by entering the dating world “despite themselves,” they’re setting themselves up to be less successful.
Dating might not yield a successful long-term relationship right out of the gate; however, that doesn’t mean that it’s something to dread. As you set up your first dates, ask yourself what your attitude really is, and if it can be improved. After all, who would you rather meet on a date - someone who’s excited about the possibilities in life, or someone who’s expecting to fail?
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