A Best Friend is Half the Battle
- Saturday, August 07 2010 @ 08:24 am
- Contributed by: Jet
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How many times have you heard someone say this when it comes to dating: “I'm looking for a best friend?” Maybe it's what you want as well.
There's no doubt that two people in a relationship can certainly be each other's best friends. Some might face a slight problem, though: often the very same obstacles that get in the way of meeting romantic prospects – a time-consuming job, for example – also prevent them from meeting many new friends. Oh sure, they might have friends already; old friendships that have been there for years. Let's face it, though; the kind of friendships where you only talk to each other once in awhile or see each other every few years just don't require the same amount of work as a new friendship. And so our skills get rusty.
We begin to lose out on that fine art of small talk, or the ability to pick up on non-verbal social cues like “I want to talk about something/go out again but I don't want to bring it up.” We aren't as likely to know how to “be there” for someone else, because we aren't used to fitting such things into our daily routines.
So as you're sending out your emails and awaiting responses, what can you do in the meantime? Learn to be a better friend – because a good friendship is more than half the work of a good romantic relationship. Get those social skills honed, re-learn how to meet people. Don't sit by the phone waiting to be called – throw a barbecue.
Improving your social life with ultimately improve your romantic life, but better yet, you'll benefit everything else in your life right now. There's virtually no downside to making new friends. And who knows? Maybe a new acquaintance could turn into something more.
There's no doubt that two people in a relationship can certainly be each other's best friends. Some might face a slight problem, though: often the very same obstacles that get in the way of meeting romantic prospects – a time-consuming job, for example – also prevent them from meeting many new friends. Oh sure, they might have friends already; old friendships that have been there for years. Let's face it, though; the kind of friendships where you only talk to each other once in awhile or see each other every few years just don't require the same amount of work as a new friendship. And so our skills get rusty.
We begin to lose out on that fine art of small talk, or the ability to pick up on non-verbal social cues like “I want to talk about something/go out again but I don't want to bring it up.” We aren't as likely to know how to “be there” for someone else, because we aren't used to fitting such things into our daily routines.
So as you're sending out your emails and awaiting responses, what can you do in the meantime? Learn to be a better friend – because a good friendship is more than half the work of a good romantic relationship. Get those social skills honed, re-learn how to meet people. Don't sit by the phone waiting to be called – throw a barbecue.
Improving your social life with ultimately improve your romantic life, but better yet, you'll benefit everything else in your life right now. There's virtually no downside to making new friends. And who knows? Maybe a new acquaintance could turn into something more.
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