Contributed by: kellyseal Saturday, October 15 2016 @ 09:59 am
Are you an online dating veteran, or new to the process? Regardless of your experience, it’s important to reconsider your strategy from time to time, no matter how seasoned you are with apps like Tinder or setting up a profile on Match.
We tend to approach online dating the same old way, but then we expect different results the next time around. If you really want to be successful with online dating, you have to be willing to try something new, test out different approaches, and see what works best for you. Easier said than done, but it’s true!
Following are five online dating mistakes to avoid now, if you want to see better results:
Get strategic with your pics.
Avoid posting group shots, because how do matches know which one is you? Also, avoid posing with hats and sunglasses that obscure what you look like. Definitely post a full body photo along with your headshots, or matches will think you have something to hide. And finally, don’t include grainy or pixelated shots, or pictures taken more than a year ago. Keep it current and clear for best results.
This is the number one gripe online daters have – messages and profiles with spelling and grammatical errors are a big turn-off. If you aren’t the best writer, enlist a friend’s help, or hire a service that can help you. Don’t leave your profile blank either. You are competing with a lot of others, and you want to stand out.
Be specific, not generic.
Online dating requires some degree of creativity and fun, as does dating – otherwise, what’s the point? You’re not writing a resume for a job interview, so don’t be stuffy because you’re scared of what matches will think. Instead, try to engage. Instead of saying you like to travel, talk about your last trip and what you enjoyed about it. It will strike up a conversation.
Say who you are, not just what you want.
This is a common mistake. Many online daters get frustrated with some of their dates, so they write a laundry list of what they don’t want, or exactly what they are looking for in great detail. This is a turn-off, because matches will view you as extremely picky, and fear not being able to live up to your standards. Instead, talk about who you are, your background, your interests in order to share a little about you.
Keep it positive.
Some online daters like to list everything they don’t want, including talking about their exes and the horrible issues they faced. This is a red flag to their matches. Who wants to go out with someone who is waiting for something to go wrong? Instead of focusing on your pain points, try to focus on what you want to cultivate. Focus on your passions and interests. Like attracts like, so if you want a happier experience this time around, you have to bring some happiness to the dating table yourself.