Contributed by: Anonymous Sunday, May 06 2007 @ 06:49 am
Online dating is generally very safe due to the distance between members. There is no physical contact or even having to sit in the same room, so due to this getting to know someone online is safe.
When getting to know members online you should still follow basic safety rules before you ever give out personal information to another member or arrange to meet.
When getting to know somebody online always keep your wits about you, you do not have to rush, you can take plenty of time to get to know someone, but always beware that you cannot take everything at face value. Sometimes, some things are not always as they appear, which is why you should take time to get to know someone. There are many genuine people around but as there are anywhere, whether in a pub or bar, there is always one or two who are not as they appear.
Here are a few things to remember when getting to know someone on an online dating site, and long before you ever plan to give out personal information or plan to meet.
- Initially, never give out personal information about yourself.
- Don't take everything at face value.
- Ask lots of questions.
- Take your time when getting to know someone online, don't rush things, take plenty of time to get to know as much about someone as possible.
- Watch out for the red herons, the things that dont seem to add up, or contradictions, this may mean that the person you are chatting to is providing you information that might not be a true reflection of themselves.
- Make sure you feel comfortable, and if someone makes you slightly uncomfortable, think twice about continuing your conversation.
If someone is abusive to you, block them and report them to the online dating administrator.
- Don't allow a member to talk you into anything, even if they are very convincing and come across as very genuine and honest. Make sure you are in charge, you do things when you are ready.
- Before considering a date with an online member, make sure you know as much as possible. If you are unsure and need to know more, wait until you have enough information.
- Remember when chatting online, any genuine person will always be happy to wait until you are ready to progress things.
- Make sure you see plenty of photos of the person, so that you are fully aware of their appearance.
If you feel you want to progress from the online dating and chatting, chat on the telephone first and get to know more this way before meeting.
When deciding to meet in person there are still rules to follow, and these go to the same for anyone who is meeting someone for the first time. So this advice also goes to people who have met someone for the first time anywhere, whether in a bar, pub or club, and decides to meet someone for the first time alone with this person.
- Always meet in a public place that is well known to you.
- Always let someone know where you are and where you are going and who you are meeting.
- Consider making a call to a friends during the date of after the date to let friends know that you are fine.
- Consider a lunchtime meeting in a public place during the day.
- Make your own travel arrangements on a date, do not allow your date to drive you home.
- If you are travelling considerable distance to meet someone, make sure you have made accommodation arrangements, do not allow your date to put you up.
- Keep your first date fairly brief, so that you have a time limit allowing you a safe 'exit' point.
- Take a friends and maybe suggest meeting with as a group for the first date so that you are in the company of friends.
It may seem odd to have such rules, but at the end of the day you are meeting a complete stranger, and the information you have about a person may not be accurate. Meeting someone for the first time can be fun, and we don't want to spoil your fun, however we just want to ensure that you keep an open mind and keep your wits about you. Keep a level head and be sensible. Safety comes first and there is plenty of time to get to know someone, remember, you don't have to rush. Take your time.
If you have any further advice which you would like to give, then please don't hesitate to post a comment.