Contributed by: EFoley on Thursday, September 03 2009 @ 03:56 pm
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I had a client come to me recently with a very boring profile. His profile said absolutely nothing. In his initial email to me he said, "This online dating thing sucks! I'm not getting any results!" When I checked his profile, the story told itself. Or rather, it didn't.
When I asked him about his profile, he said that he just didn't know what to say about himself. Moreover, he was worried about tooting his own horn or seeming like he was full of himself. He was a nice guy, he said, and this lack of results he was seeing was obviously because women only like jerks and he was destined to end last.
As nice dating coaches do, I talked him down and then we began to chat about him, his job, his hobbies and interests, and the type of woman he was interested in attracting. Turns out, he had a lot of great things about him that hadn't made his original profile. He had a fascinating job, volunteered for several local groups, and was a talented classical pianist who played dinner parties and weddings every weekend. He was really a catch, but none of this was in his profile.
When I rewrote his profile to include these things, he was shocked. "This is me... but... it's like... I would date me now!" he stammered. "How did you do it?"
"It's easy," I grinned. "I don't have your self-consciousness."
As a dating profile writer, my job is to write a profile that best markets you to the type of people you're interested in dating. I promote your best points and make you sound great!
When you write your own profile, you need to step back a bit out of yourself. See yourself as a marketer sees a product - what do you bring to the table that's interesting, cool, or unique? Don't be afraid to write about yourself and toot your horn a little bit - as long as it's true, it's worth including in your profile!