Contributed by: Jet on Thursday, September 01 2011 @ 07:21 am
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Let’s face it: for most of us, not every night is an exciting night on the town or an adventure. Not even every weekend is. It’s easy to stay in with a movie, or to develop a routine where you meet friends for pizza. And there’s nothing wrong with that - until it’s time to create an online dating profile. Then, for some, the sections that ask about your weekends, what you like to do on dates, or for fun become problematic. What do you say about dating if this is the first time you’ve attempted dating in years - or ever? Do you lie about your weekends if the truth sounds less than exciting?
In short, you don’t need to lie outright, but that doesn’t mean you can’t use your imagination. Think about what you’ve always wanted to do on a date, be it go to a Renaissance Faire, try indoor skydiving or picnic in the park. It’s okay to think outside the box here!
Next, work your ideas into your profile, but don’t lie. Don’t say you’ve been indoor skydiving if you haven’t; instead, say, “I’ve always been interested in trying indoor skydiving, but I don’t know anyone brave enough to go with me.” Or, maybe in the section where you talk about who you’re looking for, you could say, “I’m looking for someone who’s not afraid to try indoor skydiving.” All of these are completely accurate, and you’ve gotten across your fun-loving side without telling one single falsehood.
But what about when you’re asked to describe how your weekends currently go? Well, it’s okay to be honest here, unless the truth is really depressing, like, “I play old records and cry.” Instead, say that you’ve “gotten into a routine” where you “stay in” - but that you’re always interested in breaking out of your rut. You could even ask for recommendations outright in your profile - then the reader has something they can easily talk about in their first-contact email.
It’s easy to show that you’re open to fun even when there’s little fun currently in your life; just make sure you’re honest about the kind of fun you want. Don’t talk about indoor skydiving if the prospect terrifies you, and don’t say you’re interested in the new club that opened up last month if a club is the last place you’d want to be. Not only are you setting yourself up for awkward conversations or a miserable night out, you’re probably only going to attract people who aren’t compatible with you. Be honest - but it’s okay to use your imagination, too!