Contributed by: Jet on Saturday, April 13 2013 @ 10:27 am
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One of the most well-known features of online dating websites is the ability to find someone with a common interest - so when you join a site and still can’t find someone who shares your passion, it can be particularly frustrating. Still, that doesn’t mean there’s not someone compatible out there - even someone who might appreciate what you do! The key is to think a little outside the box.
First, try thinking of interests that are complementary. For example, maybe you’re a zombie makeup artist on the weekends. That’s pretty darn specific, but someone who designs and sews their own movie replica costumes to wear to conventions might appreciate the art. Or maybe try emailing the aspiring actor who enjoys participating in weekend zombie walks. Even if you don’t fit into the same exact niche, you’ll likely have much to talk about.
Sometimes you have to think even more broadly. As another example, perhaps you’re a stamp collector, and there just aren’t that many stamp collectors in your neck of the woods. There might not even be that many people who collect anything similar. But someone interested in history or archaeology might appreciate the questing involved. Someone who makes model sets or jewelry might appreciate the attention to detail. At first glance your interests might not seem compatible at all, but that doesn’t mean they don’t require similar personalities.
Because remember: just because you don’t share the same exact interests doesn’t mean you can’t get along like a house on fire. Often just the fact that you’re passionate about something, that something lights you up and relaxes you, can be attractive. Most people would rather hear about something you love than something you dislike or don’t care about. And remember that your date will have their own set of interests, too; learning more about each other and what you each love can be more fascinating than simply comparing notes on a common interest.
Yes, it’s good to have something to talk about; however that doesn’t mean that you have to share all the same interests, or even the same opinions. Even if you feel defined by a certain hobby, that doesn’t mean that’s the only way you can relate to someone else. It can be frustrating when your searches don’t turn up with much - but you just might find yourself connecting with someone on a new, deeper level.