Contributed by: kellyseal on Wednesday, November 16 2011 @ 09:20 am
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Now that we've dished on the girls...there are some hard and fast rules guys should follow too when it comes to texting women. If you're interested in someone, how you approach her over text is as important as how you approach her in person. So, tread carefully and thoughtfully before pressing "send."
Some tips to remember the next time you text:
Don't ask a woman out for the first time over text. I know this is popular, especially among twenty-somethings. But this doesn't make the best impression. Often, a woman doesn't know if you're really interested in her, wanting to hang out as a friend, or just wanting sex. A text implies that it could be any of these things, which means she may or may not agree. If you break the ice with a phone call instead, you leave a much better impression.
Don't send her pictures of your junk. Really guys? Do you think when women are single and looking to date that they automatically want to see so much of you? Women still like to feel courted, not pushed. There's no romance in sending revealing pics after a first date, and that's not how you get most women to respond to you. Try the classy route and ask her out again. See if it leads to more.
Flirt, but don't be nasty. It's easy and fun to flirt over text. You can be suggestive and creative, and it helps to keep you connected to your love interest. However, there is a fine line between flirtatious and aggressive. If you just met her, maintain decorum until you get to know her better. There's no need to push the envelope right away, because most women are turned off by too much suggestion.
Don't wait three days to respond to her text. If you're busy with work, let her know. If you're not interested, let her know. There's nothing more dismissive than not responding to a text, so please respond in a timely matter, if only to say "thanks but no thanks." At least she knows where she stands.
Don't be boring. It's easy to keep sending texts like, "hey what's up?" but these are conversation killers. Be a little more creative in your texts. Ask her out on a real date. Tell her something funny. Try to engage her instead of just leaving things so open. You'll get better results in the long run.