Contributed by: kellyseal on Sunday, May 16 2010 @ 05:11 pm
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If you are overwhelmed by the amount of time you need to invest to effectively online date, there may be a solution.
Virtualdatingassistants.com and Doneforyoudating.com are two companies that offer assistance if you are just too busy to look for love on your own. They help craft your profile, surf different dating websites to look for matches, check matching profiles, and can even communicate on your behalf.
While I'm a fan of technology that can make things easier for the average dater to meet new people, I'm skeptical when it involves too much automation. We all bring our own unique personalities and attributes to the table when we date...and we are looking for a connection to another person. But can this be done with the help of a virtual assistant?
I understand that many people don't have time to get the most out of their online dating experience. Emails and matches go without response or notice for days or even weeks at a time. We've all gotten busy and let things go, and this means we may be missing out on meeting people who might be well suited to us.
In this respect, I think virtual dating assistants are helpful. They can assist you with your own search, provided you give them accurate guidelines of what you are really looking for. Most services only make you pay for the matches you approve.
The problem comes with the communication. I still feel it's best to craft your own emails, because your ability to attract the right people is dependent on your unique personality. When you use a virtual dating assistant, the service can produce great writing but it will be too generic to convey the real you. In this way, you could miss out on those people who didn't get a sense of who you really are from your email communication.
Bottom line? Online dating assistants can be helpful for daters with busy schedules, and offer a cheaper alternative to personal matchmaking. But you could be missing out on meeting a lot of great people, just because you aren't fully involved in the actual search process.
If you join an online dating site and have the time to go on dates, make the time to get to know your matches from the beginning. Don't have a service do your communicating for you.