Contributed by: ElyseRomano on Sunday, July 25 2010 @ 08:15 am
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The Internet is a powerful tool for connecting people across the globe, but in the wrong hands the convenience and anonymity of the Web transform it into a haven for dishonest users looking to take advantage of others.
Before embarking on an online dating adventure, it's vital that you understand how to protect yourself. Abide by the following 5 rules to stay safe in cyberspace and have a drama-free dating life:
1) Open an email account that is used specifically for online dating communication and nothing else. You might be surprised by how much personal information can be gathered about you from your email address. Your full name might appear in the address itself, or in the "From" field when an email is received. A work address tells the recipient where you are employed, and a digital signature that is automatically included at the end of every message could divulge more information than you are comfortable revealing.
2) Don't rely on the site to protect you. Many dating sites claim that all members must undergo mandatory background checks and tests to confirm that they are, in fact, single. Services like these might sound safer than their counterparts, but the reality is that laws differ from state-to-state when it comes to background checks, rendering them practically ineffective in some locations. Never let your guard down because you think deceitful people are prevented from joining a dating site.
3) Don't share personal information too soon. Create a username that doesn't reveal too many details about who you are, and keep identifying information out of your profile and messages. Don't be in a hurry to share things like your full name, workplace, phone number, and address.
4) Watch for warning signs. It's best to steer clear of people who:
a. Refuse to speak with you on the phone.
b. Offer inconsistent information about details like their marital status, career, employment, and education.
c. Avoid giving direct answers to questions.
d. Pressure you to meet them in person more quickly than you are comfortable with.
5) Always be aware of your safety when taking your relationship offline. Do not accept an offer to be picked up at your home or place of work. Let a friend know where you are going and who you are going with. Meet your date in a public place you are familiar with and can easily leave if you need to. If you have to travel a long distance to meet your date, do not stay with him or her. Book a hotel and do not mention its name.
Above all, trust your gut instincts. Take things at your own pace and never allow someone to talk you into doing something you don't want to do. Always act in ways that feel right to you, even when you think you're being paranoid. It's tempting to succumb to the feelings of instant connection online dating provides, but proceed with caution in all situations and only move forward with a relationship when you feel completely safe.