Contributed by: kellyseal on Thursday, September 30 2010 @ 09:19 am
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More singles than ever before are divorced parents. If you want to increase your choices in the dating pool but have no children yourself, should you be open to dating them?
This is an important topic. When you are in a relationship with someone who has children, you are also entering a relationship with their children. They aren't mutually exclusive. So, there are a few things to ask yourself before you get in too deep:
Do I want to be serious with this person? Don't ask to be introduced to your date's children if you aren't sure where the relationship is headed. Children of divorce have enough instability in their lives; don't add to it. Wait until you are ready and feel committed before forming a relationship with the children.
Am I willing to be flexible? Having children is all about flexibility. Schedules change, children require attention, and they need their parents in many situations. If you find yourself constantly disappointed or frustrated because your plans change, this may not be the best situation for you.
Do I want to form a relationship with my date's kids? Ask yourself if you are willing to get to know the kids, to take them out, to have some fun as a family. Forming individual relationships with them is as important as with your partner.
Am I willing to let the children come first? Children require attention from their parents, and often significant others are put on the back burner. The key is flexibility and good communication. Allow your partner to be a good parent, and then they are able to be a good partner to you.